i always want to have sex.... im a virgin, but like i just want it so bad... but im holding back, because im not ready for any consequences that follow, so i dont want to have sex, and at the same time i do.... what can i do?... i masterbate, but it doesnt help it go away.......... btw, im 16 if that matters at all.
2006-12-30 10:02:03 · 13 answers · asked by =] 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i know... i dont want to have sex.... but ugh... how can i get this to stoppppp
2006-12-30 10:09:16 · update #1
wait. theres not much you can do.
2006-12-30 13:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At your age, to think of sex is normall. You also know what the consequences of having sex are and this is a very good indication that you can help yourself to control your urge.
The best way to keep yourself off thougts on havind sex now, is to concentrate on other things, such as sport, music, reading, education, cooking, home activities, cooking, etc. - whatever you think is interesting to you and which help your mind to keep off sex. With a little self-control, you can do healthy things and leave sex for a later time.
Try to avoid reading books on sex or erotic literature and dont view porn films. If you have a b/f, avoid talk on sex, as many boys are interested in sex with their g/fs. Dont succumb to peer pressure when your other g/fs boast of their sexual experiences, and politely change the topic. Dont let your b/f to induce to perform sexual activities. There are other activities which define a true companion, and having sex is not important at your age.
Losing your virginity is easy, but it is a one-time experience. You need to reserve this life-time experience for the man whom you truly love and who marries you for what you are, not for your sex. You would never regret waiting for the right time to lose your virginity as it would be a very special occasion to be reserved for a very special person (your husband).
If masturbating helps you to release your sexual energy, it is normal, and combined with self-control measures of the type mentioned above, you should be able to pass through the difficult period up to your marriage safely.
2006-12-30 14:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by greenhorn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have to much time on your hands if this is all you are thinking about. Get into some physical excerise and keep active and then wait for a while 16 is still to young for sex.
2006-12-30 10:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you find someone that loves you and that you love them also. You will never forget your first time and it should be with someone you love and care about. That is one thing in life you will never ever get back. But if your going to have sex go to the health dept. yourself and get on birth control like i did when i was 16 also.
2006-12-30 10:06:59 · answer #4 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was the same way then i had sex and then i had a baby and im only 13 but keep up the good work
2006-12-30 11:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest masterbate untill u get married. Try different things and keep discovering new ways to do it. Personal suggestion, keep it for ur husband, he'll be urs for life if u gift this to him on wedding night.
2006-12-30 10:53:12 · answer #6 · answered by ankita a 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have answered your own question. Don't have sex, you are not ready to deal with the consequences. DON"T DO IT.
2006-12-30 10:46:00 · answer #7 · answered by Karen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was put into your shoes right now, i would definitely wait. i lost mine at 17 and i regret it. i wish that my fiance was the only man that i had ever done anything with. it just makes the relationship that much more special. there are a LOT of consequences that come with sex...stds, pregnancy, etc. that's one reason that wish i had waited, i mean, i don't have anything, but who's to say that i wouldn't have gotten something? i never cared to ask the guys i was sleeping with if they had something, i was just having fun. but now, the only person i have been with for the past two years is my fiance and i know he's clean, but i still wish i had my virginity to give to him on our wedding night. please consider waiting, please, please, please. best of luck to you.
2006-12-30 10:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by Alicia Mae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Saving your virginity for your husband is the best gift you can give. I know it is tough, but pray and ask God to help you.
2006-12-30 10:06:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
do not have sex just because you need to, and only with a person who deserves... if you decide to have sex, try with a condom and try to choose a reliable person and who cares about you...
2007-01-01 12:01:36 · answer #10 · answered by Flavia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
save it. it will pay off when you get married, trust me. that's what i'm doing, or at least til i can support a child.
2006-12-30 11:18:42 · answer #11 · answered by (Beautiful Disaster) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋