2006-12-30 05:38:09 · 10 answers · asked by j b 5 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
You first need to get to the root of the problem not by shouting or accusing but by talking to him and asking him questions. Take him away from home to maybe a park, anyplace that you can sit and talk quietly. Find out what he is interested in, what he would like to do. If he does not want to work for someone then maybe he can work for himself be his own boss. If he wants to be his own boss then help him to formulate a plan on how to accomplish his gold. Be patient with him because you may not accomplish this in one day it may take a while but keep at it not all the time still take time out to enjoy each other and have some fun. Constantly looking for a job builds harmful tension and stress, while short recreational breaks bring relief. And remember with kindness, understanding and love, you can accomplish anything.
2006-12-30 06:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by loladrewblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say without knowing more about him and your circumstances. Sometimes the process of job hunting can be rewarding as you have to self asses and actually do a fair amount of decent work in order to be considered.
Are there any specific reasons that he hasn't gotten a job yet? Meaning has he seen a pattern in reasons for not getting an interview or not getting selected? These can indicate areas he needs to work on.
Does he have an updated resume? How are his cover letters? Is he registered with any local job placement agencies? Does he research potential employers? Does he work on interview skills? Does he check monster.com or other on-line resources? Does he network?
Can you work with him on any of the above issues? Practice interview questions with him. Help him design several different resumes that will fit the jobs he's targeting and be sure each cover letter is unique to the company he applying for.
Job hunting is half-art, half-science. A positive, professional attitude is a must. And, you have to be able to accept rejection and use it to fine tune your job hunting skills. I was rejected once because I don't speak Spanish. If I did, I would have gotten the job. They were almost apologetic about it, but really needed someone bi-lingual. I understood, thanked them & moved on.
It will happen. This time period is just the proving ground. Have him make finding a job his current job & apply the same dedication and skill he would to any other employment to the task.
Best of Luck!
2006-12-30 05:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by bionicbookworm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to your husband and find out why he is negative about finding a job. Is it because he is not sure about the type of the job he wants? Is it because he does not want to work ( I hope not)? Or, could it be because he wants to change the career. If that is the case, there are some companies that offer a career finding test that helps people to see what they can be good at and happy.
But whatever your husband goals are in finding the job and working, please try to be supportive and understanding. I know it's not always easy!
Good luck to you and your husband!
2006-12-30 05:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems You are in Touch with Your Husbands feelings , and You appreciate his self of worthlessness,His Confidence has taken a beating , His Life is at a Low ebb , he's lethargic and sayings of " Whats The Point " seem almost frequent. Is he Depressed ? , Does he need to see his GP ? he'll answer No to all of these ...But His Strength lays with You ! [Its Hard Work]..have a look round the sites for info on similar health problems and confidence building , keeping him busy , even with wha may seem mundane or simple jobs is allways a bonus...Good Luck to You Both , My Best Wishes , for 2007
2006-12-30 05:53:27 · answer #4 · answered by geoff a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are you addressing his search? I've been looking for 5 weeks and have turned down one job because it would'nt pay my mortgage. I've got a second offer but may not be able to take it because it requires relocation.
How easy is it to find a job doing what he wants to do? Does he want to do something else? Is he just a bum?
2006-12-30 05:45:53 · answer #5 · answered by sethsdadiam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to want to help him self. Maybe if you started working on a home business and were doing good. He would want to start something for him self. Show him that you have a passion for a business and soon everything will fall into place.
2006-12-30 05:47:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on education and networking opportunities. Subtle hints are good.
Michael
2006-12-30 05:40:08 · answer #7 · answered by PrayerRequestBox 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you guys need extra money for the bills.
2006-12-30 05:45:37 · answer #8 · answered by corkie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him to interviews
2006-12-30 05:39:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oral
2006-12-30 05:51:41 · answer #10 · answered by magalia hillbillies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋