im not a very close person. im very approachable, but sometimes i can be so shy and i am not able to communicate. sometimes i cant look ppl in the eye and i dont know why. other times, i have no problem. what can i do to stop this cuz i hate it. also, i have sad eyes so ppl always ask me if somethings wrong with me. nothing's ever wrong, but i always look sorta sad. is there a way to bring out my sad eyes so i can look happier.
2006-12-30 12:45:28 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
dont worry about it. just be yourself. pretend that those ppl are closer to you than they really are. good luck.
2006-12-30 12:49:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Actually, that sounds very familiar to me. I tend to have those sad eyes, and people remark on that all the time, as well as mistake my emotions from what I am actually feeling to something utterly and totally different and incorrect.
I think that is just the curse of us more interpersonal people who aren't so easy to read. And you know what? I'd rather be that than an open book with a dumb grin.
I also think that the level of confidence and the "shyness" depends on the mood that particular moment or day.Remember one thing, the way you present yourself is the way people will see you NO Matter WHAT. That's the strange truth.
And for all the other time, so what? let them think. For someone who will get to know you deeper than anyone else it will be a blessing to be able to be the only one to see through you.
2006-12-30 12:53:04 · answer #2 · answered by London 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like what Imagine said. I am the same way as you both. A lot of people told me that my personality is not healthy (because I don't want to be super-social), but I found that it is actually healthier for me to accept it and be happy with it. You will probably never completely change this about yourself, but you can take classes (often free) that help you learn how to communicate and make/keep friends. Check out your communities websites to see what they may have.
2006-12-30 13:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by KS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be extremely self~conscious of when u are in the company u any one they will reflect your facile identity, notice that if i ask u to smile at someone and in your mind u want this recognition returned by the other person most of the time it is, so here is the test of your face when you approach some one be the first to smile and see if this works so u have the positive affirmation that you are requesting here
2006-12-30 13:31:31 · answer #4 · answered by bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So has someone hurt you in the past so that you are sad and not approachable and shy? Happy and confident on the inside make happy and confident on the outside. What's going on?
2006-12-30 12:50:58 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just be happy and look for people to talk to, thats y this is cool because you can communicate with people you don't know but at the same time your learning to communicate with people
2006-12-30 12:48:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
stop being so self-conscious and insecure. be the you you are with your fam and friends.
2006-12-30 12:47:54 · answer #7 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋