She is visiting for 2 weeks and we are in love.we don't live together and I have an 11 yr.boy.I have not been around little girls and i really want to make a good impression.She is the most important thing in his life so i really want her to like me
2006-12-30 09:37:27 · 22 answers · asked by JESSICA S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i would be genuine.
dont be "in her face".
she may view you as threatening beacuse you are with her daddy and not with her mommy. and that is nothing that you can control. she is little.
i would suggest taking the approach of, "hi sweetie, i am daddys friend __________. it is very nice to meet you. oh, that is a nice _____________ you are wearing. did you have a good christmas? what did santa bring you? oh, you must have been a very good girl this year....you must be a very special girl."
what do you have planned to do with your daddy while you are visiting. oh that sounds exciting. wow.. i have never gone ____________ that should be fun. have you ever done that before? my son, who is 11, was just talking about that..."
make her feel comfortable, like she is the focus- and not like you are pushing yourself on her.
dont feel upset if she wants to spend some one on one time with daddy. that should be expected- again, she's little and will need some space. maybe SHE will invite you do to that __________- that you have never done- if you sound excited enough about it.
good luck!
2006-12-30 09:45:00 · answer #1 · answered by The MD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, do you have a great opportunity! First off, get the girl's interests from your beau. Find out what she likes to do and not to do, how things are between him and her. And get the info on her favorite treat. Then, when you meet for the first time, go down on one knee as you meet her and offer to shake hands. If she does that coy hiding behind daddy's leg thing, offer the treat. If that works, great, but don't get up until she meets your eye and you get a feeling that she at least isn't afraid of you. If you don't have to offer the treat, don't. Save it for the car trip to your home or where ever.
Ask her easy questions, but questions that require more than a yes or no answer. Like ask what's her favorite food or cartoon character. Does she like Pokemon? Be as confident and comfortable as you are with your son and don't try to win her over. That'll take lots of pressure off of both of you. Just be her daddy's girlfriend. Engage your boyfriend in conversation, and periodically include the girl. Have your son there as well and let him know this is important as you wanted his meeting with your boyfriend to go well. He has a chance to make the greeting and subsequent two weeks be favorable.
Be yourself from the first. The real you will show up during those two weeks whether you want it to or not so just relax.
Best of luck to you!
2006-12-30 17:55:40 · answer #2 · answered by Sanctorin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, just be yourself and dont try and force conversation, but dont let her think you dont care. As has been said, kids are very intuitive and she will probably be nervous of meeting you. Maybe find out what she likes and take her a small trinket, if she likes horses get her a pin or something. Just a small thing. Good luck with it and if her dad loves you, odds are she'll feel the same, even though it wont be an instant thing.
2006-12-30 17:58:17 · answer #3 · answered by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to set up different activities that will allow you two to form a bond.
5 year old girls love things such as painting, making jewelry, playing dress up and chatting. Try to be yourself and ask her questions about her friends and the things she likes.
Little girls at that age are usually pretty easy to get along with. I'm sure that you'll have a good time together!
2006-12-30 17:42:06 · answer #4 · answered by GingerMoon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If she is a natural talker and wants to get to know you, she'll be the one to break the ice and just follow her lead. If she is shy, don't push too much. She'll probally be hiding behind daddy the whole time. Take cues of anything she is doing, playing a game? join her, reading a book, watching tv? join her, make her feel comfortable. Don't try to bribe her, just let natures take it's course.
Oh if she's a brat (yikes) just play with her and the dad together as a group, cause they'll get crazy on you.
Good luck.
2006-12-30 17:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by rexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself and have fun with her. Little girls usually love to have their nails and toes polished. Color and play games. Take her to the video store and let her pick out a movie. Pop some popcorn and have a slumber party. She'll love having a new best friend.
2006-12-30 17:43:40 · answer #6 · answered by autumn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, dont try to "win her over". Be yourself..be kind, be funny, be open, and make sure you give her and her dad space., don;t be attached to his hip constantly for instance...don't talk with syrupy voice or promises of good times or toys...try to treat her as if you've known her forever..very casual...learn abouther interests, but dont sound fake...smile alot....and always side with your boyfriend..not 'bending' to the girl's wishes just to get her to like you...she needs to learn to respect you too. Most important of all...relax! Have fun!
2006-12-30 17:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by ♀♥☼ alycat☼♥♀ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first you shouldnt try winning over kids cuz they can tell and then they make your life hell so first just be your delf and try to play with her get her games and things to play with show her that you have thought about her visit and try fixing some of her favorite foods besides that just be nice and friendly and she will warm up to you she is little enough that she will quick so get ready to never be by your self when shes around
good luck
2006-12-30 18:18:36 · answer #8 · answered by advise_gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first thing is not to try too hard. children just want to be treated like little adults i think. my son is five and my bf's daughter is 12. i can understand your pressure. just ask her questions and let her talk about herself. the fact that you take the time to listen to her will be good. And dont smooch in front of the child. good luck.
2006-12-30 17:41:52 · answer #9 · answered by cutencurley_05 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be your self You boyfriend fell in love with you for being your self he would want you to do the same for his little girl. Think about how you want him to act around your son if that helps.
2006-12-30 17:40:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋