What qualities do i need to become a "good black man"?

Question

I attend church regularly, I have a Bachelor's degree, I have no children, I have never been to jail, I have a job, and I am 22. The black women I have dated say that I act too "white" for them. What exactly is a good black man?

Answer 1

Oh boy this should be interesting. There is NOTHING wrong with you. Those Black women who say ignorant stuff like that DON'T need a man period. I get so sick of people stereotyping how a black man should be (i.e. gangster, hustler, pimp). We women need more "black" men like yourself who are responsible & are comfortable in their own skin. Have a great day & I hope you will find a woman who appreciates you for YOU.

Answer 2

What you are my friend is a good contributor to society. It's not an issue of black or white. You are a "good man", period. If the women you date say things like you act "too white" then they have a problem. You are a prime example of what happens when you apply yourself and do not get caught up in the "what are you gonna do for me?" crap that so many of our people in our society seem to cling to these days. I believe that you will go far. Keep up the good work. You ARE a responsible citizen.

Answer 3

I have a dear friend I'd like to introduce you to. She is Black and hears the same thing all the time. She has a vast vocabulary, is very well read, is middle-class, and despises the speech and life-style she calls "ghettoese". Give it a little more time and stop defining yourself as a "Black man". You are a man, and it seems to me that you are living as any good man would. I have found in my life that people (family, co-workers, friends) that are on a lower rung of the socio-economic ladder feel more comfortable if I am down there with them. It never occurs to them to rise up to where I am. Give it time and Good Luck to you...

Answer 4

It seems like you already are.....but to stay this way I advise you to always stick with a job. Stay out of prison and set goals for yourself in life. I think that those black women your dating just can't keep up with you and that's probably why they say you act too white...which is ridiculous. If I were them I'd stick with you because it's hard to find a good black man!

Answer 5

I'm sorry women you've dated say that. Maybe they're only into the gangsta, low jeans wearing, swearin', gone to jail, drug pushers that the media hypes as the black stereotype. I'm sure there's some black gal out there that wants a good guy, or maybe you should switch markets and try dating outside the culture.

Answer 6

You need to date more mature women, ones can appreciate your qualifications and accept you for who you are, You are a responsible person.

By saying that you act too "white" for them does that mean to be black and accepted you have to knock them up and leave and act like a thug. If that is the case you need to look for a lot better women.

Answer 7

Sounds like you already are, to me. If the women you are dating say you're too "white" they have bought in to the 'black culture is trash culture' way of thinking. Keep looking. You will find one with a brain.

Answer 8

Date a better class of women for starts.

What makes a "good black man" depends on the society you wish to live in.

I grew up with the notion that what makes a good black man is:

Honesty
Intelligence
Humility
Courage
A sense of humor
Solid goals
A good work ethic
A good sense of self

Answer 9

Noyt being black. just being a good man and ignoring anyone of the fools who puts you in a position where you have to ask such a question.

Answer 10

Ask that woman, how he defines what a "good black man" means to her, and see if you want to be that person.

NEVER let someone define who you are and should be. YOU define who you are, and who you want to become. Besides, why don't you become a good man, not a good man. It appears you already are a pretty good man...