It's Christmas again, and once again I spent around £15 each on my four closest friends. In return I got back basically the same as last year, absolutely nothing apart from one of my friends bought me a book I really wanted.
I also sent Christmas cards to at least 18 people that I know, and recieved 0.
It was my Birthday two days ago and all I got as a gift was a bottle of wine from one of my friends, and not so much as a "Happy Birthday" from any of the others. (Bearing in mind that I spent roughly £20 on each of them for their Birthdays throughout the year)
It's not that I give to recieve gifts, but it would be nice to just have a card or something?! What should I do? Should I tell them that they are thoughtless and inconsiderate selfish etc? Or just wait until next year and not buy anything at all for them? It's just depressing really... Give me your opinions please :)
2006-12-30 07:36:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i understand completely, yeah i feel a little insulted if i spent the time to get a gift for someone and you get nothing in return, did they say thank you? if they didnt thats out of line. if these keeps up just stop bying them presents i mean it shouldnt matter that much, and instead go out and buy urself and get somthing. happy birthday
2006-12-30 07:40:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand why you're angry. It sounds annoying. But maybe they simply don't have the money to spend?
I wouldn't dump them as friends, if you get along well, that should be enough. Stop giving them presents and cards if you receive nothing from them this year. And don't bother taking it up with them. I'd rather receive nothing than receive presents given under duress.
Some people see no reason for cards either (me included) If I see you most of the time, whats the point in getting a card that reads to blah "happy birthday" from blah. Its just a waste of card to me, perhaps they feel the same? If you hardly ever see them however, and write a small letter along with the card, then they are very important.
Well, seems an annoying position to be in, hope you resolve it :-)
2006-12-30 15:45:29 · answer #2 · answered by Xenophonix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me as if you have one true friend. I would put my effort into that friendship, and forgo the others when it comes to Christmas or birthday gifts, and cards. Do not point out the boorish and thoughtless acts of those who have no manners, as they will think you silly. Give them your best wishes when the birthdays and holidays roll around this coming year. You have been a better friend to them than they have to you, but they are more aquaintences as they have not proved themselves to you as true friends to continue to receive your good cheer, gifts, and cards. Do not become depressed, as you sound like a wonderful hard to find friend.
2006-12-30 15:40:28 · answer #3 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really like these people, telling them they inconsiderate will only cause problems.
Whenever I give a gift, I never expect something back, not even a card. The gift of giving should be its own reward.
2006-12-30 15:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by jimlgina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHen I was in middle school I gave all my friends (close or not) valentines day cards for two years and didn't get a single one in return. So I just stopped
2006-12-30 15:38:40 · answer #5 · answered by Alila 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
heck no from what i have heard you are so much better than that you are caring you need something better stop wasting your time it is just worthless to even bother it would be a wast of time but really do you like to hang out with them are they true friends just think about that then do what your heart says, but personally i think you should move on to better things in life
2006-12-30 15:42:40 · answer #6 · answered by Tay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude you are a guy right, who f%$kin cares. I get my friends gift and don't care if they get me anything. It is in our nature, it don't mean they are doing it to hurt you they just might be viewing it a little differently than you. It may mean more to you that to them.
2006-12-30 15:44:07 · answer #7 · answered by Baddude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they take u for granted dont let it happen again serouisly you sound a good guy. Im sure you can find better people to be freinds with who will treat you better
2006-12-30 15:38:40 · answer #8 · answered by LILAC_GLITTER 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
heck no
tell them how you feel explain to them what is going on the pattern tell them basically what you just told us on yahoo answers. and on top of that find some caring respectful considerate friends who will not take you for advantage
2006-12-30 15:37:30 · answer #9 · answered by dork 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them! I had this problem.. I started ignoring them and then they wondered what was wrong.. Started to wonder why I was all pissy at them. Next Birthday, I was showered with love..
The world is an awful place, isn't it..
2006-12-30 15:38:47 · answer #10 · answered by Blountmonkey 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋