I told my close female friend that I needed time away from her to clear my head after she kept giving me undecisive answers if we'll go further than friends.She said if that's how I feel then she respects that and that maybe I do need time to sort my head out.(told her I don't know what to think\do anymore about her undecisiveness,am confused,need to clear my head).
She then said there are too many ppl in the world who are 2 faced and selfish,who don't value individuals like she does.Is hurt that OTHER ppl don't value ppl the way she does.MEANING???
Not spoken for 3 weeks now(the longest ever!)Have I hurt her?Would she still be thinking about me?The friendship over?
I've tried to call her 3 times-no answer and have txt her-no reply. Will she get in touch with me or has she decided she wants nothing to do with me anymore?
I really want to be friends-have accepted thats all we'll be.Is there anything else I can do?
I regret everything I've done...she's really special.
2006-12-30 09:35:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
For xmas I sent her a xmas card and a small teddy(saying special friend)-just saying merry xmas and happy new year. I wrote a short message how special and unique she is+ how important the friendship is to me.
Am not sure if she has received it yet.Would she get in touch after receiving it?
2006-12-30 09:35:15 · update #1
p.s. the txt didn't mention any of this-just kept it simple e.g. hey,how are you? etc
2006-12-30 09:43:48 · update #2
I would leave her alone for now. You've tried your best to contact her, and now it's her turn to try and get a hold of you. Also, I think that she needs time to think and to be alone. I don't think your friendship is over, but maybe she regrets confusing you with her undecisiveness. Just leave her be for now. If she does not contact you for a month, well, I do believe that the friendship is over.
2006-12-30 09:43:09 · answer #1 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that she was giving you "undecisive" (sic) answers leads me to conclude that she was uncomfortable back then, and by having this time away, she has had chance to sell up and move to Spain.
The question you have to ask yourself, is do you want any self dignity? Because if you carry on chasing her, you will have none.
If you step back now, you may find she will eventually get back in touch, if you keep after her, I see a court order in your future and your name on the sex offenders register.
You have to stand by your original call, you chose to ask her about being more than friends, and it failed, she didn't, and now the genie is out the bottle and the friendship would be forever tainted. It's painful 50/50 to make, but you made it, and you have to live with the consequences, you can't take it back, she will always know how you feel, and that will make her uncomfortable.
You made the call and lost, but imagine the alternative, having never said anything, and forever being chewed up inside about not knowing.
2006-12-30 19:40:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she told you she has been hurt, she wanted reassurance that you will not do the same. She is also possibly freaked out. It's her who couldn't decide, and if she still can't decide then as you say, it's good to assume you will be friends. Drop her a line, asking her how she is. Or send her an emai. Apologise if she felt pressured to make a decision and tell her you will love to be friends either way. At the moment she is probably feeling you can't be friends either way. After all, you told her you needed time away.
2006-12-30 17:44:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've done all you can...sounds to me like she needs to clear her head also...maybe she's having a think about you and her...she probably feels the same way only has been burned bad in the past...she values you as a friend and probably thinks as lovers you may not last as long....give her time bud, she'll come around...give her some space and I know that is hard! but please try....
2006-12-30 17:44:33 · answer #4 · answered by JackLove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly i would send her a wee txt in general terms, dont mention this at all if you must just say you value her as a friend and want to contining being friends, if more happens later fine.
I would say you both are confused and she is giving you the space you asked for. one text and wait for her to reply.
Good Luck
2006-12-30 17:40:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you hurt her by what you described?
NO!
Have you done something you haven't written?
Obviously she's been hurt before and she is not ready for commitment. So because she doesn't want to hurt you too,
she is taking her distance.
I hope you are not the one that hurt her in the past...
2006-12-30 17:46:50 · answer #6 · answered by Elena E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you keep on asking to same question over and over again. ive answered this before.
just let it go. you've done what u can, wait for her to come to you. find another focus, get on with your life,
cus after seeing how many times you've asked this question you sound very obsessed.
2006-12-30 17:48:39 · answer #7 · answered by jaynieleigh22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi why dont you suggest going to the cinama,meal,etc something that you both will feel relaxed(break the ice) then you both can start to relax a little then ask her how she feels ask her what she wants at least then it will put your mind at ease
2006-12-30 17:55:24 · answer #8 · answered by Don 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go around to her home :O then she cant turn you away at her door. be sorry and tell her how you felt and do feel. it may be hard but whats the worse she can say? no i dont want to date you.
2006-12-30 17:41:55 · answer #9 · answered by ~ Twirl Girl ~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've done it now,everyone told you to back off,you have scared her.
2006-12-30 17:45:30 · answer #10 · answered by Pat R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋