How do you react to comments deliberately made to hurt your feelings? How do you manage to keep your temper so as not to give them the satisfaction of seeing you wounded?
2006-12-30 11:48:57 · 22 answers · asked by maggie 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
ignore it. i know it's hard but as long as u know it's not true then you're confidence will get to that person and make him/her want to back down.
2006-12-30 11:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by MMSfaith 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whatever you do, do not reply with equally nasty remarks because then, you are repaying with the same medicine, which makes you no bettter!
I have found that there are alot of envious, selfish, materialistic people in this world and the best way to cope with them is just to ignore them, leave them on the wayside. Of course you have to use self control, so that you do not freak out when you hear the nasty remarks, just smile, look into their eyes and carry on with what you are doing!
Do not show that you are hurt or unhappy, carry on with your life, but remain polite at all times. Hi Hi, you can then watch them all burn up with frustration one after the other!
I know exactly what you are talking about, have patience, time has a way of ironing things out and it brings the invoice too, for those nasty people!!
Good luck!
2006-12-30 17:31:53 · answer #2 · answered by Gary H 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nasty remarks are only as powerfull as you let them be, or allow them to be............
Go back a few steps!!!
If someones words hurt you, your giving them the power to hurt you. They are only words! How much power the words have depend purely and wholy on how much the reciever allows!!
If you wash them off or brush them off, then little to no power is in the words and then they mean very little. Take them to heart and your dealing with a whole different ballgame!!
Don't let or allow the insulter the upper hand to allow power in their words.
Difuse them
Even better if you could reply with a sarastic demeaning response, like is that the best insult you've said today, this week or month etc.
Or is that as best you can do etc.....
Power of words is only what they are given. Don't allow or give them power....
Keep your chin up.....
Oh and Karma is a wonderful thing..... :o)
2006-12-30 14:37:13 · answer #3 · answered by A little stumpt 123 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People can be idiots! They don't realize that when they say something mean to someone, it makes them look like a jerk. If you respond in anger, you could end up being the one looking like a jerk. As long as they are in the lead in that department, let them be the a**. Walk away with a smile on your face and head held high knowing that you were smart and mature enough to not let it escalate into something ugly. It takes practice, but you are already on the right track by knowing that you need to keep your temper in situations like that. Smart girl!
2006-12-30 12:12:07 · answer #4 · answered by kalliope 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately I am pretty sensetive to things like this and people pray on that. As soon as they see it's hurt you and effected you they will just do it all the more.
I never have managed to keep my temper or hide the fact that I have been upset by what was said and so just end up with more hurt and abuse.
2006-12-30 13:58:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-11 19:28:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a sense you answered your own question.
More often than not nasty remarks are made to ellicit a reaction.The best way to derail their plan is to not react. A nasty remark that doesn't get a reaction falls flat and makes the person who said it look silly.
2006-12-30 11:54:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Advice in the Bible is to turn the other cheek and it really works. It confuses the aggressor because they don't expect that reaction. P.S. I am not a religious person but I know that the Bible carries a lot of good advice for living a decent life
2006-12-30 11:55:20 · answer #8 · answered by dawleymouse 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Right back at them in a positive non-agressive way; tell them, "Geeze, that was really unkind". If that doesn't work just smile and tell them to eat cake! Watch for the puzzled look you'll get.
2006-12-30 12:49:54 · answer #9 · answered by leslie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you for your question. I had just posted a question & needed help with a problem.But this person went thorugh all my posts,questions & made a whole summary of my character & made a "judgement" on me & what problems I have. Really sad....what kind of a person would do that? lol....
2006-12-30 12:39:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I rarely can manage to keep my temper. But it does help to just realize that people just aren't worth it.
2006-12-30 11:52:00 · answer #11 · answered by miaalyse 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋