2006-12-30 11:41:04 · 18 answers · asked by sooz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't know, or he doesn't know, what to do? You need to leave him is what YOU need to do....once a cheater, always a cheater. As for him, he needs to quit cheating....which he NEVER will!
2006-12-30 11:44:55 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you. Unfortunately once they cheat most will continue. You could leave him or get counseling. The thing is if you both want it to work it will but it takes two to make a relationship work and it sounds like your husband gave the trying bit up when he slept with someone else. I stayed in my marriage for 9 years with a man who was selfish and couldn't keep his penis in his pants. I am glad it only took 9 years to leave him and not longer. I am now with a man who adores me and wouldn't even think of doing something like that.
Best of luck
2006-12-30 19:48:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That has to be the ultimate betrayal. I personally would want NOTHING to do with him if he cheated but a lot of women stay in relationships due to finances. Thank God I have an awesome career and education because if this ever happened to me, I can throw him out and financially be fine.
2006-12-30 20:43:30 · answer #3 · answered by Lucci 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you like you can get past it , then by all means stay in the relationship, but get counciling.. If though you dont think you can move on and ever get the trust back than it is best to move on. It is not worth it...Noone can tell you what to do.. Noone but you and him know what your relationship is really like, but the hardest part you are going to have to face is the trust issues and do you really want to keep him around after what he has done to you?
2006-12-30 19:46:54 · answer #4 · answered by luckygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Still not sinking in, huh? Sorry that happened to you. Why can't they just leave first?...anyway....15 years is along time. This will sink in and you'll go through all the bereavement stages....you'll get mad, sad, etc. YOU have to decide if the marriage is still worth keeping or is he a cheating ba...sta rd. Good Luck
2006-12-30 19:44:58 · answer #5 · answered by Hear2Help 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Try marriage counseling...If he refuses...File for Divorce. Make sure you have proof that he did cheat on you. The judge will throw the book at him and grant you a quick divorce.
2006-12-30 19:45:11 · answer #6 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that. What is wrong with people these days. Sorry for your loss of love. Listen you need to search deep within yourself for that answer. You know your husband better than anyone else and way better than this other person. I have slept with married men, excuse me for saying this, but all they do is talk about there wives after I have brought it up. Now the reason I brought it up because I hope to get married someday so I wanted to know why they cheat and how they feel about their wives.
Sweetie the number one answer is they love their wives but they are bored with the sex life and they do not want her to cheat. The number 2 answer is that they believe she is cheating and cant get it out of their minds but never once did they say that they wanted to leave their wives, never. So listen to what I say and know that they love their wives, they do not plan to leave unless you are an obnoxious slob who argues and nags all the time and you are sleeping indiscreetly with every Tom, Dick, and Harry.
2006-12-30 19:53:58 · answer #7 · answered by starsmoonis 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Divorce Time!
2006-12-30 19:47:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you only have two choices:
forgive him and stay married
divorce him
only you can decide the correct choice. I have heard of couples who work through this type of thing. Best wishes to you.
2006-12-30 19:44:39 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me, personally, I'd leave/ file for divorce. I couldn't be with someone who did that. Best of Luck to you.
2006-12-30 19:51:24 · answer #10 · answered by J*A*K*C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋