2006-12-30 07:22:04 · 21 answers · asked by Daniel Johnson 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes I am a virgin and I do care. Pre-marital sex is against god's will.
2006-12-30 07:25:53 · update #1
Suck it up.....And you are?!?
2006-12-30 07:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by Katie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a real serious problem for you, then I guess you'll have to look for another Virgin.
If you truly believe in God, you know that each and everyone of us will each face him on judgment day. At that time HE will handle it, HE will either condemn her or forgive her!! It is not YOUR job to judge her. Love her, or let her go, what ever you want, but know that you may be throwing away eternal marital bliss, and how do you know that isn't what God wants for you both?????
2006-12-30 16:03:06 · answer #2 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dan, my first question is, How long have you known her?? Have you both spent enough time together to get to know each other well? And most important, do you (both) love one another to look past one another's faults?? reguardles what they may be?? If you can get past the last question with no problem, you're on your way toward a good marriage. probably the most important part of any relationship is the willingness to be able to talk with one another,(this is hard for most men because we don't think ...or talk... like women do) and settle any disagreements BEFORE you go to sleep, and be willing to forgive with an open heart. I'm no counselor, but, love, and every aspect of it, comes from the heart. I wish you both good health and a great relationship. One other thing, consider each other the best of friends, always, it helps with communicating, sharing thoughts, dreams, desires, (everything) with one another, and always try to do you're best to romance her as best you can, like going someplace where you can enjoy a sunset, or sunrise, ocean waves, if you live that close, or anything that you can both enjoy that leaves you both feeling at peace and close with one another and/or yourselves.
2006-12-30 15:41:16 · answer #3 · answered by greywolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's good you are against pre-martial sex. I am to. If you love her you'll accept that and still marry her. When my husband told me he wasn't a virgin before we got married I still married him because I loved him and I didn't look at him any differently. If you love her you'll put the past behind you and her and marry her. It was hard on me since I wanted to be his first and he was going to be mine but I wasn't going to dump him just for that. I don't have a cruel heart and I'd regret it for the rest of my life so she made a mistake that she's praobly wishing she hadn't I know my husband does and you should forgive her and move on. Don't break up with her just because of this unless you don't love her in which case I say if you don't then don't go through with the wedding but if you do love her and want to marry her then put this behind you and marry her.
2006-12-30 15:31:12 · answer #4 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just deal with it! Before i got married to my husband i wasn't a virgin and he was. We are perfect for each other. You shouldn't fault her for her mistakes because she now knows the one she should totally be with she is making a commitment to you and i think you should cherish her for that. Sometimes things happen and you wished it could be changed but i don't think you should blow off the wedding because she isn't a virgin. You still love her and im sure she still loves you and thats what marriage is .. Just sit down and talk about it if you want. But get married ! It will be awesome.
2006-12-30 15:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by blink182_chick_for_life 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should pay her respect and honour as much as you can because she has accepted you her husband.She also can criticise more more bad things related to you but she isnt...You consider her weekiest in the society therfore you have worst thinking. Imagine if you get married you sister someone else.Her husband indicates after two months that she isnt virgin,What would your opinions be,.anyway you must be co-operating otherwise you must be regreting and falling in troubles, remaining all you life. Remember one never ever satisfy in its life.Happiness is around you. You can get it if you wish.Dont throw the happiness away. It is up to you either you chose right way or wrong.
2006-12-30 15:53:56 · answer #6 · answered by phoebe p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't a virgin! My goodness! I would expect probably not, unless you are marrying a 12 year old. I'm assuming you are in an European country or the States. If you are in an Arab state you just bash her brains out with a boulder and start looking again, if not, don't worry about it.
2006-12-30 15:26:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont marry her. it is best for you and her. But tell her the reason politely and say this is just your firm belief and not in anyway intended to hurt her. A girl whose marriage gets stopped before 2 months is a shattering experience for her and her family. But it is still better than marrying someone who carries a thorn in his throat.
2006-12-30 15:43:45 · answer #8 · answered by answeringmachine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ask her before you proposed marriage? If she lied, that is another issue in itself. If she lied about something like that to keep you, she is not trustworthy.
However, judging your wife about this is also not God's way. A true Christian forgives others and does not judge.
If you cannot forgive her and never bring it up again, don't marry her.
2006-12-30 15:32:04 · answer #9 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends whether or not it truly matters to you,,whether or not she has lied,whether or not this is something you cannot marry her over,whether or not it actually changes anything between you and her.do you love her? does she love you? because it is this that matters and no one else needs to know yours and your wifes business,these things are private! take a look at the woman you are about to marry,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, DO YOU LOVE HER? if so,,let it go and forget it,,you have a life to share and that is so much more important.it will only effect your marriage if you are going to throw it in her face and i guarantee you she will want to leave you before you want to leave her because she will know you chose her knowing she wasnt a virgin just to use it later against her and that is so much worse.
2006-12-30 15:29:44 · answer #10 · answered by lex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well so what? That is in the past. Since she agreed to marry you then you should be happy about it. She loves you now and she wants to spend the rest of her life with you. You should leave the past in the past and forgive and forget.
2006-12-30 15:26:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋