Did you or your cheating lover divorce to be together?

Question

Just curious to see if anyone has ever ended their marriage for someone else. If so, what was the outcome? Was it hard to trust each other?

Answer 1

My father had an affair on my mother with a woman and then sent out divorce papers to my mother.

My mom was happy to get divorced from my father after all the years they were together and it hadn't worked anyway.

My father went on to marry the woman he cheated on my mom with and they are still married, living together, and they appear to be very happy.

My mother is also very happy to be single again and things worked out just fine.

I still think cheating is wrong and you should end the marriage before you cheat and not cheat then end the marriage. But this is just my happily ever after tale of an affair and divorce gone right.

Answer 2

I don't think you will find a cut and dried answer here. From what little I know and see on this message board is many many people cheat because they are bored, in lust, etc., and those situations don't end well. There there is a much smaller percentage of people who truly fall in love with others and follow their hearts. The mother of my oldest friend fell in love with another married man, they left their spouses for each other, and got married and brought together the five children between them. 30 years later they are still in love, still married, kids doing fine. It was hard and the oldest boy was quite unhappy, as was his mother who never remarried, but all of the kids went to college and 4 out of five are in happy marriages today.

I have given this subject alot of thought and I think people need to give a great deal more thought before they get married. I would be all for people being forced to get a psycological make up BEFORE being allowed to get a marriage license! Sounds extreme, but marriage is such a serious institution and so many of us go into it with the best of intentions but we are not ready, or don't really know what we are doing. I wish I had been forced, or had the good sense to see a psychiatrist before getting married because I know now I would have learned that I was getting married for the wrong reasons. And when you get married for the wrong reasons and everyone is unhappy, particularly when there are children involved, none of the options you face are good ones. We can only do our best to minimize the pain.

Sorry for the stream of conciousness here. Just trying to help. Good luck.

Answer 3

my ex ended our marriage to be with the other woman, at first they bought a new truck, started a new business, had a decent place to live, but today i hear they are living in a shack, he is unable to work, i don't know if she is still with him or not. i got a better life with someone who treated me fairly, and life goes on. when the other woman met my ex, he had a nice home, a 10 yr old marriage, so she wanted just what i had, and did manage to win him over, but today he has nothing, in fact he is now living in the same little mobile home from hell i found him in. so i can't see that either of them got what they figured they would get from the relationship.

Answer 4

My ex-husband did it and so did she - but they never married each other as they had planned. Believe it or not - they both discovered they couldn't trust each other. My present husband's ex and his best friend also did it. They did married - but it didn't last but 6 months. Guess what - she caught him cheating on her! It would be very hard to trust the person you had cheated with. After all - if they lied to their ex , why not to you also?

Answer 5

When i was very young my mom cheated on my dad with our MARRIED neighbor. He used to send her love letters and things and i guess it worked. So my mom divorced my dad and married my neighbor, who also divorced his wife. My poor dad has lived alone ever since, for more than 15 years. And he has never been able to trust another woman. But my mom ended up marrying our neighbor (now my step dad) and they have been married ever since. Their relationship is different than when my mom and real dad were together. They fight a lot more, but they also seem to be more in love. I know it is wierd, but whatever. So it worked out for my mom and step dad, but it really CRUSHED my real dad.

oh, i forgot to add, my step dads ex wife is a lesbian, so i guess that is why HIS marriage didn't work out. She is now living with her life partner.

Answer 6

Well I personally wasn't one to do that but my dad and now stepmom of 17 yrs did that. She was my mom's best friend. My dad and now stepmom both divorced their spouses at the time and married each other....like I said they have been together now 17 yrs.

Answer 7

Men or women who cheat are pigs, don't they remember they promised through sickness and health, cheating is a sickness. Are they just motions? Did they mean nothing? Are they heartless? I'll tell you what they are they are LIARS, WORTHLESS, HORRID, RUDE, MEAN, DUMB, BASICALLY A$$;S AND I AM NOT CURSING WHEN I SAY THAT, I AM NOT SAYING IT OUT OF ANGER, I AM SAYING IT AS IN THEY ARE AS STUBBORN AS A DONKEY, AS RUDE, AS PATHETIC, they need to mature and be like their cousin the mules mom or dad which is a horse. Noble, worthy. I think I got a bit off topic.

Answer 8

I'm sorry but this questions sickens me!
Why would you or your partner want to cheat?
if your married!!! i mean come on that's just why did you marry then!

Answer 9

I would never respect a cheater.

Answer 10

My wife did it, and I am also wondering.