Recent death of Son in motorcycle accident, Please Help ?

Question

My cousin Cleo has no computer & I am asking your help in sympathy,compassion, encourgagement, and stories you can relate of your own loss & etc.. I want to give your answers to her.
Think this would be good for her.~~ Cleo's son Jesse(48) had a bad motorcycle accident on 12-13-06. He lay in critical care for one wk. Cleo never left him. He was not councious. Traffic had slowed over a rise on U.S-290 & Jesse rear ended a pickup truck. He died 1 wk. later on 12-20-06. Prior to his death Jesse had lived with his Mother since 2001 when his wife wanted a divorce because she couldn't deal with his Crohn's disease.Jesse had 2 sons that he missed all the time, ages now 16 & 21. Jessie was creamated so there is no grave to visit. The Memorial was nice. They are not affilated with any church. They were extremely close. I have called her every day since the accident and I want to be there for her as much as I can. Dear God I pray for her healing.
Thank you ! and a Happy New Year to you all.

Answer 1

First of all my condolences. There is no greater pain than to loose a child and nothing that anyone says really matters at the time it is only when the heart starts to feel again that you can look at what is being said and see the message in it. My son Storm Andrew was killed 10 years ago when our car was broadsided by a drunk driver. He was 11 months old, just walking and babbling and always had a smile for anyone he met. For months I hated everything and everyone, I blamed God and anyone else who still had their child. I grieved in a way that was almost deadly. Finally one day as I sat in his room I realized that my son would be terrified if he saw me that way. He always wanted people to be happy and would show off to make you laugh. By shutting out all of those who loved me I wasn't keeping my son's memory alive. Oh it wasn't easy but I got involved with volunteering, I planted a flower bed in his memory, I opened up to others who loved him and we all shared our stories laughed together and cried together. In order to grieve you have to accept and that is the hardest part. Your cousin has not only lost her child but her best friend, get her out to walk in the park let her know that you are there when she needs you, get the grandchildren involved having them around will also be having a part of her son. Only time will heal but it does get easier even if we never forget.

Answer 2

I am so sorry for her loss, especially at this time of the year. She will be all right. It is going to take some time to get past this tragedy. Be there for her and support her in all ways you can. Take old pictures of Jesse and put in an album so she can look at him everyday. Think of the good times you had with him and tell her. Never forget what a wonderful son she had. I lost a child during childbirth on Dec.6 years ago. It always pains me around this time of the year. I know it is not the same but I lost someone too. Maybe you can spread Jesse's ashes somewhere where he loved to go and you can go there and remember him. I hope this helped and I am so sorry. What a good friend and cousin you are. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

as a biker my heart bleeds for your cousin, there are really no words to ease the pain, just time will. you can start by telling her, her son died doing something he loved. everyone who rides a bike knows that someday this could happen and they accept it as part of riding. her son dies doing something he loved, how many of us can say or do that? my prayers will go out to his sons. he is riding with god now...........

Answer 5

There is alot of sites on the internet to turn to for this type of support, one is called Angelmoms. Its a very nice site. Please know she will be in my prayers.. I hope this helps her healing process...