hey..
ive known this guy for about 2yrs now but his a different race 2 wat i am. as my parents found out about it and said they would never accept it. i made a wrong desicion and broke up with him to make my parents happy. ive tryed to move on but its just not working out as im stil thinking of him and i believe that he is the 1 for me. its a long story but ive cut it short and said briefy of whats happened. what would you do if u was in my situation?
2006-12-30 12:59:14 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
"i misunder stood"did you cut his penis off
GOD your parents only wish
OMG do it
2006-12-30 13:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by Doctor_Ashley_proctologist 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Contact him and see if he is having the same pain as you. If he is then meet up and see if you can work things out between you both.
Respect is a 2 way street with parents and children and you have obviously been raised to respect them and there wishes. However, they also raised you to be your own person and to make the right choices for yourself. They should be proud of you and support you.
Okay in the real world this does not always happen as in your case. The consequences of breaking up for your parents has made you miserable and unhappy, you must follow your heart.
Different race only means that and if your parents have raised you in a country with different races there was never any guarantee you would stay within your birth race when it came to choosing a partner.
Talk to him, talk to your parents and let them know the pain you have been carrying around because you followed their wishes. Surely they must want you to be happy first and foremost? Follow your heart in this matter happiness in todays world can be so very short lived we have to grasp it with both hands and hold on tight.
I will hold you in my thoughts that it will work out for you.
2006-12-30 13:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by sag_kat2chat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have never done that..First and foremost you should have let your parents know that you like this guy and they need to check him out also.And as far as race..When are people going to WAKE UP..True happiness dosen't come from someone else it comes first from you.If you can contact the guy let him know the situation then let your parents know that it's your life let you live it.It if causes a lot of drama between you and your parents let it just work it own self out.And by the way if your a youngster somtimes your parents can be a little overbearing at times but they do know what is best for you.If it is about his race then they need to be SCHOOL'ed On Race Relations.....Good Luck
2006-12-30 13:11:39 · answer #3 · answered by gblue52 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old you are and what kind of relationship you have with your parents. I was in a bi-racial relationship for about 6 months (me white, him black) and my family accepted him but I knew they would "prefer" our own race though they never said it. He was actually more concerned with what his family thought and said they would never accept me (they are from Nigeria and still live there) So to answer your question, you have to go with your heart. You have to remember that racisim is so embedded in our parents/grandparents etc.. that some find it very difficult to break away from that. They should be happy that they raised a daughter who is not a racisit. Watch "Guess who's coming to dinner" and it will make you feel pretty good.
2006-12-30 13:05:33 · answer #4 · answered by bella 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. Don't let anyone tell you what to do with your own life. I am in a similar situation, but it is my dad and step mom that has the problem with him. I too broke up my man for them, but soon realized that it was not worth making myself miserable to make someone else happy. So, I called him up and we got back together, now we have been together for almost 5 years, married for almost 2 and I have never been happier. Except for the fact that my Dad and I don't speak, but I have made attempts to contact him, and it seems to me like he doesn't want anything to do with me and it breaks my heart everyday. But maybe your parents will not treat you like mine did because if you are as important to them as you should be, they should respect your decisions. E-mail me if you want to talk about it more. I would be more than happy to lend an ear!
2006-12-30 13:10:35 · answer #5 · answered by melody g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people go through life and never meet that special "ONE" If this guy is your "ONE" then you have to shake off the shackles and go for it. My father disowned me when I left home and moved in with a guy. He refused to see me or my son when he was born, then there was a chance meeting in the street when my son was 1 year old. My father tried to walk past without acknowledging us but he made the mistake of looking at my sons lovely little chubby caramel coloured cheeks and his heart melted.
My point is: Your parents may feel strongly, but you are their flesh and blood and when they see you happy or if you have kids with this guy, they see their grandchildren... all the hatred will seem so petty.
Go for it. Love sees no colour.
2006-12-30 13:12:01 · answer #6 · answered by THE BULB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all your parents should have looked at him not what was on the outside but what was on the inside and they should of gave him a chance but then you shouldn't have broke up with him just to make your parents happy because if you really liked him then it shouldn't have mattered what your parents said.. If i was in your situation i would try and get him back instead of trying to move on, becuase if you think he is the right one for you then you shouldn't try to forget about him but try to get him back.
2006-12-30 13:06:40 · answer #7 · answered by gayle d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off im glad you mentioned that you have made the wrong decision. number one, if you love this man,no matter what race he is go get him. i know your parents wont accept him,but if he makes you happy then do what you think is right. you may live your life forever with this regert and that is not a good thing. thats on thing that i do not like,Fmily trying to get into my personal life. im currently in a relationship with a guy he is of a different race , my uncle keeps telling me that he's going to do the same thing to me that his foreparents did to our past generation. but i dont let that stop because i know the man that he is ,and i know he would never do something like that. this is a very sensative topic, and to see that you love someone but because of a different race your parents wont accept him is just ridiculous. your parents are already happily married and have who they have chosen to live the rest of their lives with. now it's your turn. do not let your mom and dad stop you from loving the man that means the most to you. if i were in your position i would have never broken it off with him. never. because they would have to learn to accept him or do without me. this is sad. but you have done the wrong thing. i really do hope it's not too late to get him back. in the bible it says honour your mother and father. but where does it say that parents should honour their blessings from god which are us. nowhere. go get him girl. you ahve found true love, go get him. from what you have said it sounds like love.
2006-12-30 13:15:58 · answer #8 · answered by kelly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sod the parents, they have no right to tell you who you can be with no matter what race you are!!!! if my parents could not accept it then i would leave them too it and follow my heart, i can sure as hell tell you that it would be the guy i was seeing espically if he was the 1 for me. Explain to your parents do they really want to lose you, coz that would happen to mine if they started to get into my realtionship.
FOLLOW YOUR HEART!! i know you dont want to upset your parents but would you rather be upset and regret what you did for the rest off your life by not going back to this guy that so really love?
2006-12-30 13:14:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I married out of my race and I was married for 12 yrs. I'm white. I have 3 gorgeous mixed race kids (half chinese).
I know my family would have prefered me to stay 'within my race', but at the end of the day, its my life.
Go with your heart sweetie. If you both love each other, then nothing should come between you, not even your family. You're family might come round to the idea eventually, on the other hand, they might not. But its your decision to make, not theirs.
2006-12-30 13:13:41 · answer #10 · answered by sel2k00 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart and be in love and as for your parents they need to learn to live with it or go be racist somewhere else. As a parent I dont care if my children go out with a blue and green space man as long as he treats them ok and my daughters are happy. And if your parents love you then I would hope they would only want the best for you. Life is too short to carry on about colour and pettiness.
God bless and please follow your heart - its better to have loved and loss than to have not loved at all.
2006-12-30 18:46:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋