I recently got engaged and when I told my 2 older sisters they were completely negative and it took all the joy out of it for me...
I guess I should mention they are both divorced, so they think mariage is a complete waste of time....But shouldn't they let me experience this for myself? Not all marraiges end!
2006-12-30 05:23:10 · 15 answers · asked by Dee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, you know the way it is.No matter what, people would always rather blame the act of something for the reason they got hurt then the fact it took two people to let it turn bad and fail.
Divorced people are bitter, I know I was there once myself.But the truth is your sisters just may both find true love again and its not for sure but some what likely that when they do and time passes they just may take that leap again themselves.Yes, right now they will deny this but go ahead and let them.
For now girl, just be happy for what you have and want to do, let them sit and rain on their own parade's if they feel like they need to,to get passed their pain.
Just ignore them and consider the source and don't let it get to you so much.
I am sure when it comes to the day you get married, they will be sitting there with everyone else with tears in their eyes and smiles on their faces hoping it all works out good for you.
Take care, And be happy no matter what anyone thinks. Its your life, not theirs!
2006-12-30 05:32:07 · answer #1 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This answer is from a man, so I hope you don't mind!!
They should be happy for you, not negative. Just because they had a bitter taste of marriage, doesn't mean you are going to experience the same result. Don't let their negativity take away from your happiness. There may underlay a little jealousy. You are happy, and they aren't
2006-12-30 05:29:36 · answer #2 · answered by lariat_sonata 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes your sisters are jealous. I'm so happy for you! They may see marriage in a negative light because it didnt work for them. I used to feel the same way. But you have a good guy, and you'd make a pretty bride. Hey....what kind of food you serving at the wedding?
2006-12-30 05:42:50 · answer #3 · answered by -Bibee- 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes they should let you experience this for yourself. But good luck telling THEM that. They are your sisters, and they sound jealous of you, and i don't think you can change their minds. But you can try just telling them from the heart about how you feel, about marriage, and about how they are treating you. I'm sorry your sisters are acting like this. I come from a big family, so i know how sisters can get. I hope they understand and start being happier for you. Good Luck.
2006-12-30 05:30:05 · answer #4 · answered by Stark 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to people who have successful marriages and get advice from them. Your sisters may have mixed feelings about your engagement. They are sad about their marriages not working out and they may be concerned about you. An excellent book that I would recommend for you is "Fascinating Womanhood" by Helen Andelin. If you really love your fiance you need to read this book. Also for your fiance get "Man of Steel and Velvet" by Aubrey Andelin.
2006-12-30 05:34:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy yourself even if someone dosent agree wiht your disision you have to go with whats right sure your family helps you make healthy chices but if there trying to ruin your happiness talk to them about it and let your future husband go in on it too let everyone express there feelings. and trust me of what you told me they like him but maybethey get some sort of
faulse bad sence from you when your wiht him. Talk it out i hope that helped.
2006-12-30 05:27:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they will eventually be happy for you, but yeah, they might just be looking out for you. Try not to take it too personally and ask them why their marriages went wrong, and tell them that you appreciate their concern. If you can make your marriage last, they'd probably be jealous, yeah, but overall happy and maybe a little envious. Who cares, you're right, its your life
Congrats!
2006-12-30 05:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by Hannah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they should let you experience it for yourself. Just because their marriages ended doesn't mean that everyone's will. They are just mad because you found someone special. Don't let them bring you down. Plan your wedding and if they don't want to go then oh well, their loss. Congrats!!!
2006-12-30 05:27:05 · answer #8 · answered by TheRaven_poe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They've experienced something pretty crappy but should let you live your own experiences. Try not to think of it as jealousy; maybe they're just trying to prevent you from commiting what they consider a mistake.
2006-12-30 05:48:37 · answer #9 · answered by Mishee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh c'mon, cant u tell them ur not the only one who gets married, and that today milions of marriages are not ended by a divorce...
2006-12-30 05:35:08 · answer #10 · answered by ♥♥♥shico♥♥♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋