Me and my bf plan on gettn married sumetime next year. Any good tips to make sure my marriage is a long success? Ex. what to do, what not to do....etc. Thanks n advance
2006-12-30 08:08:54 · 15 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be honest - get all secrets out (if there are any) so that you form a good foundation of trust. Discuss both of your limitations regarding what you will and will not tolerate. Make sure both of your dreams for the future are in sync - goals are important, and making sure your future goals are the same is a must. Communication and trust are the only way to have a successful relationship. If you start it out this way, your relationship will blossom. Also, if both of you are constantly trying to make each other happy - everyone wins!
2006-12-30 08:16:15 · answer #1 · answered by 2mom35 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-22 21:42:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
COMMUNICATION is the key. You will also need to outserve each other. Read Dr Laura's book on the proper care and feeding of husbands. If you have a common goal in life, don't get sidetracked. READ books on relationships and don't give up on marriage. You will have hard times and times you want to quit- but don't. My favorite book on understanding people is Personality Plus. You will understand yourself better after reading this- I suggest taking the test with your BF to see how you will mesh together.
2006-12-30 08:42:50 · answer #3 · answered by Northville 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well my wife and i have been married for 28 years and we did a lot of what others have already written. emmie , benny and rcdc_wva. all wrote of things that we did find helpful plus butterfly #1 on waiting to have kids. marriage and children are both big adjustments and i think to go through two big adjustments quickly makes it harder
during the first year of our marriage we got rid of tv to force us to interact with each other and get to know each other well
my wife has always worked real hard to keep looking good for me and i appreciate it but i think that so many women let ther looks run down quickly after marriage and they need to realize that it is like telling your husband that you don't care about him anymore like you used to when you dated
we try to get away three times a year but we don't date each week like some do but i think the principal is the same
2006-12-30 13:06:18 · answer #4 · answered by David C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of the other answers are so good. Itt seemed like they were mostly from women. So as a husband, what I really want is to feel needed, appreciated, and secure. Even though, if it happens it is not something you would do on purpose, do not make him feel like he is in competition for you. We men need assurance often that we are doing a good job, and that you love us. Be honest and let him know respectfully (which is sometimes hard to do) when he has messed up. He has to do the same for you. I don't really know what women want, but it would be great if you would let him know.
2006-12-30 11:12:10 · answer #5 · answered by jason 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish you all the luck in the world. The biggest thing is open communication. That way each person knows what upsets the other person and will do things to avoid the other person from getting upset. I would also say, that if you think about each other first, in every decision, then you two should grow old together.
2006-12-30 08:13:50 · answer #6 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm happy for you. Treat your marriage differently than being just his gf. Your in it for the long haul or least you want to be. Don't over spend consult with each other about money issues. Respect each others needs to still have friendships other than you. Don't change the sexual things you did to get this man.
2006-12-30 08:54:14 · answer #7 · answered by GoldenGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to each other. make sure you keep time to spend together. no matter how busy life gets. go out once a week. if children come along always get a babysitter and go out at least once a month. every so often do something different in bedroom that will send um wild.
2006-12-30 08:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by Emmie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well make sure that you love the person with all your heart, thats easy to say now but think about 5 or 10 years down the road. its not worth hurting him or you if you are not sure.
2006-12-30 08:11:54 · answer #9 · answered by tarahabear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 DO NOT HAVE ANY CHILDREN THE FIRST YEAR OR TWO OF YOUR MARRIAGE, TRUST ME
#2 MAKE SURE YOU BOTH HAVE CONFIRMING JOBS BEFORE YOU WALK DOWN THE AISLE
#3 GO OUT TO EAT AND MOVIES AT LEAST ONCE OR TWICE A WEEK
#4 GIVE YOURSELVES PERSONAL TIME TO ACTUALLY MISS EACH OTHER MORE
GOOD LUCK
2006-12-30 08:22:09 · answer #10 · answered by Butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋