I am 16 and I am sexually active. I feel that I need to see the Gyn. for possible discharge problems and to just make sure everything is normal. I have never been to one and I don't know how to approach my mom about it. I don't want her to find out about me having sex either. What should I do?
2006-12-30 04:57:43 · 18 answers · asked by >**< 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
"Mom, if I had an eye problem, would you want me to see an eye doctor?"
Of course she'll say yes.
"I'm not pregnant, but I need to see a gynecologist."
2006-12-30 04:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are at the age where it is time you start seeing a GYN especially since you admit to being sexually active.
The best way to approach mom about wanting to see a gynecologist is tell her you think you're ready to be checked up on "down there" tell her you have concerns about your vagina and cervics and you want a proffesional to help you out and do a full examination. Any good mother would be more than willing to point you in the right direction and even have a conversation with you about what you may experience in the doctor's office. An annual visit with your OB/GYN is a healthy step in the right direction and nothing to be ashamed of.
My first reaction to you having a discharge problem and the fact that you are sexually active puts me on edge and I sure hope its not an STD. It may be as minor as a yeast infection but you'll have to explain everything to your doctor.
You can ask to be seen privately by a GYN and not have your mother in the office with you but if your mother's insurance is covering your doctor's visits you can't expect she won't know you went to the gynecologist because she will get a bill from her provider or the doctor asking her to pay anywhere betwen 10-30 dollars as a coverage fee.
She will be asking you why you went to see a gynecologist without speaking to her so to avoid an awkward situation you'll need to be upfront and as honest as possible with the woman who brought you into this world.
Just come out and say it!
Good luck!
2006-12-30 05:14:06 · answer #2 · answered by PSItsMe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not you are sexually active, 16 years old is a good time for a complete medical exam. You don't necessarily need a gynecologist, a family practice MD or Nurse Practitioner can perform a PAP test and talk to you about birth control and answer your questions. At 16, your medical information regarding sexual activity is protected and your mother will not have access. I would encourage you to be honest with your mom (I have a 17 year old daughter and wish she was more open with me) you might be surprised - she may be more understanding than you think. If you are still too uncomfortable or she won't let you see a doctor there is always Planned Parenthood.
P.S. Discharge could be a sign of a yeast infection (which has causes that are not realted to sexual activity) or a sign of something more serious. You need to see a healthcare provider soon. Good luck!
2006-12-30 05:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have 'possible' discharge problems, or do you have discharge problems?
If you have discharge problems, that's a good reason to see the GYN.
Tell your Mom you're concerned with discharge problems, and that you'd like to see the doc.
It would be better if you could be honest about having sex, and it will definitely be good if you use protection in order to avoid STD's or pregnancy. You can discuss these things with the doctor.
Try to gut up and let your Mom know you're having sex - if that's at all possible. My Mom wasn't too receptive to the idea when I was that age, so I lied. I'm not giving you the advice to do the same, but not being in your shoes, I can't tell you what to do anyway.
2006-12-30 05:06:27 · answer #4 · answered by flywho 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) Your mum is your best friend...like it or not. She will be there for you and as a woman herself, she will be the best 24 hour advise you can get.
2) Go to the Gyn yourself then. You are mature enough to decide to have sex, be mature about this and walk into a gyn alone or with a girlfriend if need be.
3) If you need your mum to pay for the gyn bills...then technically my dear, you have no business having sex at this age yet. But hey, the world is changing...and your mum would rather know of your active sex life then to be fooled into thinking that you're her sweet virgin daughter.
Approach the conversation with your mum in a friendly manor and she, like all mothers, will be there for you. Trust me, Im a mother. Worst case is we may be angry for a while....and rightfully so, but in the end, she will be happy to know that you can go to her for advise on becoming a woman.
2006-12-30 05:07:12 · answer #5 · answered by Ivy G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're actual, you could have considered a GYN when you began your first era. i'm sorry that your mom has a postpone with you going to the scientific expert approximately this. Now which you're 18, i could pass to planned Parenthood with a chum. i'm no longer a woman, yet i think of you could pass there before you're 18, yet now which you're legally an person you've inner maximum classes your mom won't be attentive to approximately.
2016-10-06 05:23:36 · answer #6 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom was also very conservative. I went to a clinic (planned parenthood) for my first two years. They will not tell your parents and it is affordable for you to go. My younger sister wasn't as worried and just told my mom that she thought she had a yeast infection and then went to the OB/GYN and my mom was fine with that. Either way you go, chances are that your mom's reaction won't be as bad as you think.
2006-12-30 07:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by skittle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you feel you need to have a check up just to make sure everything is okay. Usually women start going at 16 anyways, so she shouldn't be mad about it or anything. It's normal, and you just want to make sure you are healthy :)
2006-12-30 05:18:15 · answer #8 · answered by kasey06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ideally its best to be honest with your mom.....however...
You don't need your mom to make an appointment with a gynecologist or family practicioner, either can do the exam. If you ask them to be confidential, they are legally bound to keep your encounter in confidence unless you are a danger to yourself.
Another popular alternative is to visit a planned parenthood center also sometimes called "womans health center" or abortion clinic, etc. They have Physcian Asistants or Nurse Practicioners who can do the exam, prescribe any antibiotics, do pregnancy tests, give birth control, etc. And they are cheap.
In either case....don't wait, go as soon as possible.
2006-12-30 05:06:21 · answer #9 · answered by Sam 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just be honest. Tell her that you are sexually active and you want to start seeing a guynecologist for a yearly pap and birth control. She'll probably be taken a back at first...but she'll be proud of your being responsible enough to own up and get birth control. Kudos to you.
2006-12-30 08:11:37 · answer #10 · answered by jandis5457 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you want her to know? Are you afraid of how she will react? Believe me, I am a mom and I definitely would want to know. This is an important time in your life and you need to be open with her and she can help you to see a doctor and get some medical care.
2006-12-30 05:01:20 · answer #11 · answered by godsgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋