How can I change as a person and stop being oversensitive?

Question

I mean just generally

and emotionally

Answer 1

I have the same problem too!
Try to find the roots of the problem. Lately I discovered that the reason I'm so sensitive is because I expect all people to like me; and that is because I'm more proud than I need to be-that's what happens when you're spoilt and an only child i.e you expect to be the main focus of attention... Anyway, to resume my point, how feasible it is for every person we meet to treat us with kindness and respect? We're not that special to them as to our friends and family. Take the situation as it is. People are like that to anyone; not just you and me. As someone else has very correctly put it: "Don't take things personally". Good luck!

Answer 2

Realise that if you weren't that way you would have one hell of a better life, you'd have more fun! I used to be soooo sensitive and that didn't get me anywhere. You just have to have a fun time and stop worrying about people, loads of people are jerks and not everybody likes everybody else. I have this from 2 perspectives, I had a crappy, miserable life being oversensitive. I also have a friend who is and she is constantly looking for reassurance, she's as thin as a tooth pick and so attractive but she keeps saying she's fat and ugly after a while it gets a bit boring and not many people enjoy spending time with her because of it. She's like it because some people have been mean in the past, but everyone has had that! I know it's harsh but that's what made me change!

Answer 3

Firstly people don't change much, besides their 4major personality changes thoughout their life, ending in their 30's
Sounds like you have a flirtatious girlfriend and your oversensative towards other advances or her advances.
Tough one!
She's probably an attention seeker, best you can or could do is to (When sober and with a clear head) Tell her that you don't like or approve of something! That lets her at least know that it bothers you! If you let or allow it to carry on it will come out but probably in an explotion and all wrong!
Confront the problem or live with it
About being over sensative, try think of the world as a planet, we are but soles spending a few years in a body that we chose to be in.... It kinda puts a different prospect / outlook on life!

We not here for a long time.....

So best we make it a good time....

Above all........

Keep your chin up... :o)

And chill a bit....

Answer 4

By getting to know yourself better and being totally honest with yourself. Be prepared to question what you previously would defend.
By that I mean, if someone insults you, instead of feeling bad, ask yourself.."Do they actually have a valid point?" Explore what others say to you. This is the only way to self improve... by actually listening to the negatives and acting upon them to make yourself a better person. When you feel insulted, ask the person "Is that how I come across?" "How do you think I can work on that?" By doing that you're changing from passive (accepting the insult and internalising it) to assertive (taking the insult and using it as the start of a learning curve). You are taking control of your life. Just by being more assertive instead of passive your confidence will grow and with confidence comes a certain robustness. Don't become too over confident though. Get the balance right. Being humble is a great leveller and keeps us grounded.

Answer 5

Make a blueprint of yourself and your life. Architects make blueprints for the construction of a new building and you can too for your new life.

What is it you value? What are your goals? Approach your new personality very pragmatic and utilitarian. If you had to paint your new house you would focus on paint supplies at the hardware store. Same with people and oversensitivity. Don't allow yourself to get distracted with people, feelings, or defending things that are not your priorities. Stick to what you value and your goals and remind yourself that you are in control of that list. Having a sense of competency will begin to bloom as your oversensitivity withers. You shouldn't have to worry and wonder about yourself so much, plan it out and keep on track. If it isn't in your plans then WHO CARES don't worry about it!

Answer 6

i get ur dilemma im extremely oversensitive myself, and recently that has been wrecking havoc in my life. the way i approach it some people u can tell they r joking and some people u dont, people who seem to mean what they say let them have it, criticise their flaws cuz obviously by criticising yours it just shows they r so oblivious to their own bad points which makes egotistical and up their own backsides, so nail them on that. that said, of my experience u r oversensitive for a reason, u really need to say to urself, what is it and fix, if u r overweight go on diet and exercise, better health in itself is a reward, if it is coming ur friends, go meet new people expand ur horizons that way u will know if they r really friends or whether they criticise u just to help and u can then avoid them, if its from ur family, talk them sometimes its good to get it off ur chest. ultimately, u really need to find out why u r sensitive and gain the confidence that people wont exploit. all the best

Answer 7

Use "self talk" to tell yourself, over and over, that it is ok, it does not mean what I first thought it meant, that I am still a good person no matter what I think others may imply.

If we focus our interpretations of the world and ourselves upon what others think, ie being externally centered, then we can easily be effected by what others say and think. But if we become internally focused, and rely on our own sense of self worth, then we can avoid being influenced by others and allow ourselves to detemine our self worth.

Read Viktor Frankl's, "Man's Search for Meaning," which discusses this whole idea.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Remind yourself to not take it personally. I have to create a diversion when I become oversensitive about something.

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