Has someone hurt you ??

Question

either mentally or physically,
But it has changed either you or your life.
Has it changed things for the better,

For example if my ex hadn't knocked me around, I now wouldn't be sat in a beautiful house, with my amazing children.
And I wouldn't be studying law, or driving

I now see it that he did me a good deed, And i'd shake his hand.

Has there been a positive out of a terrible siuation in your life...

Happy New year to everyone..

Answer 1

I`m the same as you, knocked sensless, I now have a wonderful life and have joined the medical profession, I am much stronger than I was, and have an empathy with other woman who have gone through this.

He on the other hand has been to prison and is currently on drugs and wasting away!

Don`t they say "you have to experience the rain to appreciate the sunshine" I have a great tan ; )

Well done to you.

Happy New Year back to you and yours x

Answer 2

I can see exactly what you are saying and I am very pleased that some good came out of something so nasty. I wish I could say the same.

I have been hurt, used and abused over and over in past relationships. I was picked on at school mainly by girls and had relationships where women have hit me. This is much more common than you think.

I have had a few long term relationships in my life but nothing that ever lasted and I have always been walked all over and taken advantage of. Mainly because of my low self esteem and self confidence from my childhood.

I can put on a big front and be all loud but I am a very with drawn person due to the way I have been treated in the past relationships and during my school life.

So I guess on a downside from how things have helped you and made you a stronger person, it has not helped me and I find myself single and alone and with no confidence.

I still have my health though and a job and a place to live so I can't complain I suppose :-)

Happy New Year to you and good luck in 2007 xxx

Answer 3

Your question is very inspiring and I thank you for it. I'm glad that you have done with your life and have moved on from abuse. Are you now a lawyer? Just wondering. I am 21 years old and I am a pre-law major who also has done some published writing and I also am a banker. From the outside, everyone believes that I am doing so well but inside, I know I have low self-esteem and some insecurities I must work on. I faced some sexual abuse when I was 12 years old and eversince then I have had been abused by some past boyfriends (before they abandoned me and most likely went on to some other victims!) and I had let myself face mistreatment and have let myself be taken advantage of. I still work hard at my job and I am graduating college very soon but I still struggle to live everyday. I have just had a relationship end, and while there was some emotional manipulation going on in the man's part, I am still striving to be strong and I am slowly getting over it. I don't want to be sad but sometimes I cannot help it. I know that one day I will meet a man that I deserve (and vice versa) and work even harder at building my career... but I must be patient. I want to use my past experiences as building blocks to becoming even stronger than I am now instead of seeing them as obstacles to a very potential future. I hope to read even more successful stories and encouragement such as yours! Have a happy new year.

Answer 4

3 years ago christmas, my ex asked for a divorce, thought it was the end of the world, although it wasn't perfect, it wasn't the worst either, so naturally i feard being alone, worried about finances. than i found out he had been cheating on me for a long time, and when i tried to reconcile he laughed at me and humiliated me over the phone, so his new woman would believe it was truly over. than one day i went to work, and went outside for a break and who should i see but my husband and his new love, they were there to do some walpapering in one of the apartments at the assisted living i worked at. so it seemed there was no where i could go that i did not have to see them. they also had a place directly across from my home. the day of my divorce i left everything, left in a moving truck, at first it was hard and i wondered if i had made the right choice, but a few months later an old love came back into my life, we now have a nice home, the home i always dreamed of having, and i no longer have to work. so this other woman did me a favor really, as my life is now so much better. i hear my ex had to move back to the old mobile he use to have before we got married, hear he is now unable to work, so life really didn't get better for him and the homewrecker. i wish him no ill will, or bad, i just know my life is much better and if it hadn't been for his cheating i would still be there, in the same situation.

Answer 5

I grew up rather hard with a father who was an alcoholic and a mother who didn't know how to handle that.

I blamed my father for years for all of my problems. Everything that didn't go right was his fault.

But as I matured and really looked at myself I knew I had to take responsibility for what I could do to change things. I also understood that he wasn't to blame and that I could love him and hate what he did to us.

I learned to forgive and I learned it well and I think he is responsible for that lesson in my life. I also like and respect the person I have become and I don't think she would have been possible with out the father that she had.

So, whatever he did and whoever he was, intended or not, he taught me things that made my life what is is. I have to thank him for teaching me some of the harder lessons even if they were learned a little early and a little tough. I am who I am because of him.

Answer 6

Hopefully I can say the same thing at the end of next year! I am glad this happened for you. I am married to a man who has not committed from the start, and it has only been four months. Yea, it hurts, but I still wake up every morning and that's what counts. I am slowly detaching from him and letting go, and I am feeling more powerful than I did initially. I have stopped complaining, and I have decided to stop being a victim of his selfishness. He believes he's heaven-sent, but I know I'll be singing to a new tune in no time. Thanks for the inspiration.

Answer 7

I think most have been hurt in one way or another. I don't know that I'd want to shake my ex's hand for what he's done. That's alittle too far, however, I believe things happen for a reason and I guess I'll find out when its time.
I'm glad you made good things out of your bad experiences, I commend you for that. Happy New Year to you too, good luck with all your endeavors.

Answer 8

yes if i stayed with my ex i would still be a mistress of 10 years+ but instaed of him treating me like a yo-yo when he wanted a bit I moved away got a lovely home a beautiful daughter and a man that was sent from God. We all live happy I travel abroad all the time have money and I now volunteer my time with Born Free and orphans in Africa just to put something back. I have just come back from africa after working there for one month and I helped save 3 lions from a circus in france and now they have a new home in south Africa. happy new year to you too. lyn x

Answer 9

Happy New Year to you to,yes I have been hurt past, & present future? who knows but,intend to get on with it life that is n maybe 2007 will be better than the last six years.Hopefully I will learn by my errors or mis- judgements that I appear to have made.To err is human.

Answer 10

Everyone has been hurt by something, someone at some time in their lives. It is up to the individual that was hurt, as to whether it was for the good or not. We all have choices. Congratulations, you made the right choice.