See I have been with him forever. we have two kids and a house. He is not willing to change. He leaves at 6:00 am to go to work and doesn't come home until 3:45 am the next day. I have talked to him about it and he just won't listen and I am tired. He says that I am not giving him a chance to prove himself, but s*** after 5 years, a 9 year old and a 1 year old I figure he had enough time.
2006-12-30 09:37:40 · 15 answers · asked by ltonyasfun 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Boot him to the curb! I hate to say it but coming from a man he is already gone. So to speak. All I can say is don't have sex with him without a condom!!!!! God only knows what he might have?
2006-12-30 09:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by Richard W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well for one he isn't getting any sleep at your house, and no man can do what he's doing without sleeping somewhere. SO where does he work. Because most jobs that I know of will let anyone quit for the day around 7 or 8. SO what's he doing all the other time? ANd he should be home often than just to sleep 3 or 4 hrs. And he will be sorry when you leave him. Try again to talk with him and if doesn't want to do nothing about it hey leave him. And try to get as much as you can from him.
2006-12-30 17:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run, run, run from this load of baggage . All he's proving is that he is a royal a**hole. His butt should be home with you and his kids when he gets off work., Quite obviously, that is not where he wants or needs to be. So why stay with him?? Talk to a divorce l awyer ASAP. Don't worry about the money right now.... that's why the lawyer will work for you. Also, if you afford it, hire a private investigator for 3 or 4 days to find out where he is going after work. That's how my friend caught her husband in another woman's bed. Look, this is no way to live your life. You and your kids deserve so much better. Please don't continue to put up with this. He has a marriage of convenience, so of course he's not willing to change. You can do this.... act NOW!!!
2006-12-30 17:48:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he won't tell you or won't be truthful with you then I would say he has had enough time. If not then you need to ask him point blank what is going on with him. You have a right to know since you are his wife. If he can't confide in you, who can he confide in? This is a matter of trust between the two of you. Maybe it is time to separate from him first and see how that affects him and by the way take the children with you.
2006-12-30 17:45:29 · answer #4 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why have you been with him forever. This sounds like you should have been gone long ago. It's a two way street. If you're going one way and he the other, someone has got to give. That's not to say you cannot have other interests in life, but it sounds like you're not on the same page. There is just not enough info here, but it sounds like it's time to make a move.
2006-12-30 18:10:34 · answer #5 · answered by colorado_mechanic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he is gone for almost 24 hours??? what the hell is he doing and why after he gets off work does he not come home to see his children he is an adult now time for the little boy to grow up and be a man and no longer go out and act like he is single, I hope you give him all kinds of shi**t
2006-12-30 18:17:49 · answer #6 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tell him you have had it and if he cant be a husband or a father then your moving on and finding someone better you cant sit around and wait for ever to find out if hes going to change you have kids now and they need a good father figure not one that stays out till whenever so give him a little while after telling him this and if it doenst work it doesnt work and move on
good luck either way though
2006-12-30 18:14:47 · answer #7 · answered by advise_gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer to this one. As one who is going through a divorce to someone who was never home and didn't care and didn't want to change, I know how you feel. You need to give him an ultimatum with a firm time frame. Go to counseling. If all else fails, tell him to hit the road.
2006-12-30 17:55:21 · answer #8 · answered by Laura O. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you married? Have you been to counselling? When you look into your heart, have you given it everything you can? It's really hard to give advice about ending a relationship when there is hardly any information given to judge it on. Counselling is always good- see if you can get him to go, and make sure you find a good counsellor- there is lots of crummy ones out there.
2006-12-30 17:44:27 · answer #9 · answered by Peace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I hate to say this "But" you aren't actually tired enough.What that means is this:There is a saying that says this When your sick and tired of being sick and tired you will do somthing about it.Which means it's your choice to deal with it or get out of it.Come on 5 years and you haven't figured it out.How about 25 years and just waking up?"Good Luck"
2006-12-30 17:46:01 · answer #10 · answered by gblue52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋