I'm 14 and just had sex for the first time two weeks ago. My parents just found out and they say I'm not allowed to do it any more. Do you think that is right? I get good grades in school and have never really gotten in troble. What's wrong with sex anyway?
2006-12-30 07:18:43 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's illegal until you're 18 for many good reasons. The world doesn't need another unwed teenage mother, so stop acting like a ho-bag.
2006-12-30 07:21:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG~
My niece did the same thing - and now regrets it. She is only 15 years old, and has cried many tears - and has more regrets at 15 than many adults have at age 30. Slow down and enjoy just dating. There isn't anything wrong with sex when you are in a serious relationship between 2 mature people. If you are religious, sex before marriage is a sin.
First - self respect. That is the only thing that is truly yours, to be given to someone truly special. Even if you meet that someone special at age 14 - you won't truly know until later in life.
Second - reputation. Guys that age are only out for one thing - once they get it - or rather stop getting it they just move on to the next. If you say no more - then he will most likely move on to someone else. Then he will talk about you to others - other guys will assume that you are easy and other girls will hate you because you are easy. LOSE LOSE situation.
Third - regret. When you eventually meet that special person that you want to marry - you will regret having made that decision.
Fourth - disease
Fifth - pregnancy
2006-12-30 15:27:30 · answer #2 · answered by 2mom35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Claire, you really need to decide if it is right in your heart. Your parents are just trying to make sure you don't make bad decisions in life ( I agree with your parents on this subject ) . You don't want your friends calling you names that you may not like. Wait until you find the right person that may offer you a lasting relaitionship. (14 is too young ) You should not look at sex as ok as long as you get good grades than it is ok ( wrong ) . Also think about this for a minute, you don't want kid at 14. You probably don't have a job that will support a child at your age, and I am sure your parents don't want to raise your child for you, so wait for the right person ok. good luck
2006-12-30 15:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by WRECK MASTER 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Inherently nothing is wrong with sex. Others will tell you that you are too young and I would tend to agree with them. There is a huge amount of responsibility that must be undertaken when you are sexually active. You must know about STD's, how to steer clear of them and protect yourself. Don't say it can't happen to you.
Sex also usually involves the feelings of two people and how they feel about the other person and how they feel about themselves. These feelings are important to know--in many cases it has a lot to do with self-respect. Also sex is a very private thing.
Your parents have every right to tell you not to do it anymore. That's OK, but it really doesn't address the situation. I think you need some guidance here, but no judgmental guidance. Morality is not the issue. Your welfare is.
2006-12-30 15:35:55 · answer #4 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think 14 is by far wayy to young to be doing that. i lost my virginity when i was 16 and i had been with the guy for 3 years, and i'm still with him. school is VERY important, and sex does change things, even though people say it shouldnt, it just does. not always for the worst, but it does create discussions. your parents are only looking out for you. i cant tell you what to do with your body, your parents can tell you, and you dont have to listen. know the consequences. get birth control and use a condem. think of how this will effect you.
sex is a very big deal. it should be special - not something people just do because they feel like it and they want it. but people dont think that way. nothing is wrong with it, if it is used in the way it is supposed to be used, and not just for the heat of the moment.
think about what youre doing and if its right for you.
other than that, talk to your parents...LISTEN to them too.
they know what they're talking about.
2006-12-30 15:24:46 · answer #5 · answered by Beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't be having sex until your old enough. Trust your parents opinion on this and continue to talk to them about it.
Sex early in life can mess you up. You can grow addicted to it or find that you devalue it's worth. It's an important part of bonding with people you love. Make it anything less than that & you'll damage yourself and any relationship you might have.
When your mature enough to handle it is when to have it. And, saying you should be allowed to do it because you've got good grades and haven't gotten into trouble shows you're really not.
It's not like going to a concert. It should mean more than that.
2006-12-30 15:24:01 · answer #6 · answered by bionicbookworm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with sex? you are 14, you can't even get a job. What is wrong with sex? you can get diseases, and even worse get pregnant. Right now you have good grades, will you have good grades if you are 6, or 9 months pregnant? your parents have been down that road and they are just looking out for your safety. No they can't stop you from having sex, there will be ways around it.. But one day you will fall in love and wish you had waited to have sex for that someone special
2006-12-30 15:21:33 · answer #7 · answered by just_acali_girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It always freaks parents out. The risk for pregnancy and disease is great. I'm a parent with daughters as well. Two are active, one is not. I'm a realist, I leave a few boxes of condoms in a bathroom cupboard where everyone has access without asking. Bottom line is I know, but that doesn't make it right. You should wait, but if not, be careful ... herpese, aids, hepatitis b, hepatitis c, etc., you cant tell if someone has it, and you may not know you do for years until you need a liver transplant.
2006-12-30 15:24:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are to young to be having sex in the first place. Your parents just don't want you to do something stupid and get a disease or get pregnant. Why would you want to risk that at your age? Your parents are right you shouldn't be having sex. It has nothing to do with you getting good grades or not they just don't want you to make a huge mistake. If they didn't care they won't say anything.
2006-12-30 15:23:19 · answer #9 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, at 14 I didnt know much about life & responsibilities. With sex comes alot of responsibility. It's great to have sex when you're in love with someone, but at this age you would not be ready to deal with the consequences of a possible "slip up" meaning a possible pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, hurt feelings, loss of self esteem, rape, etc. I think you should wait until your out of high school & do it with someone that respects you & is special...
2006-12-30 15:24:46 · answer #10 · answered by California Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes thats right you are still a minor, and they are only looking out for you because they love you. are you ready to be a mom, and can you take care of the baby without your parents. and the boy is he going to be responsible fot that child. that your carrying. if you are going to do it at least use protection. there is nothing wrong with sex, if your doing it with a person you truly care about. but having good grades and you never got into trouble, does not make it right for you to do it. but your parents are just lookig out for you. so don't be to harsh on them. talk to them. and ask them why they say no.
2006-12-30 15:30:35 · answer #11 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋