How do you deal. I'm going nuts. And please none of this "romantic evening with candles and roses b.s." that's not what I mean. I'm talking about being "comfortable". I wish there was a place I could rent a mistress just to wake my wife out of her stupor.
2006-12-30 08:16:37 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When I try and talk to her, it turns into excuse after excuse. Its as if acts like this to spite herself....does that make sense?
2006-12-30 08:22:06 · update #1
Everybody !
You can not wait for your spouse to entertain you. You have to develop your own ways and methods to entertain yourself and your spouse!
2006-12-30 10:00:09 · answer #1 · answered by ben c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she needs a cold hard dose of reality. Say "counselling or I think we're headed for a extremely bad place in our relationship". Tell her you are talking to her now so you don't make bad choices out of desperation. Tell her you are dying to have a more stimulating spouse. Try seeing if she'd be open to anything in the books I've listed below or the conference. It sounds like she has gotten ultra comfortable and has started taking you a bit for granted. Be sure to let her know you love her more than anything but really need more in life and that you really want that to be with her. She may also be depressed... would she be open for counselling on her own? I can't think of any other reason she wouldn't want to try to "be your everything". The rewards are so incredible when you can open up to each other and experience the real intimacy of marriage- that which you share your deepest desires and fantasies and each of you work your hardest to make those come true for the other person. My husband and I have this and I am so thankful for it- I wish so bad that every marriage could have it. It's all about communication and work that isn't hard work, but extremely rewarding work. Don't give up and don't do anything you will regret. She can come around for you if she just has the right motivation. Best wishes.
2006-12-30 16:40:05 · answer #2 · answered by Peace 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have one of those. He has alot of health issues. One of which is terminal cancer. He is retired military drawing a pension that is huge actually more than $8000 dollars a month he was a high ranking officer in the Navy.
He doesn't do much of anything. Just sleep, eat, shower, read books, play with his rare coin and stamp collection, an goes to his doctors appointments twice a week. He also works in his greenhouse for a few hours a day.
He'll attend theatrical plays with me, and concerts we have season tickets. He's 52, I'm 57. Yet, we rarely have any love making anymore.
I'm going nut's myself as i would like some action on a more regular basis too. I've thought of getting a man friend myself to do something comfortable while i wait for this bag of **** to die.
There are places where one can rent a woman for an evening, check your local phone book.
2006-12-30 16:50:09 · answer #3 · answered by michellebanks1 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just talk to her and let her know how you feel. Maybe she is depressed? is this abnormal for her? For about 2-3 weeks before Christmas i was very depressed (we had no money, problems at work...). It drove my boyfriend crazy because i just layed on the couch all day, and never wanted to go out and do anything. Well, Christmas passed and i feel better now, but maybe something else is depressing her. Just a suggestion, i hope this helps.
2006-12-30 16:25:31 · answer #4 · answered by Stark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hot Link I hear you. 25 years and counting for me. But the mistress wont wake up your wife. She'll just get you killed honey.
I don't have your answer. I've heard it all too. I have my own story and all the counseling, all of the talking and all of the advice in the world sometimes just doesn't help.
It's hard to just go quietly into the night....
sigh
2006-12-30 16:48:00 · answer #5 · answered by outdone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like YOUR the trouble Bub. All you want is wham bam thank you mam. If your serious, you sure can go out and buy a mistress. She is in LasVagas, Nev. Maybe it is YOU that is undisirable. If you don't feel anything for her, then you would look like one of those downhome boy's with a beer in one hand and a playboy magazine opened to your favorite page, and imagine what's in your other hand.
2006-12-30 16:27:04 · answer #6 · answered by cprucka 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my guess is that you are a go getter- you like to get things done and you like to control how they are done. Your wife is ---laid back and likes peace at any cost. She is non confrontational. You need to understand her and she needs to understand you. What would Dr Laura say to you? Communication is the key. Tell your wife you have had thoughts about stepping out on her, but that you really don't want to. Tell her what is on your mind and snap her out of her comfortabel behavior that is hurting you. GET the book from Dr Laura and give it to her. The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands.
2006-12-30 16:23:00 · answer #7 · answered by Northville 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK first year is fantastic after that a death penalty for guys
my mom and my friend's moms are exactly alike
they hold sex hostage and over our dads heads
and because of this they fight and argue a lot , and some of them ( yes I know he does this but what can he do) they get a girlfriend on the side
then if caught, the wives will yell cheaters, but wait, before marriage them messed a round maybe once or two times a day, after marriage once maybe if they are lucky a month.
and they call foul when a guy goes out and gets what he NEEDS daily
give me a break
move one
go get more of them there are so many looking for you
2006-12-30 16:25:37 · answer #8 · answered by david s 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Sometimes boring is better than drama...get out of the house together once in awhile.. ask her what her fantasies are..
2006-12-30 16:38:14 · answer #9 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look on the Internet. under herbs, sex. theres a number of herbs that stimulate sexual response..then give it to her.I forget what herbs I took years ago, but they worked.for me.I could really feel the affects of the herbs. made me horny.honest. try that.good luck.
2006-12-30 16:23:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋