My ex and my best friend. =(?

Question

So my ex broke up with me right before the dance started, I was in such pain when that happened, and then he slow danced with one of my best friends, and that hurt me more. When I got home I went online, me and him were talking about our problems, but it still bothered me. IT doesn't bother me anymore, but now my best friend that danced with him is goin' out with my ex AGAIN! And I put this in my buddy profile "I get this feeling that when I truely think I love someone They just slip away leaving me with unanswered questions. But then it's all just a blur and I act like nothing happened. But yet I still love him after what he did to me." Some people asked me if that was about my ex, I replied "it's to the people that did that to me." Most of the quotes I put in me profile are about him. I don't know what it means. I mean I hate what he did to me, but I don't know what position I am in right now. Please help.

I've also tried to get over it because it's been since November since me and him were together, and we ended on Dec 15. Ever moment I had with him was amazing, and now there gone. I know I'm not goin' to go back out with him, because that's just another mistake in my life I will make. But I don't know what to ask. Do I still like him? Or am I jelous of my best friend and me ex? I don't know anymore.

Answer 1

First off, your ''best friend'' doesn't seem to believe that you are her best friend, or else she wouldn't have done this to you. She would realize that you are hurting from the break up, and she'd atleast give it time, before making her moves on your ex boyfriend.

Answer 2

I'm incredibly sorry to hear that he did that to you. The lust of love and betrayal of what is good doesn't seem to be rare these days. Your friend really needs to get a reality check and realize that her friendship to you is more important than any guy that walks this earth--- which is the truth.

For now, I would try to slowly build new interests--- even try to meet new people. The best healer in any situation is time. It can change thoughts and mend even the suckiest of events. It's ok to have quotes in your profile... sometimes you need to just say what you feel openly. It's your expression and you should use it.


I'm really sorry about what's going on and I hope that better things come your way.

Answer 3

I empathize with you over the hurting part, but if you were broken up then he, as well as you, had every right to dance with and even date anyone else! Don't blame or hold it against your friend. Everyone was 'free' so there was no betrayal. And I know it's not easy, but you have to realize that even though you may still care for him, evidently he doesn't feel that way about you. I'd be angry with the exboyfriend and feeling sorry for the best friend because more than likely, he'll do the same to her some day. (What goes around, comes around)

Answer 4

Easy, You think you love him because your thinking of the memories of him and what he was to you.But what you should be realizing is that you have let him and your so called best friend walk all over you and they know they have and don't care.Well, why should they if your not going to really stand up for yourself and your feelings by telling them off and letting them be aware of how their actions hurt you?
Girl, In order to get respect in this world you have to respect yourself and expect the it from others.
You sound like a very warm hearted sweet girl which isn't what you need to change. What you need to change is the fact that's the only side in you that your letting be known.I have a good personality and try to be fair and nice to anyone, but I also don't take bull crap from anyone and I don't stand for being miss treated.Just dig it out of you and put it to good use and you will not go through this again.You will have love and respect both!

Answer 5

I think that you are falling too fast and need to work on letting a guy be a friend before anything deeper. this guy sounds like he is trying to get what he can from a girl and your friend is also going to be hurt just like you were. forget him and be thankful you were not hurt more than you were by someone not worth worrying about!!

Answer 6

ur best m8 is in the wrong
i mean if she was a real good m8 she would have seen how miserable he made u and shouldve also hated him
u got to stay strong
slowly cut off connections with ur best friend
if she comes to you then just talk for bit and go away
if u loved him it is gonna be very hard for you and u cant do anythin to erase tht feeling
just try to get another bf to get ur mind off him
STAY STRONG
GOOD LUCK

Answer 7

well girl, i feel you, cuz da same thing happend to me, xcept dat my homegirl didnt go out wit him but did kiss him, after we got on break, its like i write poems and stuff and end up writin about him, and its like as much as it hurt me to find out i still love him for some reason dont kno why., all i can say is dat you just gotta keep strong, girl, everyrthin happens for a reason, and yo girl is messd up for doin dat, but you cant stop livin and be miserable bcuz of somethin dat ppl do to you, anoda thing, stop thinkin about da past, cuz da past is da past you ,cant get do nething to change it but to try to fix and make yo future betta aight. if you want to talk more about it email me, and ill show you some of da stuff i wrote about dis situation,@
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Answer 8

Well i looks like you still love him and want him back.... And one more thing your best friend isn't your best friend... because friends dont hurt friends.... and i think you shouldn't even trust anyone in this position....

Answer 9

ur just hurt b/c of what ur friend & ur boyfriend did to you. talk to your friend. u'll miss the guy for a while, but friends are everything.

Answer 10

My Motto Is----Don't cry over someone that wouldn't cry over you! Also, friends have boundaries, she crossed them.