I have suffered emotional abuse from my husband for almost 2 years. We have a baby now and I just want to be free and happpy to raise him on my own. Spiritually, is it wrong for me to get the process going? I found a really good lawyer.
2006-12-30 12:56:28 · 24 answers · asked by Skypride 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok...I know that spiritually it is not looked upon as a good thing to divorce but if you have found a good lawyer....get out and save yourself and your child!! If you need a place to go in the meantime, there are places that you can seek shelter until you can secure a place for yourself. That's what they are there for!!!
Emotional abuse is just that ABUSE!!! GOD does NOT CONDONE ABUSE OF ANY KIND! Your husband will answer for that! Abuse is something that you will also have to heal from and you need to save your child from. If your baby is a girl, you don't want her to think that living through that is what is normal. If your baby is a boy, you don't want him to learn that this type of behavior is the way he is supposed to treat his wife!
You want better for yourself and your child! PACK YOUR BAGS AND WALK OUT!!! ABUSE IS NOT THE LEGACY THAT YOU WANT TO LEAVE IN THIS LIFE!!!
If you allow this to continue, it will only get worse. Seldom does the abuse just stop....not without your husband getting some serious help and I don't think he will get that help without you suffering much more.
SO get your lawyer to start proceedings. If you decide down the line that you want something else, then so be it...but as for your peace of mind now....DO WHAT YOU MUST FOR YOU!!!
GOOD LUCK and GOD BLESS!!!
2006-12-30 13:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by Kokomira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spiritually speaking....
If your husband is being abusive, I can't help believing that he has already emotionally divorced you. God doesn't want or expect you to stay with someone who is hurting you. Just make sure that you've tried your best, sought counseling with or without him, so that once you've left, you know you really gave it every chance and did your level best. If you've tried everything, then GOD knows that. Leave on the best grounds possible, no hatefulness. He is, after all, the father of your child. Be good, be kind, and make a new start with no regrets.
My heart really goes out to you.
2006-12-30 21:07:04 · answer #2 · answered by Sid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!!! NO and NO!!!
It's wrong for you to sit and wait for him to do it. He has abused you for too long already dont let him control any part of your disicisions. You have a child to think about, this man the father of this child can take this child untill you have an order from the court. FILE!!! If he know's that taking the child from you would hurt you he could just try that. Save yourself the trouble go protect yourself and your child. I hope that you dont have a battle with this man for the child, please rember that this is your childs father and regardless of what has happened he will always remain this childs father and he dose have rights. But I am not here for him. You need to pull any and all police reports of the abuse. Take them to your lawyer and talk to him/her be honest with them you dont want them to have any supprises later if this goes to court. But file protect yourself and your child.
Good luck during this hard time in your life, you will be in my prayers.
2006-12-30 21:29:33 · answer #3 · answered by ohdarnitsmeagain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have taken emotional abuse for two years? And what has come of it? He's not any different and you are still putting up with it.
Think of your baby's life and yours. How about you get on with that divorce for the sake of peace in your lives.
Also, Patricia Evans wrote a great book about Verbal Abuse and I suggest you find it at your local library or bookstore.
2006-12-30 21:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spiritually speaking only you and your Higher power can dtermine what you feel is wrong. If he is emotioanlly absuing you then you have every right to leave. Be positive that you know what you want and don't play games. If your ready then you've already spoken to an attorney. Get the ball rolling and get yourself into some counseling to help you through it. DOn't think he doesn't know how to get back in your heart.
2006-12-30 21:00:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to admit it but I know where you are coming from, my husband can be VERY verbally abusive to me and our Children. I have done some major soul searching and decided to seek counseling for us, it has helped. I also decided that if I felt I needed to file for divorce that I would do it for the right reasons and that God would understand. I wish you all the best.
2006-12-30 21:12:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, no its not wrong you must do the right thing. For you're child and for yourself, you dont need to be put up with the abuse get far away as possible after the divorce. Good luck.
2006-12-30 21:06:13 · answer #7 · answered by janelle w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's best for you to file the divorce, then you can ask for what you want, the woman is usually the one that files for the divorce.That is great you found a good atty. You can ask for whatever you want , good child support and for him to pay for all the divorce cost. Hit him first before he knows what is going on, because you have good grounds for a divorce.
Best Of Luck To You and Your Future.
2006-12-30 21:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to take abuse for anyone. Respect should go both ways.
Remember we are our children role model. They learn what they see.
It not wrong to start the process. Go in prayer and talk with God about this. He is the only one that will give the answer.
I will be praying for you.
2006-12-30 21:15:19 · answer #9 · answered by GOD IS LOVE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heres a question back at you? have you tried everything ? couceling? are you really over him? i say if he abuses you and you cant take it anymore then leave him. he wasnt thinking of you when he abuses you, why should you think of him now. your child should not be exposed to this abuse, right? spiritually he will be all wrong in the head if you continue to have this guy around. who cares who starts the proceedings first as long as they get done,right?
2006-12-30 21:04:24 · answer #10 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋