how would you get your girlfriend to listen better?

Answer 1

Explain to her that you're not upset about anything, you just want to talk with her. If she is defensive, and refuses to acknowledge her faults or problems that you want to discuss, then just tell her that whether she wants to believe it or not, that is how YOU feel, and if she cares about you, she will care about how you feel.

Make sure that you don't get angry or yell. If she starts to get angry, ask her why she's angry and explain to her that you aren't mad at her, you just want to talk.

It's difficult to deal with people who have short tempers, but being calm and patient works best!