My best friend just dumped me. At least I thought she was my best friend. We used to talk every day and because she's been in and out of bad relationships most of our talks were about encouraging her and helping her.
She's now dating a guy who's really great and treats her like a queen. But he's given her an ultimatum to either date him or be friends with me. She can't have both. And she chose him.
I'm having a nervous breakdown and on the verge of hanging myself in the shower.
How do I cope with losing someone so close to me? I've never had a friend, or relative or family member, as close as we were.
HELP!??!?!!?!
2006-12-30 04:36:28 · 14 answers · asked by ezoze 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First off it doesn't sound like your friend has it so good. What kind of boyfriend gives an ultimatum between friends or him? AND what kind of girl would actually tolerate this? There is no reason "she can't have both". It sounds like they have the problem not you.
As hard as it is be strong-you will be OK. It will take time to deal with, but realize you will be OK. Focus on day at a time. Occupy yourself with your hobbies and duties. It's normal to feel that way after something like that occurs, but if it doesn't get easier to deal with (the pain will always be there), but if you still have this hanging thoughts please see a psychologist.
2006-12-30 04:44:59 · answer #1 · answered by schmodijodi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 05:00:41 · answer #2 · answered by Jerome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she really were your best friend she wouldn't have "dumped" you for a guy. There is probably a lot more to the story that you were maybe not told. If you guys went through as much as you say and she was a true best friend she wouldn't have chosen the guy. Even if he does treat her like a Queen, a truely nice guy would NOT make her choose between him and her best friend. He would either try to be friends with her friends or just be nice whenever they are around if he didn't like them.
Coping with losing someone that was so close to you is hard. But hanging yourself isn't the answer. Just go out and make more friends. Be happy and keep your head up. Don't let anyone know that you are depressed and are thinking about suicide. Everytime you see her, acknowledge her, say "Hi" let her know that you will still be her friend no matter what. Just don't kill yourself because you don't know what could happen.
2006-12-30 04:48:28 · answer #3 · answered by Renee 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is a bit of a jerk for choosing a guy over a friend, the rule of thumb is never choose a guy over a friend - guys come and go but friends are there forever.
I know it must hurt really badly to be dumped by your friend, I have been in that situation before. Honey it is not worth taking your life over, no matter how bad it might be right now, it will get better I swear. Think about how devastated your family and other friends will be if you were no longer around.
You will make other friends, maybe your friend will realise her mistake and come back to you and if you choose to accept her back as a friend you will need to let her know how much she hurt you and how much the friendship meant to you.
In the meantime, why don't you try out some new things, you might make some new friends in the process.
Hang in there!!!!
2006-12-30 04:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by tammy d 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am speaking from experience when i say - DONT LET THE SITUATION BEAT YOU. This is more than likely something temporary - Think about it: How many times does a friend (of any level) actually break up with a friend over a boyfriend. She is obviously the one who is sooooooooo wrapped up in the "here and now" and not thinking logically. You have nothing to feel bad about - continue being the friend that you are - to everyone you meet. Never let someones else's stupidity break your spirit.
2006-12-30 05:05:02 · answer #5 · answered by litlbigdg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 08:18:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOAH, slow down there, you're taking this way to seriously ok. She obviously did not see you in the same light, or she would have never given in to any kind of ultimatum from this bozo she's dating or anybody else. So ask yourself, do you want to be friends with somebody who would drop you with the wink of an eye? Of course not. You will be fine, and she will regret the day she made this decision. Feel free to email me, i hope i helped.
2006-12-30 04:50:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Since she chose to "dump" you; she was truly NOT your friend.
You would have never done that to her, right? And her bf is a real jerk for making her choose between the two of you. She will find out some that he is being very selfish. I'm sorry that you lost your friend....
Hang in there hon.
2006-12-30 04:43:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the gods were to bless you, start flirting around with her best girlfiend! There's no malice here, you're just trying to make her share your feelings! Of course, I'd be foolish to advise about what happens if the flirtings reach some level beyond dismantling! Do whatever you think's best.
2006-12-30 05:06:07 · answer #9 · answered by ari-pup 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hang yourself. Live to find another best friend, a better one. One that doesn't dump you for a boyfriend. Trust me, you can do better than her. And who knows. Maybe, she will realize how silly she was for dumping you cuz her bf was a selfish jerk who wanted to control her life by telling her who she could befriend.
2006-12-30 04:59:07 · answer #10 · answered by doomonyou! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋