i need help!!! how can iinteract with my 3 week old!!?

Question

hi!!! thanks for taking tha time to go over my question. I talk to my baby all the time and sing to him, i even found a radio station for babies, sometimes i feel like he gets tired of my and my voice and my face, and the secund issue is that everytime i leave my husband nd the baby alone even for a minute he starts to cry very hard to and i have to stop doing whatever im doing and come back to comfort him, what are some good tips to make my baby feel more comfortable with his dad, ( dad is starting to feel frudtrated and sad to see that he can not spend much time with his baby) thank you for all your answers, have a great day!!!!

Answer 1

This is common for new dads. My husband had a hard time interacting with our newborn son also. There's not a lot they can do, especially if you're breastfeeding. Perhaps you could encourage your husband to give him his bath or change his diapers. In a couple months when your baby starts smiling, giggling etc it will be easier for your husband. There's nothing more rewarding than having your baby giggle at you when you're playing with him.

Answer 2

Keep talking and singing to him. This and reading to him is good to do throughout the first year. Baby won't get tired of your voice or face. He's probably just trying to take it all in. He probably will get tired as in overstimulated easily, so let him sleep when he needs to or you notice the cues. Also, let dad help as much as he can or wants to. Have him read to him, change diapers, or feed him if you are bottlefeeding (some breastfeding moms I know let dad feed pumped milk in a bottle so they can get some rest or so dad can bond). Make sure you (you aready know) and your husband talk in soft, soothing voices, always smile, stay calm, etc even when baby is upset. It will help you both. Sometimes dads can be worried about hurting baby or not knowing what to do, so they may not smile and relax as much as mom, so mom's more inviting (besides the fact that she's often the food source!).

Also at 3 weeks, he's probably more upset with a change in routine or sceneary than it being a case of separation anxiety, so if dad can handle it, try not to come back right away. Give dd a chance to find his way to comfort baby. Or to transition, have dad hold baby and you or both of you talk and sing to baby sometimes.

Good luck!

Answer 3

It could be that dad is uncomfortable when holding the baby, and the baby will pick up on his tenseness. You might try just having dad talk softly to the baby while he is in his infant seat, and once the baby gets use to him, then he can attempt holding him. But babies are a lot smarter than people think, and they learn early that if they cry, mommy comes running. This may also be what he is doing. He is still newborn, and things will get better as he gets older. Just tell dad to hang in there...but remember, babies respond best to softer tones...this doesn't mean you need to whisper, it just means if dad has a loud voice, then this may be startling the baby. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Since you drop every thing for the baby he is more comfortable with you and Dad is a stranger. Babies have to learn early on that they can not have their own way all the time. You should just let the baby cry and finish up your quick chore. Crying may be upsetting to you but it is not going to hurt the baby. Let the baby cry for 3 to 5 minutes and stop feeling so guilty.
I am the mother of 5 children and a grandmother now.

Answer 5

You are the mommy. Your child doesn't get tired of you until somewhere around the teen years. You are doing exactly what you need to do. Sing, talk, touch, cuddle, ect...(and food of course) are all things a baby needs for a while.
Dad should spend time talking and touching him while you are next to them. Lay on the ground or bed and put your child in between. Dads usually bond with a baby much later than the mom. Moms had a head start. Tell dad to be patient. It took me about 5 weeks to start feeling bonded with my son. He's 7 weeks now.

Answer 6

you and the dad need to spend more time together with the baby but let the dad hold him, not you. Babies and moms have a wierd complicated relationship to start off with and the dad is really another person to him, stop running to the dads side and let the dad attend to his needs for a while. just start to show him what to do and how to do it. Some guys really just need to be shown stuff several thousands of times before they can get it. It's all about patience and understanding. But. it will come naturally to you, the dad and the baby. I have also heard that if the dad takes naps with the baby and spends a afternoon with it it helps with the bonding. good luck and congrats on your new born.

Answer 7

You are doing all that you can with your baby right now. The best thing to do is spend time with him and talk to him and let him know you're there to love and take care of him. Keep it up! The fact that he loves you enough to want you all the time shows that he isn't tired of you.

As for your husband and son, that is trickier to solve. Your husband should come play and talk with your son at the same time as you are so that your son will get used to his daddy in a comfortable environment for him. Gradually back out of these interaction times so that eventually it's just your husband and son. Also, at night, have your husband get up and feed/change your son some of the time so that your son gets accustomed to not only his mommy taking care of his needs.

I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 8

If your baby was tired of you, he wouldn't react that way when you are gone. You're his lifeline right now, so it is normal for him to act that way. He heard your voice (and other bodily sounds) for 9 months, and to have you near is a comfort to him. He "can't" get bored of you. Dad should try to also bond with him, talking, singing, rocking, etc. Baby will also recognize dad's voice, but not as well. When my 2.5 week old gets fussy with her dad....I just peak my head in and call her name softly, or say the same phrase (like "it's ok, baby"....or "mommy's here") and she calms down, although I may have to do this a time or two. I encourage baby/daddy bonding time....otherwise I might never get anything done!

Good luck to you!

Answer 9

Relax, at least you are doing the right things. Teach your husband to do what you have been doing.
A baby, at 3 weeks of age, mainly needs; a dry butt, food and sleep. Just have your husband participate in more of the responsibilities; changing diapers and feeding (that is if you're not breastfeeding him). While he's doing his he can be talking and the baby will finally get used of his voice and not cry. A baby needs to hear voices of both parents in order to feel comfortable around them.

Answer 10

please remember, hes only 3 weeks old!!!!!!
you are doing a wonderful job as a mother! don't ever think that he is getting tired of your face and voice, he loves your face and voice, you are his mother!
as for what daddy can do? well, my daughter is attached to me.... very attached, she is almost 5 months old, and i can't leave her with someone else for more than 15 minutes......
I think you should start leaving your son with his father alone for a couple minutes, start showing him at young age. I went back to work after 6 weeks with my first son, and he was very social able and went to anyone and everything, and because i'm not working now, i'm around my daughter ALL the time, she isn't used to anyone else!
so make sure that you let your husband take care of the baby, let you take a long bath, to start out with, have him learn how to handle taking care of the baby, and how to figure out what works best for him.... not copying what you do to comfort the baby.....

speaking of babies crying.... gotta go! good luck!