My family likes to buy things that we really don't need like books, clothes, shoes, decrative items and its just added clutter and i'm interested in fung shqa, don't know if i spelled it right, that says a the way a person's home is kept affects their health, mood, etc, and i'm not a neat freak but all this stuff is not neccessary. I plan on moving out next year and love open space with some family photos, a plant, and a lamp or two. I can't tell them nothin' cause they just do whateva so any advice?
2006-12-30 09:51:13 · 12 answers · asked by Caryn B 2 in Home & Garden ➔ Cleaning & Laundry
Live and let live. Live the way that you want in the space that you want and let them live the way that they want in the space that they want. If you worry about how they live you will only cause yourself undue stress over something that you will probably never change.
2006-12-30 09:54:37 · answer #1 · answered by jimstock60 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember this, one person's opinion is just that -- an opinion. It is YOUR opinion that the house is cluttered. It may not, in fact, be everyone else's opinion. First of all, Feng Shui (and this is the proper spelling) doesn't mean living like a monk or a prisoner in a cell. Decorative effects are frequently used to direct the flow of chi in and around your home. Paintings and pictures, fountains, throw pillows and other decorative items are some times used by practioners to resolve problem areas in your life, home and garden so your complaint does not necessarily compute with the precepts of Feng Shui.
Further, books offer intellectual stimulation - a very healthy practice more people should follow. In Feng Shui, books are allowed! (It's the shelves cutting into the living space that's the problem.) The solution is to cover the shelving units with doors to prevent the disruptions.
It's apparent you need to learn more about Feng Shui before you make judgements on your family's living arrangements. It's also apparent you need to learn tolerance. You live with all those individuals whose opinion is as important or really, more so than your own. They will continue to live there long after you've moved out so their opinions are the ones that really matter. Keep your space the way you like it and leave them in peace. You just have to accept there are some things you can not change - nor should you try. That will be important to remember if you should ever take on a roommate or a spouse in the future.
2006-12-30 19:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by PATRICK R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clutter has a strong economic connection. OK, that's fancy talk for money. But people that grow up poor have a strong need to surround themselves with possessions of whatever quality. Likewise to control clutter requires adequate storage and organization which is also related to cost. This doesn't cover everyone, but probably 75%. The other 25% or so is about being overwhelmed, fear, laziness and resistance to organization. Some free spirits fear organization since they feel the quashes the artistic spirit. For those folks, take a strong look at the previous reasons. You probably can't change them, but you can keep your own immediate living space neat and tidy. Help them in little ways of organizing and they may find they like it. But....all in all, just look forward to having a neat and tidy place of your own as soon as possible. Good Luck.
2006-12-30 18:00:32 · answer #3 · answered by Jim N 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriends grandparents are a LOT like this, and i am a little like this. I think they see things they want, so they get them, but they don't want to throw their other stuff away. Like in my bedroom when i lived with my parents had a lot of posters on the wall, and pictures and paintings that my friends made for me, and all kinds of figurines that i got from grandparents, and other family members. I get attached to things and i have a hard time letting them go. I had 8 big boxes of stuffed animals that were just sitting in my closet when i moved into my own appartment. I did not want to get rid of them because each one had a story, but they were taking up so much space, so i am getting better, and i finally donated some, and threw the rest out. But my boyfriends grandparents won't detach from their stuff no matter what anyone says.
SO, i guess just you just have to deal with it while you are there, and when you get your own place you can keep it less cluttered.
2006-12-30 17:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by Stark 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"feng shiu" it's spelling nothing like it sounds, huh?
My family does the same thing. It's beacause they're lonely and it distracts them. It gives them something to do while not accomplishing anything. It's more of a "give me a cookie I've done something good" process. I cleaned up my stuff to find my bed for the night, therefore I'm clean. I thought I could get over that when I grew and moved out, but it's harder than you think! It becomes a lifestyle while you're growing up and then it's hard to think of it negatively as time goes on. Well, good luck!
2006-12-31 01:08:28 · answer #5 · answered by Honesty given here! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOme people prefer to be around clutter because they feel safer. It's partly because of Human nature, ever since the begining people would take or buy stuff they didn't need. It could come in handy later on. Other people dont like cluter "Claustrophobia " they prefer out in the open space they dont like small, tight, uneasy accessed places.
Hope that helps
2006-12-30 17:57:57 · answer #6 · answered by Soren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean, I have an older sister that has so much stuff she just does not enjoy her home at all, she does not even like any of us to show up at her house!!!!!!! I wish she would get rid of some of the clutter but I have no idea why she does this either. I am like you, we like a very uncluttered home, I recently got rid of a lot of what knots as I am not into them that much anymore either. The less I have the less I have to dust. I guess some people are collectors.............who knows
2006-12-30 17:55:15 · answer #7 · answered by ladynamedjane 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not say anything to your family because it may affect and cause problems. Just wait until you find your own place and then you can decorate your place like you want to okay!!!
2006-12-30 18:00:23 · answer #8 · answered by Carol H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're living in their house you'll have to put up with it. When you get your own place you can live anyway you like.
2006-12-30 17:58:10 · answer #9 · answered by annie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
so don't try to tell them live and let live you live the way you like and let them live how they like. Uninvited advice is often unwelcome.
2006-12-30 17:55:36 · answer #10 · answered by setter505 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋