2006-12-30 11:17:08 · 17 answers · asked by school bus mom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, but the guy that you are not married to is OFF LIMITS!
2006-12-30 11:18:52 · answer #1 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will only say this. Anyone that claims they cannot be in love with 2 people at the same time has just never encountered it. For years I dated a guy, that I just could not marry because our beliefs were so different. He was a Marine, handsom, loving, but he also like to drink, party and I am a believer in Christ and he didn't want anything to do with the Bible. It was heartbreaking. Now, my husband, is also very handsom, but very carefree and loving and a big goofball. I will always love the first guy, always. We shared a lot of things together, and no one can tell me what I feel in my heart isn't love. I still get excited butterflies when I have seen him. However, I am in love with my husband, he makes me feel special and he gives me the time and attention I need and we have similar beliefs and he makes my heart melt, It's just a different way that I am in love with him. You never love 2 people the same. But you can love more than one person. I wouldn't go pursuing the other guy though. I don't think it would be very respectful of either relationship. If you are thinking you want to get out of your relationship because of this other guy or get something from him in other ways than I would really take a close look at my current relationship and see what it is lacking and work on fixing it. There is a reason you married your husband now in the first place. Don't give up so easily.
2006-12-30 12:20:03 · answer #2 · answered by Stacey B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you cannot be 'in love' with two men at the same time. Your marriage is sacred and you made a promise NO MATTER WHAT! You chose to let your feelings get the best of you with the other guy. You can chose not to destroy or damage your family and his. I love the feeling of being in love; it feels nice. I think you like that feeling also. But look for it and work at it with your husband. God bless!
I agree with a previous answer about 'if being in love was a place, you can't be in two different places at the same time.' So again, I believe in having other feelings and even love for someone else. BUT NOT 'IN LOVE!'
2006-12-30 11:59:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! You can be in love with two different men for two different reasons. You are in love with your husband for security reason and with your married boyfriend for lust.....Now, reflect on what you just read and consider how truthful is my opinion.
2006-12-30 12:21:57 · answer #4 · answered by alpha & omega 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. The married man is not true love. True love is open and honest. Grow up before you ruin two families.
2006-12-30 11:22:01 · answer #5 · answered by Raven 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are now married you should give and reserve all your love, affection and feelings for the one you love.
2006-12-30 11:32:58 · answer #6 · answered by lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if "in love" were a place, then you could not be both places at once. However "in love" is a made up term that means NOTHING. Love is a choice, a decision, and a behavior. You are not behaving in a manner that says LOVE if you are being untrue.
2006-12-30 11:37:43 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may think you are, but no you cannot. It is time to stop all communication with this other man and give your husband that attention. If your husband is the one who is not meeting your needs, let him know what those needs are. It may hurt him a bit. He may get defensive, but if he is a good man, his goal in life is to keep you happy. That goal will diminish if you quit meeting his needs,
2006-12-30 11:33:00 · answer #8 · answered by jason 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do people allow themselves to get into this?
Can anyone take their vows seriously in this day and age?
You LUST after the other man and both of you, if you follow through, will destroy two marriages and your spouses.
Geez, what happened to death do you part?
2006-12-30 11:48:36 · answer #9 · answered by n9wff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in love? no, you can love two men, but you can only be in love with one of them
2006-12-30 11:23:35 · answer #10 · answered by ahtnamas1101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋