Did anyone else never want to be anything but a wife & mother? From the time I was little all I ever wanted was to get married & have a baby. Both my dreams came true although my marriage didn't last. I know women are just as good as men in business, I just never wanted to go to College. I feel like my life is happy & complete. Is there anyone else on here who is or knows someone like me & what's your opinion on it?
2006-12-30 08:59:45 · 22 answers · asked by gitsliveon24 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Please don't think I'm looking down on women who want more. I just want to know if there is anyone else who feels the way I do. I have a daughter who wants to go to college & have a career & I'll support her fully. To each is own & whoever said that not all women want children is 100% right. Being a mother isn't for everyone
2006-12-30 09:07:21 · update #1
Please don't think I'm looking down on women who want more. I just want to know if there is anyone else who feels the way I do. I have a daughter who wants to go to college & have a career & I'll support her fully. To each is own & whoever said that not all women want children is 100% right. Being a mother isn't for everyone
2006-12-30 09:07:25 · update #2
Hello I have just read some of the comments and it makes me sick. Being a house wife does not mean you are dependent on men, does not mean you are lazy, does not mean you are not liberated, does not mean you don't work hard, ect...
Being a house wife is one of the hardest jobs I have ever had, yet one of the most fulfilling. I love taking care of my husband, kids and house, in return my husband works outside the house for us. Its a two way street I work hard to but people don't see it like that.
I feel the mother is best at home with her kids. I see so many kids being raised by daycare. Sometimes money is tight and she may have to work, but so many choose this. Yes we need women in the work force to do jobs men can't. We need women doctors and things like that. But I feel the family comes first before anything. There is always time for a women to work when the kids are older and out of the house or don't need her at home as much, or maybe when the kids are in school.
I commend you my friend. God willing you will find another husband who will cherish your desire to be a house wife. It is an admiral thing and don't every let anyone tell you different.
2006-12-30 09:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by Umm Ali 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've found that a lot of married women tend to get evangelistic about their lifestyle by putting down their single sisters. I am an attorney with no intention of marrying any time in the near future. Finding a man and reproducing does not make a woman better than than others who chose a less stereotypically feminine path.
You, on the other hand, sound like you might be lacking in confidence. If you are happy with the life you chose, you don't need anyone else to validate it, especially anonymous people who don't know you or what brings out the best in you. As long as you did what was right for you, other people have no business passing judgment on your choices. God gave them their own lives to live.
2006-12-30 17:11:22 · answer #2 · answered by curiousme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't really plan to be a mother or a wife. When both happened, I worked up until a month before my oldest child was born. I took a leave of absence to stay at home with my daughter and decided to give up a career position with a multi-national company to become a stay-at-home mom. I stayed at home with my children, and then my second husband's children until they were all into the teen-aged years. Don't let anyone fool you. Staying at home with the children, maintaining the house, managing the money, and all of the other things a mother does is WORK -- you just don't earn a paycheck, retirement plan or benefits. I now co-own a business with my second husband that requires me to travel, and I love it. I wouldn't trade the time I had with my children or step-children for the world, even though I will suffer for it later on when I decide to retire.
2006-12-30 17:04:55 · answer #3 · answered by kc_warpaint 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What you want I don't think is all that unusual or unimportant or unreasonable.
There are some women who think they'd like a good deal to stay home with the kids while someone else suport them, and for them I have very little respect, but this does not sound at all like you.
So, don't let anyone tell you that you are not important, the job you're doing with your kids is not important, or that your being a "housewife" or a SAHM has little value or worth. (And this is coming from a long time feminist who has always wanted to work and probably would not be fully life-satisfied or happy being a SAHM.)
2006-12-30 17:06:01 · answer #4 · answered by answerme 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Since you are asking for an opinion.
I think it's kinda old fashioned to just want to be a wife and mother. It's one of the many achievements most females will get to if they choose to have this as one of their milestones. I feel there's more to live for in life in addition to having these goals.
Good on you for wanting those goals. I have my own goals, but if I were to meet someone whose goals only centered around those 2 things and knew they were the same in highschool, I would find it rather challenging to hang around with such a person to put in a nice way. It feels too Mills and Boon to me. It just goes on to make me feel sick in that I've known some girls who dream of meeting Prince Charming and being swept off their feet and baking cookies at home and breeding. The world is different these days. We are given better education and the opportunities to benefit from this to make our lives equal to males if not better.
I've achieved my other goals in life before becoming a parent (I'm expecting my first child).. so who knows.. my views might change to just wanting to be a wife and a mother.. but at least I know I've done other things before I die.
2006-12-30 17:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by lyssaria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought that I'd become some kind of artist I actually had 2 semesters of commercial graphics but when my child started school and was evaluated I learned that he would always challenged.I somehow knew at that moment that I was destined to be a mom and I accepted that gladly because what could I do that was more important than to stay home with my child and help him with his challenges.We've crossed many "hurdles" in life and learned from all of them .My son is now 17 and I don't regret my decision to be a stay home mom.It was the best thing for me and him.
2006-12-30 17:09:42 · answer #6 · answered by hippiegirl672003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure, there are a lot of women who just want to be a good wife and mother. nothing at all wrong with that. raising good children is one if not the toughest jobs to do.
women like myself would like to have a successful career as well as married and have children. i don't have any children, but would like to someday. i sort of like the idea of being a stay at home mom. some women can't do that type of thing. just differing personalities i guess.
if you feel happy and complete thats GREAT! there are some women who have it all and are not happy and complete.
2006-12-30 17:03:49 · answer #7 · answered by curious_One 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. I want to get an education and have a decent job so that I don't have to depend on anybody else... but really my main goals are to get married and have a family. Don't get me wrong, I'm not "husband-hunting", but I just know that, whatever else I do with my life, family will always be the most important thing to me.
2006-12-30 17:05:51 · answer #8 · answered by BabyBear 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have always believed that the best thing I could ever do with my life would be to become a mother. I think that's the best thing I could ever contribute to this world. I will contribute well behaved, raised right good children.
Nothing else interests me as much as that, nothing else would be able to fulfill that for me.
2006-12-30 17:02:45 · answer #9 · answered by seriously2sweet4u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm your exact opposite. I have zero urge to become a mother, and the jury is still out on the wife thing. But, I totally respect those who have that calling. It's a thankless job and yet one that has a great impact on our future.
If you are happy and you feel fulfilled, that's all that matters.
2006-12-30 17:04:41 · answer #10 · answered by Jadalina 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋