My 8 month old kid is too attached to his mom.
He cannot stay without her for more than 10 minutes.
Especially when he gets up from sleep, he is just desparate to see his mom if she is not seen for a few seconds he starts crying like anything until he sees her. Is it normal or should i consult a doc?
2006-12-30 09:10:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
This is very normal.....she carried the baby inside of her, not you so he is attached to her....
2006-12-30 09:12:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
1) Children under the age of 3 can not be too attached to their moms
2) Your son is starting to exhibit the ability to realize that people are separate and that he is separate from his mom. This is a normal developmental stage. Most children go through a phase where they act nervous around "strangers" even relatives they do not see every day. This normally starts between 7 months and 1 year. It is usually called separation anxiety.
3) The more securely attached a baby is to their mom the less severe separation anxiety tends to be, so attachment is in fact a separate issue from separation anxiety. (Which isn't to say you can't have a completely attached baby with awful separation, or vice versa. I am speaking statistically).
4) Despite what anyone tells you there is nothing you can really do to get through this phase any faster. Gradually increasing the length of time mom and baby are apart, or making rituals about going away don't really do anything. But you keep trying things and then eventually it goes away on its own and credit is given to whatever you were trying at the time, when in fact both it starting and stopping are just normal developmental milestones that parent's really have almost no control over.
2006-12-30 09:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is very normal behaviour. My 10 month old daughter is like this too.
What I've started doing is getting other people to hold and play with her while I'm in the room. When she's having fun, I leave the room. Initially it's for 30 seconds, but I keep entering and leaving the room and extending the intervals.
Now she's fine to sit and play with my husband or my sister and only wants me when she's hungry or bored.
2007-01-01 00:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by midnight_lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is pretty common their is a special bond between a mother and her child . IM going through some of the same things with my wife and 20 month old child . YOur child just has to learn that thing will be ok with out her there . She has too give the child some space and let him or her cry it out . At night put the child to bed and let them cry they will learn independence and confindence in their relationship.. Dont take it personal I know its tough when your child seems to not want you and only there mom but in time things will change . Spend more one on one time with your child to build a stronger bond between yall and that will help Good luck man It gets better. trust me I have 3 children of ,my own and one on the way so i have some experience
2006-12-30 09:19:31 · answer #4 · answered by tigerb29209 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is normal behavior. Some kids go through this more than others. The baby needs to learn that it can also rely on other adults in his/her life. If you become more of a constant presence, and try to take care of more things, the baby will bond with and attach to you as well.
2006-12-30 09:13:56 · answer #5 · answered by ytra 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How wonderful that she is a good mom and shows him love and he knows it! It means he loves and trusts her, it's a good thing.
It's fine, and normal at this age, for seperation anxiety to increase. If it makes you feel better to talkto a doc then by all means do so.
Also, studies show that "dependant/attached/spoiled" infants/toddlers/preschoolers become the most independant school-aged children. So stop worrying!
2006-12-30 09:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How much time do u spend with ur kid? The baby might want to interact with his mom more because she is not spending enough time with her. If that's not the case, then go see a doctor and consult with him.
2006-12-30 09:14:48 · answer #7 · answered by angelsoldier 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's normal. He is probably with her more than you. She has to be more adamant about laying him down to sleep now because it only gets worse. I have a 6 year old who was the same way. I just started getting her to sleep in her own bed in february of this year.
2006-12-30 09:13:38 · answer #8 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
totally normal. Kids like familiarity. I went back to work 6 weeks after having my son. My husband was in college at the time, and he had my son all day while I was at work... My son was much more attatched to my husband at that time than he was to me, just because he saw him all day long. Now that I am home, and my husband is working all day.. my son is much more attatched to me. Kids like to know what they know.. If they know mommy means comfort.. they will go to mommy. Thats not to say he doesnt love you, and doesnt think of you as his parent just the same he thinks of mommy as his parent..but mommy is what he is most comfortable with. He will grow out of it :)
2006-12-30 09:17:38 · answer #9 · answered by Kristin B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perfectly normal and he will outgrow it. Chances are he might go through something similiar to you as well over the next few years. Its all part of growing :-)
2006-12-30 09:13:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to be out of his sight for say a minute then return then gradually increase the time out of sight. Once your baby realises mummy does return each time all will be fine.
2006-12-30 09:13:58 · answer #11 · answered by madamspud 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋