I have always had bad relationship with people whether friends or girlfriend, they always cheat on , betrayed me and hurt me in the end ....I got disapointed everytime ...Some I am unable to have close friends now, I was very selective, and now that I have got out of a bad relationship , I have difficulty trust people even more ...especially women ...What should I do to return to normal again? will I heal from that ?
2006-12-30 12:18:05 · 12 answers · asked by bobby s 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You ask the right question How can I. Well you can but this time let the people come to you so that you can judge if theya re right never let yourself go straight way let them earn your friendship. Good luck. It will turn out alright for you watch and see.
One thing never tell another how badly you have been treated.
2006-12-30 12:20:48 · answer #1 · answered by sarell 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm having the same problem. I've been screwed over so many times I've lost count. All you can do is take the chance that maybe you've gotten smarter in your selection and won't fall for the same thing twice. I've recently decided that in order to trust anyone with my heart again they'll have to be really special. I'm not wasting any more of my life on anyone who isn't honest or trustworthy. Try to go with your instincts about people when you first meet them. Usually, if you look back on relationships that didn't work you'll remember a moment when you should've been alert to a definite flaw and let it slide for the possibility that you may be wrong about it. Assume you're right next time and get out early. It hurts a lot less that way. Good luck.
2006-12-30 12:25:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have just learned a key value in life. You can trust everyone and yet no one. What do I mean? Everybody is human. People make mistakes. All you can do is trust them and run the risk of getting hurt. When you enter a relationship, you;re basically offering them your heart...to do what the want with it. Now they can cherish your love or they can take your heart, throw it on the ground and step on it. THAT is what you risk every time you're in a relationship. Is it worth it? YES because there is actually people out there who will cherish your friendship and/or love. The problem is you don't know who they are until you try. TRUST? you can never trust anyone 100% not even yourself. There will be people you can trust with your life and not your money and there are others you could trust if you asked them to hold....say, a million dollars but you know they wouldn't take a bullet for you. You will never "heal" completely, nor do you want to. Because it's that fresh blood that keeps you on your toes.
2006-12-30 12:29:04 · answer #3 · answered by qbanruben357 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you are coming from, because I have been hurt and lied to before too. I ususally trust someone until they give me a reason not too. Sometimes you need to have faith in someone and believe they won't betray you in the end. I know it's hard to do, especially if you have been hurt by them before. Yes, I believe you will heal. It may take awhile though. It may take a few months, or a year to feel back to normal again, but you will. When you finally feel like your returning to normal again and as the days go by you won't hardly even think about the people who hurt and betrayed you. I believe as the saying goes "Time heals all wounds." It may take awhile, but you will meet someone you can trust again someday. If you ever need to talk about anything you can always talk to me. I hope you feel better about things soon.
2006-12-30 12:30:41 · answer #4 · answered by Apy S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look to other people to make you happy. You have to be happy with yourself first. Whether it is your trust in God, or trust in your inner self that gives you peace, start there. You will find that when you change, you will attract different kinds of people to yourself. You can't change the way people are, but you are in full control of how you react to situations. A good relationship will take time to build. Caution is good, but don't close yourself off to people. You will heal from your hurt if you don't hang on to it. Let your hurt go and move on. It's a hard thing to do, but don't let yourself get stuck in the victim role. You need to remember that the world isn't filled with people who are out to hurt you. Expand your interests and meet different kinds of people. Make a change in your life and do what makes your heart sing. You will find someone that will share your song. Peace
2006-12-30 12:56:14 · answer #5 · answered by kalliope 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By experience, a person passed a lot of deceptions and dissapointings through his life; the important thing is learn from each experience. That leads you to a sucessful relationship when the real person that will fill your life made the appereance. I got dissapointed some times including with the father of my girl that abandon me 1 week before our wedding. That was a terrible moment, but I learn that I have the strength to keep going and God has that person waiting for me, I was just being distracted. Now I'm happily maried.
2006-12-30 12:26:04 · answer #6 · answered by Leslita with love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so which you will enable her win and get the main suitable of ya, huh? That sucks. i'm chuffed my SO who had an analogous approach 4 years in the past desperate to take a guess and have confidence me instead of projecting his hatred for his money grubbing cheating ex onto me. you won't be able to color ALL women with an analogous vast brush. no longer all persons are self serving gold digging vindictive bitches. some persons unquestionably care. the way I see it, you could lead an entire life of solitude whilst your ex is going on together with her existence or you could choose for to choose each and every lady you meet in my view and doubtless, in time after your wounds are healed, open as much as and have confidence somebody lower back.
2016-10-06 05:46:53 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we meet bad people first to recognize the good ones. Just remembered the good things not the bad things in any of this relationship you had from the past, from there you can start building a new one.
2006-12-30 13:23:49 · answer #8 · answered by linda c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to forgive those who hurt you, and go on with life. If you never trust again and love again, then there would be no meaning to life for you. Don't self destruct. Life is good. It is what you make of it, with God's help.
2006-12-30 12:22:03 · answer #9 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ive thought you have learn by now,trusting does not mean closing your eyes and your mind,dont give it your all,hold back
2006-12-30 12:24:15 · answer #10 · answered by siaosi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋