what do i do about my mom?

Question

i have three proberblems with my mom, first tho, we live in the back hills of montana.
1, she always flants around like, "i'm so inportant, and beautifull" well, she's all but beautifull. and she really does,t care what she looks like, but thinks she looks like a super modle.
2, she's 47 and acts like she's like 14 and one of the " cool girls"
and she has no since of style, but looks at all the new dayz stuff and thinks she would looks great in it if she wasn't so fat.
3, the only thing she care about is her feelings, her stuff, her pain, her life, and what she wants, she will talk endlessly, to the point where i want to screem "shut up" about all the stuff, she has, wants, feels, and hurts. and i've had a worse 13 years then she hes in her 47.
i've done drugs, snoked, sueicide, and alot more. and she doesn't know any of this, because whenever i tell her anything bad i've done, she gets mad and starts yelling about her rep! what do i do?

Answer 1

reread the answers above (exept the one by "wkdpixy")

Answer 2

Sounds to me like you are a very mature young lady, and have been given one heavy cross bare. Hon, your mother is a very immature women, probably has never left puberty...I bet she has never been truly loved or appreciated in her life. Except that her life is what she has made it, give to her some measure of kindness, love her just for being your Mother, but do not let her bitterness upset your life that you stop living and being happy. Learn from her mistakes, continue going to school, get an education, make something of your life. An Education will open the doors of the world to you. Give to Society and you will be rewarded.. There is so much pain and suffering out there, superficiality is such a waste, look what it has done to your mother. Be brave, do not be afraid or condemn and be bitter with your mom or with life.. Look for the good in everything, and you will find Happiness.. Good luck and Happy New Year to you.

Answer 3

Congratulations! You've just learnt another lesson in life - adults are not perfect.

Your mother is going through a crisis in life. Unlike you, she doesn't have the best years of her life ahead of her. She has nothing to look forward to, only work.

What?! YOU'VE had a worse year than her because you've done drugs, smoked and suicide? Honey, these things you've done to yourself, life doesn't throw these things at you. Have you ever thought she might not have told you everything that's happened in her life? I had no idea what my mum had been through until recently, and now I certainly don't deny her a life now. Even though parents can be annoying, you'll find out in time that being an adult is not easy, and they have far more problems than you could imagine.

Answer 4

Your mother sounds like a real bag of ****! I think you should get in touch with someone in your church or maybe familys social services or a school counselor. Tell them what is going on and how it's making you feel.

I feel sad for you, as it must be very difficult to deal with.

Your mother definately needs counseling, probably both of you do.

Answer 5

Forget about her, worry about yourself, since obviously she doesent and should. Quit doing drugs, take care of yourself and stay in school. Study really hard so you can get scholarships and leave all that backwoods Montana bs behind. First and foremost, stay afterschool with a tutor so you can get your grammar up to par. At home, avoid the television and read lots of books.

Answer 6

1. Dont ever do any of that stuff again! I wont help your life at all
2. Talk to her sit her down and tell her how you feel and what you have done
3. If she doesnt listen to you you should live with your other relatives.

Answer 7

SPELL CHECK DOES NOT COST A THING! Sounds like you are jealous of your Mother...and all that spite and venom will poison you before it causes her even a moments discomfort. She is your Mother and you should have a bit of decorum when speaking to or about her. If you don't agree with something she is saying, have the presence of mind to tell her that you don't agree and simply be honest with her as to how you came up with your retort. You don't always have to agree, but you don't have to be hateful and hurtful either. Best wishes to you with this endeavor. I hope you learn to communicate with your mother before you ruin what should be one of the greatest interactive relationships you could ever be blessed with.

Answer 8

She sounds like a real piece of work. Don't let her drag you down though, use the tension and pain as a force to make you strong enough to get the hell away from her when you're able.

Answer 9

You'll hate your mother much less when you're older. sounds like you're just 13 and every single 13 year old girl hates her mother and everything she does. it's natural. you should be more worried about yourself and your habits. It's too late for her to change who she really is but you're just beginning life. make smart choices or you'll become exactly what you hate in your mother.

Answer 10

She going though a horrible midlife, menopausal crisis. It is very common with women her age, but YOU should not be suffering for it. See if you can talk to a family relative or anyone for help for YOURSELF first, and your mother second.

Answer 11

Stop the drugs and the suicides. Find positive interests outside your home. Mom will not change.