house? I have only been with my new man for q few months, and we wont to spend new year together. I cant afford a babysitter and my family cant do it either. I dont really wont to take my son to my new mans house because he lives in a shared house ie: 1 bed. Not practicle for a child. He cant stay at mine because im still living with my ex as we own the house together adn its taking months to sell, not an ideal place to bring my new man. What can i do? im lost?
2006-12-30 12:04:14 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
obviously my son comes first! im just asking what other sloutions there might be that i dont know about.
2006-12-30 12:26:20 · update #1
Ask a friend to do it or perhaps a neighbor in exchange for something they want (housecleaning or babysitting at a later date). You deserve to go out New Year's Eve. You could tell your ex that you have plans and he is going to babysit. I've been reading the other replys to your questions. Do these self-rightous people always stay with their child? Are they planning on never going out anywhere without their child? Give me a break, yes a child's well-being and safety must come first - but you are entitled to go out in the evening WITHOUT your child and have nothing to feel guilty about.
2006-12-30 12:15:04 · answer #1 · answered by mscpa1999 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I hate to say this, but this is an easy question, and you already know the answer.
If you can't afford a babysitter, and no one in your family will agree to take care of your son, you'll need to forego being out with your "new man" on the new year. Your son is the more important one here, and he can't take care of himself.
Are any of your friends having kids parties? Do you have no older relatives that would prefer to stay home and take care of your son? Do you have some friends who also need help and if you go in together, maybe you can afford some care for your kids?
If you can't find a solution, stay home and bring in the New Year with the guy who will ALWAYS be in your life, your son.
2006-12-30 20:17:59 · answer #2 · answered by nw_big_skies 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take your son with you. That is putting him first. Make it a party for the 3 of you. besides he will crash before you 2. If you and your new man get serious this will be the first of many holidays together. So start the New Year off right with your 2 men! Happy New Year.
2006-12-30 20:54:05 · answer #3 · answered by newyorktilson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
I'm sure your sitting there thinking drats wha wha wha but listen here.. As the rest have said your a mom and your child comes first.
I suggest that you put your big girl panties on and deal with it and stop acting as if your a child yourself. If this so called boyfriend/man you've known for a while can't come up with something you all can do and include your son , then you should drop this turkey like the ball drops on new years eve!
Think about how your son feels knowing this his mommy wants to go out with this new man and is complaining about not having anyone to watch him. Don't think for a second that he isn't noticing how your acting or even what your saying... I can only imagine that he's feeling pretty left out! Get with the program missy do something with your son this new years eve! That man isn't going anywhere and if he do so what.. are you saying he comes before your son? Think about what your doing!!
Gheesh you'd think this is like your first date or you've just got to be with this man or else!
2006-12-30 20:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by ssgtmommy01 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well for starters, your child comes before your "new man". But can your ex NOT look after him too?? I mean this child was made by two people, where is the other party in this?
He has two biological parents!! This is a bad situation. A child gets brought into this world by two people, who then have to juggle the kid around as they attempt to move onto someone else.
2006-12-30 20:16:37 · answer #5 · answered by Gus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't even think about leaving your son alone at home.....
It's New Years eve and you are a MOM....not a college kid. You tried to get someone to watch your son...and came up short. Your new man should understand that. If he doesn't, he's not the man for you and your son. Get together some other night....
(What, exactly, is your ex (son's father) doing for NYEve?
2006-12-30 23:21:17 · answer #6 · answered by diapercakesbybecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your new man can't accept your son DUMP HIM NOW.your son was in your life way before this guy was,so what's the problem?your son should come before any man ever dared to be.
your son is only young once,so take advantage of it.don't put your son on the back burner for anyone.
there's lots of women who would kill to have a baby ,and don't believe any man would come between that.
you should be smarter than to ask that question.
who's going to tuck him into bed,and say thank you for 6 wonderful years and this new year 2007 will be better for us.
2006-12-30 21:17:50 · answer #7 · answered by hl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put that child first. and you stay home with him. Dont even think of leaving him home alone. So I assume your ex does not want to keep the child. You will just have to put your love life on hold till you get your life fixed. Or you could call child welfare and turn your son over to them.
2006-12-30 20:14:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Remember new men may come and go in your life but your son will be part of you forever its up to you to make the right choices for him and his well being.There are plenty of New Years ahead to celebrate other things.This year celebrate your son and the joy of being a mum x
2006-12-30 22:45:26 · answer #9 · answered by Jenny T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't your new man pay for a babysitter? Ask him, if he can let you have $20 so you can hire someone to take care of your son.
2006-12-30 20:31:42 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋