We have a 5 yr. old boy who I am debating on fighting for custody. I am worried that this may seem like I am just trying to get back at her, but I am more worried about my boy. Reasons: she has cheated on me multiple times, so what kind of environment will this create? Also, she kicked me out with 2 days notice, the day before our 5 yr anniversary, so she could meet another guy the following day. She took our boy to meet him, AND he slept in the hotel room with them, AND they had sex in the same room. She kissed him within a couple hours after meeting him, in front of our son. She smokes pot. He sees his mommy sleeping with another man, and then sees her holding me. (Yes, she has continued having sex with me, before I found all this out). He is showing visible signs of stress. She cannot manage money, has no bank accounts and insurance, and is always stressing for rent, even with child support. She lives in GA, I in TN. I visit every 3 weeks while footing the bill.
2006-12-30
09:28:47
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Yes, I have some documentation. While I was hooking up some electronics for her, I found a journal that lists alot of stuff. I am debating on tape recording a conversation and getting her to admit some things.
2006-12-30
09:40:51 ·
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I can tell you that it very hard to take custody away from the mother and it is almost impossible with an attorney . if you do try let me give you some advice...... DO NOT go into court slinging mud at her go in with the best interest of the child in mind you do not as the father have to prove her unfit all you have to do is prove what is in the best interest of the child take pictures of his room show what you have to offer check into the schools find out how good the schools are put down on paper what your work hours are and what time you have to spend with the child. write down times and dates of things that happen good or bad keep good notes. show the time and effort you are willing to put into your child and what it means to you to be the one to raise your boy. let them know that the mom is OK as a parent but prove it is in the best interest of the child to be with you. if you go in slinging mud they will think that the child is going to be in a hostile environment and that is no good for any child. show them you are willing to to work with the mother to make things good for the boy. AND AS A SINGLE FATHER OF TWO FOR ALMOST SIX YEARS STOP AND THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE DOING IF YOU TAKE CUSTODY YOUR LIFE IS NO L0NGER YOUR LIFE YOU LIVE FOR YOUR BOY !!!!! GOOD LUCK I HOPE YOU MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE WHATEVER THAT IS!!!!!!
2006-12-30 10:19:58
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answered by hmwh_mwc 2
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I don't think that anything tape recorded would be admissible in court. I understand about your concerns for your son but l am not sure whether they would take him off his mother for those reasons. You can certainly try though and l do wish you well. Perhaps try getting him into some form of counselling for his stress and what a counsellor says would be taken into account. Although l guess it depends where you live. Here in Australia a judge will listen to or read a counsellors opinion to determine who the child would be better off living with. You certainly sound as if you would be the better parent but unfortunately it doesn't matter what l think, l am not a judge. I wish you all the luck you need and lots of happiness for the New Year.
2006-12-30 10:02:25
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answered by kazzadanni 4
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Why aren't you on the phone with the lawyer right now? That baby has nobody but you to keep him safe. Does he deserve to live in this kind of environment? Don't debate the cost or stress or whatever....a Father steps up to the plate and does what he has to protect his child. If what you said is true, honey, you be on the lawyer's doorstep Tuesday morning.
I have a young friend, who was just award custody of his little girl. Sounds almost like the same story. He had to leave his job, and move back home, but he doesn't regret any of it. He tucks her safely in her bed at night knowing, she's been feed, bathed, and loved. Do you know those things about your son? Honey, please think about this..heck, there's nothing to think about. Call the lawyer!
If she gets into trouble with the law, they will put him with social services till you can make the arrangements. Kids have tough enough times to go through just growing up with a loving parent much less one that custodial parent is more interested in her life then his. Please call.........
2006-12-30 17:08:15
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answered by totallylost 5
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Wow, you haven't any longer a clue, have you ever? Cindy Sheehan is making an attempt to maintain greater solders from loss of existence for no reason, that's greater considerable than determining on a gravestone for her son. If I had the prospect to fulfill her, i might tell her how sorry i grow to be approximately her son and save up the solid paintings. The insanity is that we invaded a rustic that grow to be no hazard to us for motives that became out to be fake with no plan. that's what's morally corrupt.
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answered by ? 4
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It sounds like you have every reason to be concerned about your son and as a father you are wanting what is best for him. If you know what you are saying to be true then make the plan with the attorney to fight for custody. It is hard to take a child away from their mother and to do so you are going to have to have proof. No matter what remember one thing......YOUR SON LOVES HER........she might not be anyone elses idea of a mother but she is his and he is going to love her no matter what. Be there for him make sure he is safe but don't drill him about what is going on instead let him come to you if he wants to, to do otherwise is putting him in the middle of an adult matter and making him chose between parents. Fight but be careful with his feelings. Good luck to you. I just read your add on and tape recordings are going to be inadmissable as evidence unless she knows it is being done. I have been there with my ex and know it is a fight and your life will be watched just as close as hers.
2006-12-30 09:42:55
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answered by mandj_stahl2006 2
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If you want custody of your son, then go for it. There is nothing in this world that says men can't care for their children as good as any woman. You'll need to talk to a lawyer about all that is involved, but I feel that if you want to take full charge of your son, and are responsible enough to do it, then by all means, do it. Even if you don't succeed, in the end, your son will know you tried.
2006-12-30 09:41:12
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answered by Anonymous
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Absolutely fight for your son. Even if she did not do those things, a boy needs his father as a role model and his mother as well. If you can not get full custody, you have every right in the world to have 50/50 residential custody. Here's something to think about, when all is said and done, do you want your son to think you did'nt care enough to fight for him????
2006-12-30 09:34:08
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answered by twistedmister64 1
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I would say you need to have your son live with you if your life style is more kid friendly. She sounds like she is going threw a stage of the only thing that natters is her self. I would also encourage her to get help because the child will see his mom do this no matter who he lives with. The answer to your question it is worth it.
2006-12-30 09:38:11
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answered by Anonymous
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Make sure you document EVERYTHING. If I were you, I would fight tooth and nail for your little boy. Don't you dare give up on him!!! She doesn't sound like a very good mother, and he needs a stable parent in his life.
2006-12-30 10:01:30
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answered by Laura O. 2
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Go for it. The mom seems unfit. The child deserves much better and you seem aware of this. Good luck!!!
2006-12-30 09:31:24
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answered by DivaDynamite 3
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