There is a married man that I have become good friends with over the past year and a half...but I think I am in love with him. He knows that I have feelings for him. He does have children, 2 - ages 13 and 16. When we are together, time stands still. I believe we were meant to be. Should I stop being his friend to get over him or is there a way to make him fall in love with me?
2006-12-30 07:20:13 · 31 answers · asked by Moi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wake up, there is no "meant to be"...if there was, he wouldn't be married to someone else.
You don't want the karma from breaking up a marriage, that's just selfish and thoughtless...treat others as you want to be treated. Would you want someone trying to lure your husband, and the father of your children, from you? If not, then why do it to someone else?
Why are women so much more hateful and inconsiderate to one another than men? Makes me ashamed to be a chick sometimes...
2006-12-30 07:24:10 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
There's a hundred different ways of doing it. But the most important question you should ask yourself, is he really worth all of these? Why would you trade yourself with a married man when you can find a single man?
If you are looking for trouble then trouble is what you're gonna get if you don't stop this foolishness. Don't be deceived, the heart is deceitful above all things, never ever trust your emotions because it misleads you into doing something you'll regret later in life. It's like gathering a big rock and smashing it right straight into your head. Avoid him for your goodness sake. Think about the children's future, they deserved a happy home, don't you think so?
2006-12-30 07:39:53 · answer #2 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have so little respect for yourself that you want to ruin the lives of two children by stealing another woman's husband away from her and forcing the kids to have divorced parents? Besides, if he cheats on her with you, I guarantee he'll cheat on your with someone else as soon as you are together. This guy is a jerk. You need to look in the mirror and realize you deserve better. Don't be the kind of person who wrecks a home. Go find an unmarried man to love. This man will never really love you (he may say he does to get sex), and he may not ever leave his wife, besides. Get some counseling if you need to, but stay away from married men.
2006-12-30 08:08:58 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the two of you are meant to be, he is the one that has to make this decision to divorce his wife, and then you are in for a loooong process of custody battles, lawyers depositions and then they are forever linked via children. You have a crush or you have fallen in love with someone who may or may not feel the same, you were not clear of the fact, does HE think that you are the one for him? maybe he just wants to get some on the side and is manipulating you? No matter what this situation is very complicated and to be honest with you, no matter what you feel now, there are enough single men out there for you. If you choose to get involved with him then know that you may only end up as his mistress and a broken heart. Now, at least, you have some leverage, if you haven't slept with him yet, you can still cut all ties.
Good luck,
2006-12-30 07:32:33 · answer #4 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand that there is another woman and two kids involved here. It sounds so exciting I know but there will be lots more excitement and stress if you end up going for this man. Not only will you have two kids in your life that will probably hate you for breaking up this family but you will have to deal with the ex for the rest of your life as well. He will have to pay child support and will have some custody of the children. I think you need to find a single man to fall in love with. You are being very selfish and foolish if you ask me. Just think of it this way say things were to work out with the two of you what makes you think another woman will not take him away from you as well. There are so many fish in the sea find a single fish. Good luck.
2006-12-30 07:27:00 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't know. What I do know is that it's a HUGE waste of time. More times as not these guys are looking for some strange to feel more alive or to feel as though they "still got it". They are neither interested in nor are they planning to leave their wives. No matter what they have told you or how sincere they sounded when the said it, its not going to happen. Conversely, some women enjoy the noncommitted nature of seeing a married man. They get the once or twice weekly booty call to satisfy their needs and they can be who they are without the intrusion of a man telling them what they can and can not do. Final word: most people cannot handle casual sex. One will always get more attached than the other and, eventually, feelings will get hurt and hurt bad. More times as not, its the family of the cheating man who gets caught in the crossfire.
2016-03-29 01:08:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I'm going to tell you things you really don't want to hear...
Why on earth would you want to do that? And if by some reason you did get him to fall for you, what makes you think that he would be true to you? Or even leave his family? What makes you so different from his wife, who's given him years, and children?
If this man you so love cheats on and leaves his wife, how can you be certain he wouldn't do the same to you some day? Is that really the kind of person you want to have in your life?
Get on with your life and stop thinking about him. Join a club or a church group. Make other friends.
2006-12-30 07:26:06 · answer #7 · answered by AJ2006 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
well honestly if this man is in a healthy marriage breaking it up wouldn't be the best answer not to mention the fact that he has children. After all there is a reason why he is still married. You should step aside just to see what happens if he hasn't given up his marriage yet and he knows how you feel then the answer is pretty clear. You know what should be done but it seems to me that your in denial, the longer you continue in this situation the worse things will be in the end...whatever u decide
you should put into action right away...just remember what comes around goes around.
2006-12-30 07:43:00 · answer #8 · answered by Amusing but confusing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you really want to? Nothing good will ever come out of this, ever! If he felt the same way you do then he would be more than willing to leave his family, so this is probably more one-sided than you realize. Hes not going to leave his family for you and thats the bottom line. So forget him and move on and find someone else to invest your love and time into. Good luck and have a fantastic new year
2006-12-30 07:27:46 · answer #9 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you two are meant to be then he would be divorced. I strongly suggest you don't get your hopes up with this guy, you are going to be the one who is disappointed. Please don't believe his bulls**t about how is wife is such a bad person, or how he is only staying for the kids, etc. You are setting yourself up to be hurt, please go find someone single to have time stand still with, afterall the time that is standing still with the married man, isn't your time at all, it is his wife's time. By the way, you can't "make" someone fall in love with you, I don't care how good the sex is, either they are going to fall in love with you or their not....move on.
2006-12-30 07:24:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋