My "friend" stopped speaking to me in October because she and another friend were arguing. Now she is leaving me messages online, acting as if nothing's changed. Should I ignore her or be glad I have her back?
2006-12-30 11:17:41 · 11 answers · asked by Kitty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If she was your true friend she wouldn't have stopped talking to you in the first place. I personally would ignore her, because she hasn't been there for you in a few months. Now that she's feeling kinda lonely she thinks its okay to talk to you again. I'm sure this hurt you feelings, and I am sorry for that, but with friends like that, who needs enemies?
2006-12-30 11:20:29 · answer #1 · answered by Lacey C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should try the honest approach... like asking her what the heck went wrong. Get her side of the story because as we all know, there are always 3 sides to every story... hers, yours and the truth.
Are you glad she's back in your life? Did you miss her? Do you think that if you guys talk it out, there might be a chance to be friends again? Life happens and the only things we really know for sure are that while we're here, we certainly do learn alot of life's lessons.... and no one gets out alive!
So what lesson are you taking away from this experience? How are you gonna learn from this? If it were me, I'd talk to her, ask her what happened, see how she feels about it all, take some time to think about if I can forgive her for the hurt she caused me and then decide if I want to continue being friends. I certainly wouldn't make a blind decision to just cut her out of my life, because if I did, that would make me just like her...and since I didn't like what she did, why on earth would I want to act like her? Isnt' that what evolution and growth are all about?
And if, in the end, I decide I'm better of without her as a "friend" because she seems insincere or doesn't give a hoot about the hurt she caused, or for any other valid reason that sends me the message that what I have to learn from her has been learned, well then... I think I'd consider that life is way too short to dance with ugly people and I'd move on to prettier people... and we ain't talkin' 'bout the outside wrappings and trappings!
2006-12-30 11:59:25 · answer #2 · answered by The ReDesign Diva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still want to be friends, you have to get past whatever happened and just move on. It can be difficult to apologise or whatever for what happened before, so just because she hasn't said anything like that doesn't mean she doesn't regret it. If she's talking and reaching out to you, chances are she wants to be friends again. The rest is up to you.
2006-12-30 11:22:37 · answer #3 · answered by moore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
totaly depends on the situation. Typically I try not to let disputes with people affect my other friendships, but it all depends on what is starting this spat. Should the friend stopped talking to you, that's only something you and the friend could know, the real question is that did you miss this person enough to forgive them.
2006-12-30 11:23:44 · answer #4 · answered by Packin it up 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why not either email or call her and express your feelings and then decide after you get her resonse ? Best to get it out in the open. Maybe she did not know you were upset.
Good Luck
2006-12-30 11:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore her. but first ask why she wasn't talking to you because of a feud happening between her and another friend. if she apologized, then be friends. if she just blows you off, or gives you a dumb answer, then ignore her.
2006-12-30 11:23:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you go and write her back just to show her your a pretty good friend to keep and tell her how you got your advise to becoming her friend again to show her how you care about her. :)
2006-12-30 11:26:57 · answer #7 · answered by tygirl236 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ignore her. she sounds like trouble to me
2006-12-30 11:22:51 · answer #8 · answered by babii-gurl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
forget her if she was a friend she wouldn't put you in the middle
2006-12-30 11:21:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
ask her whats going on... why is she so fiendly now then she was bef
2006-12-30 11:44:15 · answer #10 · answered by MUNCHiES 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋