Hi everyone. I just wanted to know if anyone has ever experienced an abortion. What was your reason for having one and did it impact your life negatively or in a positive way?
I know that this is very personal but if you don't mind sharing I would really appreciate it. Thanks.
PS: Sarcastic and judgemental remarks are not welcome so please keep it to yourself.
2006-12-30 11:11:52 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I got pregnant even while on birth control. I was also on some long term medication for high blood pressure that was wildly out of control. I thought long and hard about it, but for my health and the uncertainty my medication may due to a baby, I decided to end my pregnancy. I knew I could not handle a baby with a problem. I have a 24 year old brother with down syndrome and while I think he is terrific, I was not willing to take a chance in having a handicapped baby (I know DS is not hereditary) It was hard and I still have the occasional nightmare and for me certain smells (antiseptics) cause panic attacks. I have regrets and wish things could have been different, but life has got to go on. I know how the haters seem to have this myth that you have an abortion at 10am and you go out and get a manicure and pedicure at noon and you just don't think or feel about it, but that is not the case.
2006-12-30 11:26:47 · answer #1 · answered by Cherry_Blossom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming you are asking for yourself, so I will answer the question that way.
Some say that a woman has a right to make choices for her own body. I completely agree. However, it is not just the woman's body we're talking about, but another's body as well. We don't have a right to decide for another person. And as Dr. Seuss put it, "a person's a person, no matter how small." ("Horton Hears a Who)" ;-)
Some say an abortion is the only choice under certain circumstances (financial, relational, rape, or health). While I disagree with abortion under any circumstances, I certainly can't condemn anyone for choosing to abort because of such situations as these. My heart breaks for those who felt there was no alternative. To any visitor reading this post, let me make it clear that I am not criticizing you if you've had one. I know that you are probably hurting enough and don't need people coming down on you. Don't read this post any further. I don't wish to upset anyone with my comments or to reopen wounds.
Some wounds do go very deep, and I have read stories from those who have regretted their abortion. They mourn the loss of their child. Some also have medical problems associated with the procedure. Some would have you believe that abortion is a simple procedure involving lifeless tissue, but nothing could be further from the truth. A baby feels pain, even only a couple of months after conception. I have a video of an actual abortion that shows a young fetus visibly reacting to the abortion being performed on it (entitled "The Silent Scream"). There has been more recent documentation that proves that a fetus feels pain during an abortion. We should be as quick to desire the preservation of life in the womb as we are about preserving the natural world around us. We shake our heads at abandoned puppies in a dumpster and defend the rights of animals. Let us also defend defenseless babies.
Take a moment and consider yourself in your baby's place. What choice would you ask your mother to make for you?
I have three children, and they are the biggest blessings. I love their kisses in the morning, the pictures they draw for me, and their Velcro hugs. Give yourself the same treat. You'll never regret it, no matter what you may have to go through.
By the way, the woman behind Roe Vs. Wade who was fighting to make abortions legal, as she wanted one for herself (Norma McCorvey) has since had a change of heart and is fighting for the other side. She has a few children of her own!
I will be praying for you dear! I mean that sincerely. See the links below. The Pregnancy Centers list places where you can receive free services, like an ultrasound and other tests and counseling. If there is a boyfriend involved, they can talk to him too.
2006-12-30 12:42:42 · answer #2 · answered by Kim A 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I had an abortion 5 years in the past this month. It replaced into no longer common to recover from, even to at present time I nonetheless experience regrets. I in basic terms cried the 1st nighttime, i myself awoke crying from a dream I had. I even have in basic terms had a million abortion and could no longer get nemore yet i be attentive to those that have had as many as 5 to 6 abortions. I struggled with the belief of whilst does human existence commence and actual before I had it finished I had a ultrasound which I heard the pulse. i think of human beings ignore that each and every individual has to stay their own existence, make their own judgements and face their own consequences. To at present time I remorseful approximately my determination even nonetheless i replaced into sixteen even nonetheless i'm prochoice with the aid of fact who am I to choose yet another.
2016-10-06 05:43:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i first found out i was pregnant i did strongly consider it, i was only 19 and could not imagine my life changing so drastically, after we got used to the idea though, me and b/friend decided to go through with the pregnancy and i thank god every day i didn't go through with it as i now consider it the best thing that has ever happened to me, im still only 30 weeks (and 20 years old now) but i just can't wait to hold my son and watch him grow up, i think if i would have gone through with an abortion, i would be seriously regretting it and it upsets me now to think it ever crossed my mind, i find now though that alot of people still think 20 is too young to have kids as they think you need to live more first and that you will not be able to support a child which is not true, my mum always says iv lived more in my 20 years than she did in 30 years before she had me!! and between me and my b/friend we earn just over £60,000 a year (though i only get £15,000 of this!) and have a loverly house and nice cars, i think some people have great misconceptions of a minemum age to have kids
2006-12-30 11:34:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have had an abortion, I was in an abusive relationship and it ended by him throwing me down a flight of stairs when I was just entering my 3rd trimester, it resulted in me hemoraging and having to make the decision to abort because I could not afford to be out of work for three months and in bed the entire time. There was also no guarantee the pregnancy would continue to gestate to term and if it did it was felt that the baby would die within it's first hour. Nope I've had no regrets. I went on to leave the relationship, enjoyed being single for quite some time, got married and had my daughter who is now 21 years of age. He went on to land in prison after beating his third wife to death, leaving his two children without a mother or father and in foster care....had I stayed I could have met the same fate she did
"An aborition, if not done right, can make you sterile and unable to ever have children. There's always that risk when doing it." BULLSHIT
2006-12-30 11:18:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in abortions, but I had a miscarriage a spontaneous abortion. It impacted me bad, but now I have 1 boy and another due the 2nd. I don't know what would of happened if I would of went full term with him, but I knew the lord thought it was the best because I would of never meant my husband or have the kids I have today.
2006-12-30 11:19:14 · answer #6 · answered by jenny 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, I haven't ... but, my sister did. She still cries sometimes ... wondering how that child would look at 3, 10 or 16 y/o. She's never really come to terms with it. Women who have abortions should have mandatory counseling. One never knows how it will affect them, at the time of the abortion ... or in the future.
2006-12-30 11:18:05 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Carol♥ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My sister had an abortion after a date rape.
She later went on to become a top-notch foster parent. I know that her mothering instinct is incredibly strong, and her pain over the abortion (and rape) is still very real 25 years later.
2006-12-30 11:22:00 · answer #8 · answered by geek49203 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hey there!
Firstly be strong! I am almost 31, I have had 2 done... one at 18 and again at 23... I have no kids yet, BUT ending my pregnancies were the best thing I ever did for myself.... It is tough to go through/physically/emotionally etc.... BUT TIME HEALS and you see the bigger picture over time... It allowed me to create the life I am aiming for that would have be difficult impossible had I had the babies.... No regrets, you gotta be strong.... my best best suggestion is GO with instinct... my inner "me" said I had to do it... I am not heartless, very warm loving person, and I had to take care of ME.... and so I did.... If you go ahead DO IT EARLY/SOON... I had one at 7weeks and other at almost 4 months.... I DONOT recommend waiting more than 10 weeks....
Best of luck, Do what your gut says.... If you have a lot you are aiming for in life etc.... go for those dreams without baby....
take care, be safe!
2006-12-30 11:59:34 · answer #9 · answered by slinky76 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i have because ive all ways thought about well ive had this child its not the babys fault and am 16 and am preg with my second one and my first one if 14 months every one keeps telling me o your to young to hav another one have a abortion but i just cant becuase of what happened to my older sister, my older sister was preg at 17 and she spilt up with her bf and she thought she wouldnt be able to cop by her self so she had a abortion and naw my older sister is 20 and she been told she cant have any children of her own naw so at the moment she wish she rather kill her self instead of that lil baby and she really wanted one naw because she with a man and they hav there own place
2006-12-30 11:36:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋