I want to end my relationship of 11 years becuz Im tired of dealing with my bf and his crap. He cheated on me in the pass and lied to me on number occassions. He moved his stuff into my house and then all of sudden just moved out with no reason. But wont return my keys...and also wont tell me were he has moved too. I told him its over and I don't want to see him again. He says that "I'm apart of him and that he'll never leave me alone" Let me tell u we have 2 kids together...so u can say were bonded together for life. But if Im unhappy I deserve to be happy and he don't understand that. He made it clear that he doesn't want another man in my life what so ever and he's going to make sure it'll never happen. He claims that he's the only man for me and it's going to stay that way. How do I get rid of him...he knows how I feel. I can't stand him more and more every day! I even change my locks but he still here...just to see the kids so he says and make mylife a living hell. Help!
2006-12-30 05:22:32 · 7 answers · asked by PrivateWoman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you all who have answered.......
2006-12-30 05:41:07 · update #1
Can you say Stalker. This may be more dangerous then you realize. If married then file for a divorce and a restraining order to keep him away from your home.
If he has visitation with the children ordered then arrange a safe meeting place. (not in your home or his)
2006-12-30 05:26:49 · answer #1 · answered by just_trump_my_ace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through this and here is how I dealt with it. I moved and got a p.o.box for my address and when he needed to see the kids I took them to a relatives and let him pick them up there. I would make sure I was never followed so he could not find out where I was. Get a restraining order - but it really does not help unless you inforce it by calling the police and letting them know each time he breaks it. Always be around friends and family try not to be alone eventually he will stop. I lived in hell with my ex so I know just what you are going through only I think I had it worse mine tried to kill me. Moving away is the best answer. I wish you the best and I hope this helps.... if you need anymore help email me.
2006-12-30 05:31:08 · answer #2 · answered by harleychickfatboy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At this point, your only hope is a good attorney. Be prepared to pay some hefty fees to him/her for this one. It could take a while because you lived together for so long. Depending on the state that you live in, there could be significant "common law" rights for the father of your children.
Interview several attorneys before deciding on one because fees can vary a lot. I suggest a female attorney for your situation, one that will aggressively pursue your best interests and won't charge you an arm and a leg because she is interested in women's issues. And, boy, do you have one.
Considering all the fees and court battles that will probably ensue you had better be sure about completely disengaging from this relationship. If you change your mind somewhere along the path, this could be a very expensive "never-mind".
2006-12-30 05:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This person is determined to make sure you are unhappy because he doesn't know how to let go. The one thing I would suggest is to go to family court and make arrangements so he can see his kids (at a neutral location e.g church , friends, or family).
You obviously, already told this person you are no longer want to be in a relationship. If this person continues to make it a hostile environment for you .Seek support from friends and family (e.g call your brothers to kick his !$!%) If that doesn't work contact the local authorities and let them know your ex is stalking you and obtain a restraining order.
Please try to make this transition as amicable as you can for the sake of the kids.
Just because you have kids by a person that doesn't not mean they own you and have the right to dictate who you should be with.
Good luck I hope you find true happiness with someone who truly loves and respects you.
2006-12-30 05:40:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have thought about this two kids ago. He has a legal right to see the kids if he is helping support them. But, you could make arrangments through the court for him to pick them up and drop them off somewhere other than your home( relative, parents, etc). Then he would have no reason to come to your house. You could get a court order to keep him away.
2006-12-30 05:33:33 · answer #5 · answered by convoiceofreason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the police or something quick. you have a stalker now. you dont need a man that cheats. that is one thing i can not stand is for a man to cheat. get someone who is better than him. he is turning out to be a dirtbag and you can do a lot better with your life. dont let him destroy your life and future because he destroyed his future with you.
2006-12-30 07:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by young grown man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a lawyer and get a restraining order...he is threatening you and you should be afraid....good luck and stay safe
2006-12-30 05:27:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋