I have a friend who's really mean sometimes. I do better then her in school, and for some reasons that bugs her so much that she has to compete with me about everything - she's told me that my boyfriend is ugly and if she got a boyfriend - she has never had one - he'd be more handsome, she always plays out that she's very popular or at least more popular then me, she always brags about her self, and at times says very mean things (that I look awful, that her career is so much better then mine). I always congratulates her when she does well and support her when she doens't. And the thing is, we're in our mid twenties! Now it's gotten so far that she doesn't call me her best friend anymore, I'm just an "aquantience".. However, she does spend a lot of time with me, and wants to "hang" quite often.
I don't know what to think. Is this relationship over or is she just having some kind of phase?
2006-12-30 06:38:11 · 13 answers · asked by xxxSadiexxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
its seems the person u is calling your best friend isnt a best friend would be proud of u if u do good wont say mean things to u like u look awful or anything and it seems that shes jealous of u because u are succeeding thats all learn to look pass people like that.....
2006-12-30 06:42:22 · answer #1 · answered by action tells it all 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure that the relationship is over, I'm sorry. She's obviously jealous of your success, and I'm sure that you're worrying about this quite often. She's a stressor in your life, and it's negative stress. Maybe if you want to salvage the friendship, you should talk to her about it. My best friend and I went through something similar (minus the putting down stuff) and once we talked about it, it was a lot better for the two of us.
Good Luck!
2006-12-30 14:42:42 · answer #2 · answered by _nxeural 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe the reasons why she wants to spend alot of time with you is because she either feels bad for what she has done or she wants to know you more so she can come on top of it to make her better.
My advise to you is tell her what she has done and settle it. Because a situation like this isn't worth losing a friend even if she is mean, because she can always change if you tell her what's wrong.
Best of luck! =]
2006-12-30 14:45:29 · answer #3 · answered by (: 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is jealous..People change , sometimes for good and sometimes for bad.Its not fair on you if she wants to hang just to be mean to you and you shouldn´t have to deal with that. Maybe some time apart will clear the air or it may make you realize that the friendship is not worth it anymore
2006-12-30 14:42:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! you could have been describing my relationship with one of my closest friends! I've found that she's actually very very insecure and was jealous of my confidence and seemingly high self esteem, once I explained to her that sometimes I'm envious of her too, and that her comments were really hurting me we started to get along a lot better
2006-12-30 14:41:50 · answer #5 · answered by nat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she is very jealous of you. That doesn't make for a good frienship. I think I would move on and tell her you don't want to hang out with her anymore. She will just bring you down.
2006-12-30 14:44:17 · answer #6 · answered by doglady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it...she's very insecure and needs to know that you like her for who she is and you're not in competition with her...let her know that her behavior isn't that of a friend and if she continues to want to be around you so she can try to belittle or best you, then she's not someone you care to share your time and life with...
Friends love us and support us...they don't use us to try to boost their own self esteem...
2006-12-30 14:41:37 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is very insercure. I know this is going to be hard but I think you should let her go. Obviously she is envious of you and trys to lower your self esteem to build hers. Shes not a healthy friend to have.
2006-12-30 15:10:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your sister has a great admiration for you. she is seeking for your respect. and she is living under the assumption the only way to get it is to best you at whatever you are doing or engaging in.
and yes, she is having a phase. a phase that can last a lifetime.
or can evolve now.
2006-12-30 14:46:12 · answer #9 · answered by dan g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't imagine why you would want to hang out with someone that treats you like this. She does not sound like she can be a friend to anyone. You don't need this - dump her!
2006-12-30 14:46:48 · answer #10 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋