I have been talking to a woman in the Philipinnes and I really like her we seam to click.I am going to see her and she asked if she can sleep with me while i am there Do I drop her She wants to get married later.
She Is roman Catholic one 22 year old not living at home And she goes to church every week.
2006-12-30 07:24:13 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Travel ➔ Asia Pacific ➔ Philippines
She is 54 her daughter is 22
2006-12-30 08:24:00 · update #1
I was stationed in the Philippines and 99% of the women over there just want a free ride to the U.S......please do not fall for this crap....now i not saying all are bad,just watch yourself dude...make sure you are thinkin with the right head.....you have no idea how many times i answer these questions on here.
2006-12-30 07:45:42 · answer #1 · answered by crazycul1 5 · 5⤊ 8⤋
You leave out a lot of important information in your question. What lead up to this conversation about sleeping together?
Where does this young lady live? What is her Job?
There are a lot of GRO girls that attend church every week so that really isnt a determining factor.
Do you want to get married?
What is your age?
Its great that your visiting her make sure you go visit her family.You can tell pretty quick about her if you keep your eyes open to all your surroundings while there.Look for signs especially how much the topic of your money comes up. But dont be a cheap *** also.
If you guys get along and you both feel like sleeping together then take protection and go ahead. If then you decide to marry her thats ok also as she will be interviewed and go through a physical.
Just follow your heart and keep a hand on your wallet. Use common sense and you will be alright.
If you get a chance Check out the Yahoo Group "PLIP" Philippine Living Island Paradise its full of information that you will need to make the trip!!
Have a great time and relax most of these post are by a lot of people that really dont know what their saying and have limited knowledge of the Philippines.
Jerry O
PLIP
2006-12-30 17:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by Jerry O 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
The girl is only 22..don't assume much...at this age, she is still unstable and will keep changing her mind..
If you have a problem sleeping with her and you don't like the idea, then tell it to her and she might realize that she has meet a nice decent guy,or any issue that she needs to know..You both can make a decisions..no one gets married alone, whatever she says. no one can force you.
There are lots of Roman Catholic in the Philippines, and 22 is dependent age to live alone. Going to church is a good sign, that she will know her limits about sleeping with you..
There is difference when a woman says she wants to sleep with you,,for a man it means she wants to have sex with you..is that right?
If you think the relationship will click.. then follow your heart...
Yes, Brian is right, don't listen to others about degrading Filipinas.. there are many Filipinas living and having a succesful life everywhere with their foreign husbands. The way you love and respect her..is what you get having a very loving and respectful wife later..
Yes, it is true there are cheaters around..and it's unfair to this girl if this is not the way she lives her life.
Out of curiosity in your past questions...are you really serious about this girl? it seemed like you don't want to be with her in private... just curious....
Happy New Year!
2006-12-31 01:00:33 · answer #3 · answered by Ny 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I too am 54, however my current gf there is 25. I have been chatting all over the Philippines for 3 years looking for Ms. Right. Women are generally the same worldwide, want security and a ring. I have been cheated there several times as well, so guard your heart and your wallet.There are investigators there that can check her out before you travel. The Internet cafes there are full of filipinas and ladyboys looking for money and older kanos. (American men). The economy there for the most part is bad, too many people and her being a catholic,well most are anyway.. Check out this site. Don Herrington is a retired American living in Cebu and this site can help you a lot. If you have yet to talk live to her on cam and on phone, do so soon. Make sure you see her actually talking to you, as I could tell you so many stories there.http://www.livinginthephilippines.com/
Email me perhaps I can help.
If you have been chatting with this woman for some time and she is now serious with you, I noticed the sex question is a test some pinay do there as they are very experienced in chatting with men. They want to see if you really respect her or are another sex craved lying American. This could be her testing you.
2006-12-30 20:04:38 · answer #4 · answered by AJ 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
An interesting question. Now that people know the age situation, they can stop assuming you are 54 and she is 22. I once chatted with a woman who asked me the same thing, I didn't take it seriously, but if you do make the move I hope it goes well for you.
2007-01-05 09:10:23 · answer #5 · answered by WMD 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are some very good people in Phill, but like any part of the world, there are some people that are not very sincere.
I have learned it this the hard way.
Also most of Filipino English is spoken or written they way they think (not grammatically correct), so it is very easy mis-understood.
Understanding their culture is very important, so on your first visit there, I will not except anything.
If you have any fantasies, please leave them home before you board the plane and maybe you will be pleasantly surprised.
Do except large families and do not forget to bring a lot of gifts and cash, (this is where understanding the cuture is a must!)Credit cards are only accepted in major cities and malls. Also expect to pay extra 3-6% extra if you use your credit card.
Also be careful on some of the provinces you may want to visit..
Do a lot of search on the internet....search...search ...search
2007-01-01 21:25:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i say go with an open mind. talking over the phone or through email is vastly different from meeting somebody in person. spend some time with her and see if you both still "click" with each other.
it sounds shady to me that she already told you that she wanted to get married later. without (i'm assuming) even seeing each other in person first? and as a rule, filipinas are not very straightforward when it comes to sex, so maybe there's another motive in her wanting to sleep with you. and all filipinos go to church every week, lol.
best of luck to you. if nothing else, i'm sure you'll have a great time in the philippines.
2006-12-30 16:36:11 · answer #7 · answered by BlueBox 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Philippines is a beautiful country to visit, you will enjoy your experience there. I wiill advice you to go there for a visit with an open heart, do not limit yourself to just one person, allow yourself to meet other people and other women. If you sleep with the girl, you will eliminate your chances to meet others.
It makes me think that you are not sure on what to do, you are confused which is the reason why you pasted this question here. Also, take note, most Pilipino are Catholics and they go to church every week, it does not make them a saint going to church.
Take Care and a happy new year. MABUHAY
2006-12-31 02:02:19 · answer #8 · answered by trykindness 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who's 54? Who's 22?
2007-01-01 16:16:43 · answer #9 · answered by Dave Star 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Check her status in life, a 22 yr. old woman
would'nt be wasting her time with an American
remember, it's a sad reality, but every poor
woman here in the country going out with
an American is merely looking for a ticket
out of this country, anyways, how do you
know she goes to church every week??
take it slow, don't rush things, sleeping with
her will land you in big ****.
2006-12-31 07:52:14 · answer #10 · answered by -Answer- 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Look if you like her, and want to sleep with her then go ahead. Just be smart about it. Wrap it up if you don't want to wrap then don't sleep with her. Don't listen to that crap that all Filipino woman want is a free ticket to the states. Not all Filipino woman are bar girls. There are hard working class woman in the Philippines that want a good man to love, and be happy with the rest of their lives. My Filipino wife and I have been married for 10 years now.
2006-12-30 19:04:48 · answer #11 · answered by Brian F 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋