my partner split up 3weeks ago due to his mental state which he got very manic, and ended up hitting me, me family dont want me to take him back, me boy hates him due to him hitting me, but i still love him can any one please help me
2006-12-30 08:19:36 · 10 answers · asked by A A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my partner has been calling me and wanting me bk, i want him but my family dont, his cried and cried inhospital wanting me bk what should i do. we split due to his mental state 2wks ago he got so manic he hit me and my boy saw red, now they all hate him cos he said nasty words to them all and he wasn't in controll of what he was saying, part of me says will it happen again due to his faluse beliefs, they've 9ncreased his medication to what it should of been when we were together and now his much calmer, i do worry about him even thou we split and my heart is still partly with him,but im torn between him and my family, im in the middle and i want both family and him,but the family dont want anything to do with it cis his mental condition, they say im taking on a lot, its tearing me apart cos he wants to be with me and they dont, what should i do
2006-12-30 10:18:03 · update #1
My advice is not to take him back. Now I know you love him, so if you do take him back make sure it is on the absolute condition that he be on medication for his bi-polar disorder. Be aware that many bipolar patients go off their meds so they can get the manic feeling back because they enjoy it...my guess is that he will hit you again....if that happens leave immediately and NEVER, EVER go back or even talk to him unless it is to see him in court for the assault and domestic violence hearing...
2006-12-30 08:26:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may love him but do you love him beating you up? Im afraid everyone else here is right in your case though. There is absolutely no reason for staying in an abusive relationship. You actually may be afraid of life without him, but you cant stay in a relationship where you never know if the next time he hits you, you may just not get back up either or what happens when youre not around and the kids are when he goes off again. Get rid of this guy and move on,even for your sons sake. And dont be afraid to contact the authorities if and when it happens again or get a protective restraining order against him if needbe.Good luck and have a fantastic new year.
2006-12-30 16:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it that you love about this man? Because what ever it is, it's not worth getting beat up over. I will give you the same advice I always gave my daughter; If he hits you once, shame on him but if he hits you twice, shame on you for being there. Think more of yourself than to be a punching bag to a man that is taking his frustrations out on you. He is a piece of crap and you deserve better. Let him deal with his own mental state. You can not fix this problem
2006-12-30 16:30:37 · answer #3 · answered by sunny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your partner is a mentally ill person and needs professional help. If he hit you once he will probably continue this behavior and it will get worse. Your son may try to protect you and wind up getting hit also and maybe worse.
Run away as fast as you can from this relationship before it is too late. You will get over it and be very proud of what you did for both yourself and your son.
2006-12-30 16:56:54 · answer #4 · answered by madisonian51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a man that will treat you with dignity, respect, caring, and love. There is no excuse for hitting a woman unless she is trying to harm or kill you. There is another man out there for you that will love you and not hurt you. You can't see that now because this guy is in your life but you will if you leave him alone and take time out for yourself and family!
2006-12-30 16:37:06 · answer #5 · answered by Michael C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any relation that is abusive is not worth it. No one can make a decision for you. U have to decide yourself. Do some introspection. Going to counselor is a help. Talk to people you trust - parents close common friends. In the end you have to decide.
2006-12-30 16:44:35 · answer #6 · answered by AarCee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not even consider taking this abusive man back. Love is only an emotion, you will stop loving him and get over him given time. I wish you better choices in future.
2006-12-30 16:33:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take him back- this is not going to be a healthy relationship- and now both you and kid will be afraid of him- you'll never know when he will strike again.
TAKE CARE
2006-12-30 16:22:50 · answer #8 · answered by Taz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the decision will lie with you, but a good long term therapy session would never hurt either, before you reach your decision or after
2006-12-30 16:40:12 · answer #9 · answered by Befree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you shouldn't
2006-12-30 16:23:19 · answer #10 · answered by ~sharmo~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋