Is there any advantages of your parents getting a divorce?

Answer 1

If there is abuse of any kind going on, then it's a blessing. If it's because communication is just bad, then no, because they teach their children to just give up instead of working on it.

Answer 2

If your parents have decided to divorce, you have probably witnessed tension between them.... you may have seen this tension through their actions, behaviors, and words. Once your parents have divorced, the tension that had once existed should eventually diminish. Although some divorced parents make the transition into the next chapter of their lives rather easily, for others, it may take weeks, months, or even years to accept the adjustment and move on.

It is true... a couple's children are often suffer the most when a couple decides to seperate. A divorce creates a sense of instability... a very uncomfortable emotion for anyone. A divorce is usually extremely uncomfortable for children, as it may be their first major life disturbance of instability and/or change. Therefore, it is quite common to have negative feelings towards the decision of one's parents to divorce and/or seperate.

However, in most situations, there is a light at the end of the tunnel (although it may be too dim to see at this time). Even though the positive side to a divorce may not be easy to visualize, it is there.

Many times, when a couple decide against divorce, "for the sake of the children," the children are often more victimized than they would have been had their parents stayed together. How? Because they are raised in a negative, tension-filled environment; not a home filled with genuine love.

As I said, although it may be difficult to see the advantages of your parents deciding to get a divorce, advantages do exist.

If you can, try not to think of a divorce as an end, but as the transformation to a happier life.

Answer 3

When I was 8 and my parents explained what was happening, I didn't really flinch at all, since they promised I would see 'em both, depending on the day of the week. Plus, they fought a lot, threw things...

I'm 25 now, finding many things difficult in life that others take for granted, and I can't help but wonder if it was because of not having both parents. I'm pretty dynamic at analyzing things. I think I can solve a couple of the world's biggest problems, but I'm unable to figure out my own predicament(s).

My dad stayed single for 13 years after the divorce, my mom remarried a couple years later, and I never got along with my stepdad.

"Stay together for the kids."

Answer 4

When they realize the relationship is over for them, the advantage is they will be happier apart and thus in the long run so will the kids...it's better for everyone for a couple to go their separate ways if they cannot repair the marriage, rather than stay together and try to hang in there "for the kids" when one or both of them doesn't want to be there, fights break out, animosity, etc.

It's unfortunate when it happens, divorce is a sad thing...it's always sad when a relationship ends...but hopefully the couple can be friends where they could no longer be husband and wife, and still be loving parents to their kids.

Answer 5

There are MANY advantages, actually. The most obvious is you don't have to hear or see them fighting and screaming at each other all the time. But most importantly, you get two birthdays, two Christmas', and if you ever have kids, they will have even more grandparents for you to pawn your kids off on to babysit. Also, you have the real benefit of gaining more "relatives" if you accept you new family. This can add many valuable relationships and connections to your life.

Answer 6

My parents divorced when I was 14 and it was hard, but in the end, it was really better to not have to listen to them fight and scream at each other every night, and to hear them make nasty comments to each other during the day. That had been going on for YEARS and it was awful. After they separated, my brother and I went to my dad's every weekend, and saw him whenever we wanted during the week. It took some getting used to, but looking back, it was WAY better than laying in bed every night with your pillow over your head trying not to hear them scream at each other--listening to your parents fight is one of the worst things in the world, and so scary for children. My parents sat both my brother and me down and explained things and talked about it with us, which helped. I don't think divorce should be taken lightly--people really should make an effort to make things work--but sometimes, two people have just reached the point where they absolutely cannot get along any more. My parents had been married for over 20 years. They tried counseling, both together and separately, and still they couldn't make it work. In my opinion, it's way better to have the two separate households than to have to live with two completely miserable people. At the time, as a kid, I wasn't happy about their divorce--you always hope that your parents will just magically start to get along again--but I came to realize that it turned out much better in the end. Good luck to you--I'm sorry you have to go through this, but it gets better...

Answer 7

There's an advantage in seeing your parents happy and content in their lives and relationships. If they're no longer in love with each other, divorce offers them a second chance to find healthy and loving relationships again. You do want to see your parents happy again don't you? And screw all that superficial bull-crap about getting "more presents at christmas time."

Answer 8

well, objectively speaking, you usually get two sets of holidays and birthdays, double the gifts, two sets of friends, two bedrooms, two neighborhoods to play in, and two different kinds of enviornments in general (maybe your mom cooks one thing and your dad cooks something else, etc.). You basically get more variety. Plus, since your parents are not together, they might spend more time on you. That's one way of looking at it, at least. It's nice that you're looking on the bright side. I'm sorry if your parents are getting divorced though. Just keep your bright side in mind. :]

Answer 9

Sometimes if their is abuse, or alot of fighting and contention rather than joy and peace a person is better off if their parents get divorced.

Answer 10

You did'nt give any details , This could be a heart breaking thing or an improvement.was there a lot of unhappy ness , yelling and screaming ? slamming of doors ? or was it just a case of one of your parents finding some body else who was more attractive to them ?

Answer 11

It will prepare you for the future when you get divorced. Unfortunately, my parents stayed together, so I get hurt sometimes when I get screwed over. You don't have to worry about morals and all that crap when you get older also.