Hi, I'm a 35 yrs old gay man who trains daily and I know this trainer who is 18 (the adult legal age here in Colombia, south america is 18) and I like him a lot, but I don't know what to do, we clash often for little silly things, so I know we have the same big tempers plus he's very arrogant, but in the end he's a good person, the point is, I like him and I'm confused. A good friend told me that the trainer and I we'll end together because of the fights, is that cliché true? I don't buy it at all. I don't know what to do, he doesn't know that I like him, I started to analyze how we'll be if we were in a relationship but I'm very afraid to tell him even something, other good friend told me that I have to stop that feeling but at the same time take some risks and be prepared to take a no for answer if I go for it, I'm single for about six years and counting...
No lectures please, only receiving smart and mature advices please..
2006-12-30 05:15:09 · 7 answers · asked by apernett 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
He's not my personal trainer, he's only the only trainer of the gym I go
2006-12-30 05:16:35 · update #1
Didn't I answer this question earlier today?
Preguntale y basta ya!
Enough, Ask him!
2006-12-30 05:19:26 · answer #1 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my first question to you would be this... Is he gay? If not, leave it alone, if so... Go for it, you have nothing to lose as of right now anyway right? I mean, he is only a trainer/friend right now, if you ask him out on a date you don't have anything to lose. I think you should just ask him to work out together sometime first... then after hanging out, just the two of you, maybe ask him on a date, see what he says... I do think you need to prepare yourself for a "no" but there are also a lot of guys out there... Good luck.
2006-12-30 15:03:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your chance of developing a warm relationship with this fellow is about zero. If he is arrogant and combative with you why in the world would you think he might be receptive to your advances. Get a grip on it! Keep looking. You're only looking at heartache and embarassment if you pursue this.
2006-12-30 13:24:13 · answer #3 · answered by Johann 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG IF YOU JUST SAT HIM DOWN ON A QUIET MOMENT AND JUST TELL HIM WHAT YOU THINK OF HIM AND HOW YOU FEEL FOR HIM.I AM 55 AND WAS APPROACHED BY A GUY OF 32:AFTER E-MAILS IM TALKS PHONECALLS AND HUNDREDS OF E-MAILS HE DECIDE IT WAS IN BOTH OUR INTEREST TO GIVE IT A SHOT
I AM HAPPY TO SAY HE WILL ARRIVE HERE 04-20-07.
CAN'T WAIT TO HOLD HIM NEAR TO ME.
YOU GIVE A SHOT MAN:YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE.
GREETINGS:ROB.XXX
2006-12-30 13:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First bit of advice, would be to leave him alone. If he is not gay, then you may hurt his feelings or repulse him, on or the other or both.
2006-12-30 13:28:57 · answer #5 · answered by adiahudo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would but its just me (MY PARTNER IS 41 AND IAM 21)
what the harm? it wont hurt anyone
2006-12-30 13:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, just ask him...
2006-12-30 13:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by agarrison0104 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋