alcholics???

Question

Can some 1 help me
My Mum is an alcholic and i dont know what to do?
DOes anyone have an ideas?? she is violent and makes all our lifes a misery. I hate her, can you give me any advise??
Thanks

Answer 1

I'm very sorry to hear of your on going pain.Without going iNTo too much on this web site.There is an answer and the problems your having can and will go away with a little bit of advice.In most towns or cities there is a regular AA meeting.You can go there and ask to speak to one of the members.From then on they will advise you what to do and in some cases even talk to your mum themselves.I bet one million % that your mum would even appreciate the help.Believe it or not an alcoholic often does`nt want to be like they are but are in deniel. Find out when and where the next meeting is and have a chat with someone. you`ll be amazed at there concern

Answer 2

First of all your safety is the most important thing here. Drunks are very dangerous, and you should not be on your own when she kicks off.
1. Call the police if you feel threatened, or you think she will harm your brothers or sisters.
2. Have an exit strategy when her mood starts to turn nasty. Any friend's or relation's houses you could hide out at in an emergency.

This is not a problem that will resolve itself unless your mother seeks treatment, which she is not likely to do without outside help. Have you considered ringing the social services? Their number will be in the phone book, under 'Local Government'. They may take you all into care and get her the help she needs.
Other numbers to ring are Childline (0800 1111 open all day and night but often busy), Alanon (for people who have alcoholics in their family, number in phone book under helpline numbers in the front of your phone book), and the National Violence Domestic Helpline. This last one is meant for adults but is 24 hour and has voice mail if busy 0808 2000 247
A trusted teacher could be another source of help.
No child should have to suffer what you are doing

Answer 3

I'm really sorry that you have to go through this. I don't know how old you are but if you are under 18, I suggest you call a family member and ask to stay with them until your Mom can get some help. This must be hard for you to deal with, but you don't really hate your Mother, do you? No, you just don't like the person she has become and you don't have any way to make her better. The most important thing right now is your safety.

I will pray for you and your Mother.
God Bless You

Remember, there are no mistakes. Everything happens for a reason. Use this experience for good not for bad. You can do it. You are not alone.

Answer 4

Hi there, teggett is right in one way, social services is a good place to contact because under the children's act you are a "child in need" and they are obliged to assist you. He is wrong in another way though, they are obliged under that same law to take your wishes into account and also to try as hard as possible to keep your family together, giving your mum any assistance necessary, including counselling etc. So unless you are in grave danger you do not need to worry about ending up in care by ringing them.. Give them a call, people from AA mean well as do alanon, but they have no statutory power or resources to help you and maintain contact even if your mum refuses to be helped (as many alcoholic people do until they are ready) social services do.
One other thing, there is a lot of hate involved in alcoholism, try to see it as the disease that it is, just because your mum cant fight it (for now) doesn't mean she doesn't want to or doesn't love you

Answer 5

Get in touch with Al-anon (which is for the families of alcoholics)
0r Al-ateen if you are in that age bracket.
You will meet people who understand because they are going through it as well.
If you could persuade your Mum to join AA that would be great....but if not, at least you would get good support.
Your local Salvation Army 0fficers may help also.

Answer 6

I'm really sorry, I don't know how old u r but there are agencies to support families like urself. If you r in Britain there r places such as the youth education service, which r linked to social services.

Good luck Happy new year

Answer 7

Contact AlAnon they are the part of Alcoholics Anonymous that is set up for families and friends of alcoholics. Here's their website

http://www.al-anonuk.org.uk/

Also, is your dad around? Can you talk to him, or any other family member, about how you feel? It is important you get support for yourself as your mother is in the grip of a powerful addiction and probably isn't in a position to care for you very well. I do hope you get some support and I hope things get better for you. xx

Answer 8

This may sound corny, but contact a local Alcoholics Anonymous center. They not only help the afflicted, but their relatives and friends as well. AA can help guide you in the healing process. Good luck.

Answer 9

If you really hate her that much, just turn your back & walk away, but & I suspect this to be the real truth, you know she really loves you deeply & needs help, Take her to your local A.A. meeting & help her to dry out. She will thank you for your love & help when she feels better.

Good luck to you all a happy new year

Answer 10

You need professional help, try ringing alcholics anonymous who will hopefully give you advise on what to do.