I know this may sound sick, I have been with the same woman for 37 years, no other ever, I need to experience what I have missed, it may only bee a touch or two but I need to find out. I love my wife but I have this need and dont know how to fill it other than trying to find someone who understands and is willing to help. if nothing else maybe a few words of encouragment. I am lost and have been for a couple of years.
2006-12-30 13:08:34 · 6 answers · asked by stars 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think that alot of men go through this after being married for so long. You said that you love your wife and that is a very important factor here. You should NOT sneak around on her, she does not deserve that. Maybe you should talk to her about trying new things in the bedroom to add a little spice to your sex life. Don't give into temptation, its not worth destroying your marriage.
2006-12-30 13:15:00 · answer #1 · answered by Lacey C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you've gotten a couple of mean answers. It is no surprise that after 37 years and never having any other experience that you'd wonder what else is out there. Is it possible that your wife might have similar thoughts but is afraid to say so, too? Have you broached the subject with her at all - even gently? Is she kind to you? Is your sex life fulfilling? I (obviously) don't need answers to these questions, but they are things that you may want to ask yourself. I'm the child (grown up, of course) of a couple of shrinks, and I know not everyone sees it this way, but I find therapy very grounding when my life seems problematic or when I feel like I'm in a terrible rut. There's nothing shameful about it, but you might get some needed release and objective viewpoints from therapy. Also, you've posted under gay and lesbian - are you feeling attracted to men or is that just an error in the post. My answer is still the same - I think that you should consider therapy. If you feel you may be gay, do a web search for your city for psychologists or therapists that deal with gays. If not, any marriage & family therapist that you feel good about should help. Really, the perspective that you can sometimes get is awesome. Cheating on your wife will likely just lead to more unhappiness on both of your parts - and more feeling of conflict on yours. Also, the guilt will eat you up along with the fear of the other risks associated. Life is too short to just stay unhappy! I really, really wish you GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-30 22:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it does sound sick but not abnormal. Don't do it unless you hate your wife and want her to leave you. You haven't missed anything except maybe AIDS, herpes, syphillis, breaking your wife' s heart, ruining your life etc.. You need to figure out why you are feeling this way, It's probably a mid-life crisis. Go buy a sportscar and get over yourself.
2006-12-30 21:17:50 · answer #3 · answered by bella 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do your wife a favor and divorce her, then you can go out and do what ever you want to. I think it is real sad that you feel that way especially after 37 years
2006-12-30 21:28:55 · answer #4 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2006-12-31 00:02:32 · answer #5 · answered by Puños 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
are you shure you want to risk your marrage at this time in your life?
2007-01-02 22:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by chrissy TS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋