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She seems to always fight sleep and continuosly wants to be held by her mother. When she seems tired and placed in her crib, she will cry even louder. Can she be spoiled this young?

2006-12-30 10:23:08 · 15 answers · asked by mnbernier@sbcglobal.net 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Newborn & Baby

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Its been a little bit since my kids have been that age i believe it is 4 hours between feeding at night. As far as through out the day your baby will start spending more time awake. By 6 months your baby should be sleeping through the night and up most of the day except for maybe 1 to 2 short naps. However I believe thats just what I pedi said, my first born didnt actually start sleeping through the night till 10 months, and my daughter started sleeping through the night around 8 months.

2006-12-30 10:26:17 · answer #1 · answered by armywife_racey 2 · 0 0

I had the same problem with my now 9 mth old. He grew out of it. We had to hold him CONSTANTLY for the first couple of months. It was very stressful. They can't be spoiled until at the minimum 6 mths. Their brains are not developed that way yet. Ask any pediatrician and they will tell you that you can't spoil a baby that young (despite what older people will tell you). The baby just feels comfortable when held. Babies want to be close to their parents, and feel cozy and loved 24 hrs a day.

We had to make a slow transition around 3-4 mths of putting him in his crib more often for naps to get him used to it. He always fought sleep, that just means the baby is overtired and is having a hard time winding down. All babies aren't natural sleepers. Try implementing a nightly routine, like having a warm bath with lavender baby bath wash, then jammies and breast or bottle. Do the same thing, the same way every night. That works so well with our little one. That helps him to know it's bedtime. It might take a few days or weeks but she will start realizing that is what is done every night before bed.

We had to have the crib in our room at first because he would not sleep alone in his room. Once he was used to the crib in our room, we moved him to his own room. He sleeps around 12 hrs a night in there now (he is a really good sleeper, some babies don't achieve this until they are a bit older).

All I can say is to hang in there, babies do grow up. We struggled on no sleep, no family members or friends close enough to help and at times I was actually hallucinating from lack of sleep, but it does get better. Remember you can't spoil the baby yet! Keep trying to get the baby to sleep in her own bed, don't let her cry it out, or leave her for more than 5 minutes at a time crying without consoling her at this young age. My pediatrician said not to let him cry before 6 mths in his bed alone, so I didn't and I believe it was worth it.

2006-12-30 10:38:06 · answer #2 · answered by Sexy_Bunny 4 · 0 0

Love that baby as much as you can. If she wants to be held, then so be it. She will be this young only once. She can get used to it, but the spoiling doesn't really start happening until they are about 6 months to a year. It really is when thay know that they can pitch a fit and get what ever they want. Sleeping is soooo important for the baby to though. This is an active development time for the child's mind. If I remember right, a baby that age needs somewhere around 15 hours a day. They need a set schedule, from feeding times, to story time, to naps and bedtime. If their day is planned out, usually there will be better results. And don't stop just because the child gets older! Even older children need schedules.

2006-12-30 10:28:32 · answer #3 · answered by ghostriderxj60 1 · 1 0

Maybe gas is the problem.
A lot of women seem to think if you five a baby formula, or put cereal in it, then the baby will sleep longer.

This is sad though, because babies thrive on human touch.
A 3 month old baby cannot be spoiled, so if she needs attention, then she will cry for it.

You can however do things like peekaboo with her in order to progressively take longer and longer breaks from her out of sight.
You know kind of ease out of her sight and keep talking to her-and then come back, and then walk away again without alarming her that you are "going away".

2006-12-30 10:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by beagle1 3 · 0 0

No, you get spoiled when you're like 5. Maybe she just likes her mother a lot. Sometimes she isn't really tired, and likes the comfort of her mother's arms. Maybe the crib's not very comfy. She should sleep as many hours as she will. She goes to sleep at 6 and wakes up continuously.

2006-12-30 10:26:25 · answer #5 · answered by Erin B 1 · 0 0

15 hours each day including 3 naps. You can get more info on sleep requirements for different ages at Americanbaby.com. She's too young to be spoiled, but she is also at a habit building stage. You can try putting her in her bed when she is good and tired and let her cry herself to sleep. Watch and see how long the louder crying lasts. Sometimes that's how they talk themselves to sleep. If you've tried this a few times and always gone into pick her up after a few minutes, she may be learning that she can get you to pick her up by crying. (That's a smart baby thing-Not the same thing as spoiled) Try going longer beofre picking her up to see if she settles or just try patting her back to soothe her if you can. If you don't feel up to hearing her cry and you know you'll cave, just get used to rocking her to sleep a lot. Otherwise you'll just teach her to cry longer in order to get what she wants. That will majorly backfire in a year or so. Good Luck to you!

2006-12-30 10:32:06 · answer #6 · answered by Steph 3 · 0 1

You can't spoil a baby this young - no way. Have her Mom get a front carrier, like those made by NOJO, or something similar. It takes some getting used to, but that is one way to make your little one feel secure. She is only little once, and this time really will go fast. Let her know that you are both there for her, and that she can trust you to care for her no matter how much she cries, and needs you. (I'm assuming that she isn't sick or doesn't have an ear infection). I have ten children, and my husband and I have always made it our policy to answer our little ones whenever they needed us for their first year. They grew up learning that they could trust us, and even when I had six teenagers at the same time, they were still great kids, and never got in trouble. They went to us still with their troubles. This is a policy that we have seen good fruit from.

2006-12-30 10:29:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I don't think she's spoiled. think of you as an adult: do you fall asleep the minute you are tired? no, at the end of your day you need to relax before you switch to Zzz mode: a bath, TV or a book. the baby is the same, but it's worse for her cause she didn't yet learn how to fall asleep. help her by making her a bath and holding her for a while. maybe her tummy aces. most babies have trouble going to sleep and so do their parents...don't worry, she will learn to fall asleep faster in 3 months. she should sleep about 2 hours Early in the morning, 2 hours at noon, 2-3 hours after noon and another nap in the evening, and a night sleep (in breaks...) of about 7 hours, all together about 14 hours. this is from my experience with my kids (now 4 and 2). good luck and good night...

2006-12-30 10:42:04 · answer #8 · answered by Tal B 2 · 0 0

The books have the common, your toddler is a distinctive little guy or woman, and has his very own schedule/desires that isn't be precisely the comparable as someonelse's kiddo so dont take the books as perplexing and speedy policies. yet by utilising 5 months i may well be giving toddler cereal. (i began out rice cereal at 2 months or so, even nonetheless MD's and books stated later, I used my suited judgement)

2016-10-28 18:28:49 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

She may have colic when layed flat down that can make it worst for her so that may be why she is crying most babies with colic only stay calm when held take her to the doctor if this continues

2006-12-30 10:25:48 · answer #10 · answered by Sawyers girl 5 · 0 1

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