I am 24 years old guy and I have never had a relationship with a girl. I’m not gay and I have had many crushes on girls. But I have never had a relationship yet. I think the way the world views on sex have really put me off and emotionally scarred me. The thing is I don’t want to stay single for ever. What do I do about this? And no I was not abused as a child.
2006-12-30 11:31:29 · 21 answers · asked by RIP 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
And I am not ugly. Serious answer only please.
2006-12-30 11:36:00 · update #1
And I am not immature. Infact I think I am very sensible for my age.
2006-12-30 11:36:55 · update #2
Hi there! You're reading the answer of your duplicate; we couldn't be more alike, right now...
Well, there are plenty of things that scare me away; First, I have the feeling that getting involved with just one wrong person can turn your life so upside down that there can be no turning back. In short, every boy that manages to approach me is literally seen as a threat! Second, it is the fear of an unwanted pregnancy. I know that nowadays you can effectively protect yourself but somehow I consider myself that unlucky that I think that it WILL happen to me if I'm careless enough to take the risk. All these are rooted in the fact that my father left my mum while pregnant with me and the wedding was eventually called off. So, my mother was forced to raise me all alone, without any support (both financial and emotional) from my father; let alone the gossip about her reputation... All these have deeply affected me in the way I see relationships and men. And as a result, I feel the need to be extra careful with them so as to be able to protect myself and keep control of my life.
2006-12-30 13:06:14 · answer #1 · answered by maggie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationship?
You're being kinda vague... No one can possibly answer that question without more information. My guess is you're unconfident or uneasy about something in your life, and just like that guy says, you'll have to come totally clean with yourself before you can move-on.
Things you should answer are:
Are you having trouble meeting women who interest you?
Are you comfortable with your living situation or the way you appear?... i.e. you may think that you would be dragging a woman down by bringing her into your life.
Do you suffer from a sexual dysfunction? such as premature ejactulation.
Are you afraid of being embarassed or doublecrossed by a women?
Are you afraid of social changes in your life should you committ to a woman.
Are you afraid of losing control of your life should you commit to a woman?
In a sense, is the reason you can't find a relationship you or them?
What's this point of view of sex you think the world has? Everyone has a different point of view regarding sex. What's more, why should everyones' point-of-view effect your life?
Once you answer the question you should find resources to deal with and gain control of your point-of-view or problem.
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2006-12-30 12:00:49 · answer #2 · answered by m8xpayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of us are afraid to have a relationship, probably for the reason that we are afraid of commitments or it could also be that we are afraid to be hurt or we think that the other person don't feel the same way we feel about them. Other reason if the person had been burned in relationship for sure it will take a while for this person to trust and love again. But if you won't try you won't know. As I always say if I met someone and that I felt that this person is hesitant to show how he felt about me, I told them that I'm not the person who hurt them and he is not the person who hurt me either so might as well take one step at a time to know each other.
2006-12-30 11:48:54 · answer #3 · answered by linda c 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot be afraid of having a relationship based on the world views or any one else. When you meet the right person you will know and no one or nothing will be able to scare you. Nature will take it's course. Have faith and I believe you will not be single forever. Just get out there and enjoy life.
2006-12-30 11:57:41 · answer #4 · answered by lay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that if you have asked this question here, then you are asking yourself this very question. Simple answer - you must obviously enjoy being single (for what ever reason). So stay single and enjoy it, but remember to leave this an open question in your head. Maybe one day you might meet someone you are attracted to and then you might, very naturally, decide you don't want to be single anymore. Wouldn't that be the best way for it to happen?
Big questions like these should always be revisited, answers can change based on circumstances.
2006-12-30 12:01:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only you who can make the move towards having a relationship. You have to first feel comfortable about yourself and feel like you're a complete individual. You need to be sensible and not be clingy.
Try to meet women by joining activities you like doing. This way, you'd meet like-minded people while also enjoying yourself. And don't be too desperate to get married! Get to know the girls. Be friends with them.
2006-12-30 11:43:39 · answer #6 · answered by Gyle from Valenzuela City, Phil. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without meaning to be rude, maybe you are emotionally immature - hence the fear of commitment. 24 isnt very too old for a guy - it'll happen to you and probably when you least expect it xxxxx
It's NOT an insult - I said emotionally immature - not immature as a person - there is a difference. Its like a fear of rejection or fear of not being being able to handle a relationship. Other than that maybe its just that you're shy ?????
2006-12-30 11:35:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's not a very good outlook thinking the same way that you view the rest of the worlds ideas on relationships you have to do things your own way, sometimes you win & sometimes you lose, that's life, but I have found that being friends first helps & having a common interest or hobby.
2006-12-30 11:48:29 · answer #8 · answered by shortstuff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi what you should do, try talking to girls and get to know them talk to girls as if you were one and if goes further start seeing each other but dont have sex for at least 3 months so that the girl knows that she shouldnt be afraid of you and when the time comes you will know when the time is right so when you get into a relationship just talk like youv known each other for years.
2006-12-30 11:48:35 · answer #9 · answered by kizza005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you looking at girls every day, and do you like what you see? Do you become disappointed when you hear girls talk about themselves and their lives? I always find something wrong with women I observe. Maybe you some of them. But you are too discouraged to make a move. But I've got you beat: I'm almost 37 and in a similar place. Except that my childhood was kind of troubled by lousy adults and peer ridicule. I got involved with a mentally unstable woman in '92 and it kind of discouraged me. I keep to myself.
2006-12-30 12:12:48 · answer #10 · answered by TarKettle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋