I think Im on the verge of a nervous breakdown. Please help.?

Question

My life has turned upside down. My boyfriend of 2 yrs left me to go back to his life of drugs with a new girl. I admit, he was my life for 2 yrs, and now that hes gone, I have to deal with being on my own. I am trying to move on. I go to the gym, try and make new friends, all my friends have moved away, so Im pretty much alone. Ive joined new activities, new clothes, makeup, trying to change my room around.

My dad is an alcoholic, my mother is scared of her in laws, which makes my life harder cause they only live here 3 months out of the year and they get the 2nd biggest room in the house, while Im 24 and get the smallest.

Im trying real hard to move on, and start a new life for myself. But it seems that its just not working. I go on these dating sites and each person turns out to be a disapointment. I dont want to date anyone yet, just want hope that there is someone out there better than my ex.

I seriously think Im about to lose it.

Oh and yes my 7 yr old dog passed away in Nov.

Answer 1

You need a friend. someone who won't leave you! Some one who won't disappoint you. JESUS

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Answer 2

First of all you need to give yourself some credit,you made it through all of these bad things,and yes you have battle wounds,but you learned so many valuable lessons along the way.Everyone feels like this at some point in their lives,Ive gone through it and still going through it now.You need to take things one day at a time,be thankful that he is no longer in your life,he obviously never valued you anyway since hes gone.Most people do not have good relationships with their family,you are not alone there,realize your folks are just imperfect humans and will never be able to give you the Love you want,instead you need to seek God and feel his love for you radiate within,find your passion and live it,if you begin to get focused on living your life according to your gifts and purpose you will automatically find the right people to enrich it!Remember that no one can complete you or Love you completely,they are only a compliment to you.Happiness is something that comes from the inside you cannot find it by having the perfect people or the perfect life since neither one really exists. Hang in there and know better days are ahead.

Answer 3

Im really sorry for you. Its really lousy to feel this way especially as this time of year makes it even worse - everyone else APPEARS happy and celebrates and you just want to cry.

You should go for a bit of councelling - your nearest Christian church will offer it for FREE.

Until then fill your life with things that make you happy - watch some good movies, read a couple of soppy romances.

Then join your local church, they often have programs for young people, you will meet some people and maybe make some friends. You really shouldnt be mixing with your ex boyfriends crowd if they are into drugs etc. Find some new friends.

Cheer up only 2more days and 2006 will be behind you. Start 2007 the right way - with optimism and a smile (even if its fake to start with!)

Answer 4

Set aside some quiet, undisturbed time for yourself.
Then ask the question:
If noone comes to rescue me, what do I do?
I see in you the glorious emergence of a self-sufficient person, kind of like a chick breaking out of an egg.
This is hard work for the chick, and it is hard work for you, too.
The environment you've been living in has become too narrow for you (obviously!).
You can't live like you've been living, and you're afraid of the New. That's normal and OK. The chick goes through the same feelings, yet comes out a beautiful bird.
Concentrate on having your own job and your own place.
Stay away from the dating scene for a few weeks at least.
Enable YOURSELF rather than looking for a rescuer.
YOU CAN DO IT!

Answer 5

Hold up!! Girl, there is always someone out there better than your ex!! Believe me, I was in the same kind of relationship for 15 yrs. My ex moved clear across the country and is still doing drugs. That was over 4 years ago.

I would recommend going to church, keep your head up and focus on YOUR life. Do the things that you've been wanting to do and don't waste anymore of your time worrying about him.

God Bless and Godspeed!!

Answer 6

You are going through what's known as a rough time.

We all have these.

You say you don't want to date, so don't go to dating sites. Give yourself time.

When you're ready to date, you'll date. Trying to find someone when you aren't interested is silly.

You're 24. No hurry.

You don't say what you do. If you're a student, focus on that. Getting your degree will help you all your life.

If you're working, look into moving out. (Actually, look into moving out either way.)

If you're doing neither, pick one (school or job) and start. (Sign up with temp agencies -- temp assignments often lead to permanent jobs.)

We all go through times when a lot of things go wrong. Over time, things will get better.

There's no harm in seeking counseling to help you through this time (if you're in school, look into what's available to you as a student, if not, there are services that charge what you can pay).

Recovering from loss (both boyfriend and dog) take time.

Distract yourself with other things, and as you feel better, things in general will improve.

Life's a funny thing.

We all go through rough times and better times. You're in one of the lows.

Answer 7

Unless you understand the psychology and phisiology of men & women you cannot end your miseries. Men do not give birth to a children and need not have to bring them up. They are only Biological fathers for a time being. So naturally 90% of men wants fantasy and new adventures from different women. But a woman want a really comforting,caring,admiring,loving man rather than a man who displays 'physical' comforts. She gives secondary importants to 'bodily' things. But He gives first importance.. second importance third importance...to the same x ual things only. You need more care from some one else..which were lost right from your child hood. You have unfulfilled void in your deeper sub-conscious mind. That shall be filled by a real love from some good hearted one. You better go to a good meditation center and go in to your deeper mind. Finally one thing, expect not the real love from others, you become THE LOVE ITSELF, and pour it to others. Sit in silince whenever time avails,and rethink about your mistakes committed in the past in all the said relationships. Food clothes and EXTERNAL COMFORTS are transitory..seek refuge in to yourself. Know that this life is a drama for all..and sooner or later its going to end..and act your part well. Your happiness SHOULD NOT BE IN THE HANDS OF OTHER HEARTLESS BEINGS..and you should not give cords to them to pull and push aside you. Your happiness should always be at your hands! Never read but go through my words slowly and feel it. My blessing is.. God will be always on your paths to guide you!

Answer 8

I feel your pain. Do you have marketable skills? Maybe you need to go to a whole new town and distance yourself from some of the things that are dragging you down. You don't have to abandon your family. Don't worry about men for a while, you're young and have plenty of time for that. Put yourself ahead of anything else. Good luck.

Answer 9

My advice to you is to STOP focusing on dating and START focusing on making your life more fulfilling. Get some counseling that will help you address the issues that have affected your life such as codependency. Once you improve your mental health the rest will fall into place. I was with a drug addict for 10 years and it took its toll... I am so much happier now! I focused on me and my children as well as counseling..later...I met a wonderful man who fits into my life :)

Answer 10

attain out for help previously it receives any worse. Make an appointment at a community psychological well-being facility or the dep. Of Psychiatry at a well-being middle. tell them you at the instantaneous are not doing nicely and choose an appointment once conceivable. i am hoping issues receives more desirable. solid success.

Answer 11

Don't give up. You are 24. It is time to grow up, get a job, and your own apartment. Forget dating sites. Throw yourself into decorating your new apartment. New friends will come to you. But more importantly you will be proud of yourself.