my husbands exwife uses thier 7 yr old daughter like bait to get what she wants and to controll my husband.she still loves him after 6yrs and uses any chance to just call him up and chat(daily)she can't stand me,being i married her husband(no he did not leave her for me)and limits my contact with thier daughter(can't spend time alone with her,not allowed in her school)even through the both have joint custody and the list goes on.so please there has to be other people like me in this situation how do you do it?please don't say tell you man to get some balls and tell his ex off becuase he will not.he has allready told me to except it or he is going to divorce me if i bring it up again.i keep hoping she will find someone and leave us alone but shes so nasty no one wants her.
2006-12-30 06:45:14 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My ex wife was the same way with me i had to stop her she was wrecking all my relishing ships . you half to put your foot down you should tell him if he wants her then he should go back with her make him choose you or her
2006-12-30 07:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by spuds36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in your situation and it is really hard. I had so many arguements with his ex...even the one about school. Have you ever stood up to her. Is there something is writing that says you can't spend time alone with her or be in her school? If there isn't, then tell her that. Say look, if you are firm on those demands, you take them to court, Im not married to you, Im married to (whatever his name is) and if he feels there is no danger or harm in me being alone with HIS daughter then I will be. Dont let her dictate your life. Stand up to her or she will keep on going with this. Email me and let me know how it goes. I know that what you are going through is more stressful than your husband will ever understand.
2006-12-30 06:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by shell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your husband enjoys the company of you both and both he and his ex wife have crutches. you need to make the decision to tell him that unless he puts a stop to it, you will leave him!! Either he will put her in her place or leave you and either way, you will be better off. you don't have to put up with a guy like this and if you leave him you will find someone who respects you as a person and not use divorce as a means of keeping you submissive to him!! I don't like the guy just from the little you say and I am not sure you should either!!
2006-12-30 06:52:42 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cannot believe your husband, he said hes going to divorce you if you bring it up. if i were you I truly think and wonder if you really want to married to this guy. He should be taking your side and try to get this matter settled. instead he said cope with it, I'm sorry but you need to let him go. you deserve to find a man that is going to respect you and will be there no matter what, to me he cares more for his ex than you, I'm sorry it seems mean, but it just makes me mad that he can treat you like that. get out of the marriage if he can't support your feelings. good luck and try to have a happy new year and find a great guy that you deserve and its not the one your with now.
2006-12-30 06:51:42 · answer #4 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have fallen into the old trap of a man wanting his cake and eating it too. Basically he has given you no choice but to accept it. But, if you can't live like this then you need to get out and let him and his ex and their child go it alone. I guess it just all depends on how much you care about yourself.
2006-12-30 07:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by sunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your husband is the only one who wants her. So let them have one another and you move onto find someone who respects and loves you. It's clear that your husband does not.
2006-12-30 07:00:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋