Is this normal or am I just over reacting..my husband took two wks off. He's been on online every single day, playing game all day long and getting about 2-3 hrs of sleep. I wake up and he's on the computer, I go to bed and he's still on the computer. He's even gone a whole week w/o taking a shower, and its to the point where I'm telling him "honey please brush your teeth, honey please you take a shower you stink" I understand he's a hard worker-but c'mon thats just over board. Or am I just over reacting?..Please don't tell me that this is normal, or is it? Keep in mind he's not some dude who's in his teens-we're talking about someone who's in his 30's. HELP!!
Thanks in Advance ;)
2006-12-30 04:15:13 · 16 answers · asked by Hyatt A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well he is on vacation, but it is a bit extreme. It's actually not uncommon though, and most folks burn out after a while. So don't get too worried. Unless he quits his job so he can spend more time on the computer lol.
Have you tried offering to take a shower With him?
2006-12-30 04:23:36 · answer #1 · answered by mellokittyx4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a hard worker yes? Well, he goes to work everyday, he is just savoring the freedom, however he should be spending some of this with his wife, his life would be a lot harder without you. You keep the house clean, wash his clothes. Tell him you miss him when he's at work, ask him if he wants to do something together. Don't ask him to sit and talk though, you might start a fight, lol. Just take care of him, make him sandwhiches and be the best wife you can be. Pamper him. I know it doesn't really sound great but working everyday is hard. Love him, the rest will come. Do tell him you would like to go out and eat or see a movie. This is a marriage it is a team effort so you need to make it work no matter what. Don't say that I was just telling you..... lol. Hope things work out! : ) Oh, it's unhealthy get him out of the house and have some fun! Sadly I think you should check what he been doing and see if you can trust him or not. When that comes you may have a whole other question!
2006-12-30 12:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not over reacting. Did this behaviour happen overnight as soon as he took two weeks off work? What happened at work must have affected him to react this way. What kind of reaction did you get when you asked him to take care of personal hygiene? I cannot stand not being able to shower for a day let alone brush after a meal. Confront him what happened to him that made him act this way.
2006-12-30 12:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by capenafuerte 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No your not over reacting. I read this to my husband and he said " take a bath MOTHER F----r. It is nece when your on vacation to relax and do whatever you want, I am. But PLEASE take a shower and give your wife some attention. My question is what he he looking at on the computer all night that is better than getting in bed with you? I would do a little digging on that.And tell him what my husband said.
2006-12-30 12:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IMO NOT Normal or healthy. Spendin time daily on the net is ok,it can be kinda addicting,lol but he's gone overboard for sure. He's a bored man. Maybe drag his butt out and do something fun. Maybe the daily routine has gotton old and he needs spice. The net is the world in our hands,there he can do anything.
2006-12-30 12:20:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Clinical depression should be considered. Not sleeping, being obsessive, not caring about your physical appearance are all classic symptoms. Would he consider seeing a physician? It could be a very temporary thing brought on by stress at work and there are many medications out there that could help get him over this hump.
2006-12-30 12:40:34 · answer #6 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not normal. You need to sit down and have a chat with him that he's way out of control on his gaming. You have 2 options if he doesn't stop. You could take away the games when he isn't near them to get him to understand he's way too obsessed with the stuff, or just simply leave and let him continue to deal with the way he's going in the hopes he'll snap out of it once he sees you're not there to help or to do anything....not good options, but I don't see any other way to get his attention.
Hope this helps,
JH
2006-12-30 12:21:13 · answer #7 · answered by JH 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd check the computer perhaps he is on a chat room in between palying games or perhaps he has got addicted to answering questions on here. Is he asleep now is that why you are able to ask your question?
Kick him into touch and get him to give you some attention
2006-12-30 12:30:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have a problem with it except the shower part.
Tried enticing him to bed? ;)
Suggested going out to a movie/dinner/etc?
Give ideas instead of just watching the back of his head :)
2006-12-30 13:10:51 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 35. I would say he is playing either World of Warcraft, or Everquest.
Yes it is normal. That is what I do when I have lots to think about.
This too shall pass.
2006-12-30 12:29:51 · answer #10 · answered by Xxar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋